We answer your questions and we were asked what we personally look for in a swingers club. Note: This podcast is based off a video we did for our Vlogs on our website
We travel all over the nation for Tom’s Trips, your Leader in Adult Lifestyle Travel and one of the greatest part of our job is that we get to attend some of the most amazing Consensual Non Monogamy Swingers Lifestyle Clubs and the clubs that stand out from the rest we like to capture on video to give our audience a look inside these amazing clubs before they attend their events. Recently we were asked what we personally look for in a lifestyle club when we attend as a guest and we thought, what a great question! We don’t review clubs, but we can tell people what appeals to us personally when we want to go out for a night or weekend. We hope you enjoy this podcast.
Leave a comment below and tell us your thought on this subject, have you ever been with someone who was fresh out of the shower or have you been with someone that had the smell of funk all in their crotch area? we want to know! Post below.
Swinging with a couple and excited for round two, is there more to it or just hype?
We talk about avoiding meeting other couples or singles in hopes that the one couple that you played with will play in round two. We discuss how we also wanted to play with couples multiple times and like everything, life takes you on twist and turns and why we are often one hit wonders with most of the people we play with. We give our honest opinion of putting all your eggs into one basket and having blinders on about meeting others because you had a great first encounter with a couple only to find that the second encounter was not all the expectations were going to be and the awkwardness of many second chance play situations.
People always have a misconception of why people would think of ever getting into the swinging lifestyle, with over 23 years in the lifestyle we discuss our opinions of why couples turn to swinging. Please comment below your thoughts!
People often expect to just get into the swinging lifestyle and people are going to just want to approach them and have sex with them all over the place, the fact is, most of the time it is the couple’s responsibility to insure they are meeting people and create their own fun. Watch out video and we explain our thoughts on this. Please comment below your thoughts!
If your planning to attend a Lifestyle event, Hotel Party, Swingers Club, Meet n Greet or a Swingers Convention, don’t go unprepared! Make sure you have a play bag ready just in case. Please comment below your thoughts!
If you are going to Lifestyle events or parties and you feel that nobody wants to talk to you or you leave feeling frustrated because of all the cliques, this video is for you. Please comment below your thoughts!
Hello Tom and Bunny, We are a very new to the lifestyle and we are really wanting to make this work for us. The problem is that we are both very shy. We have recently been frequenting a Swingers Club in our city but we don’t know how to approach people. There seems to be a lot of “cliques” in the club and we would really like to get to know some of these couples but don’t want to get turned down. What is the best approach to meet couples and feel like we fit in with the regulars at the club? S&J
Hello S&J, We have seen your situation throughout out travels and many clubs do an incredible job at making their members feel welcome as well as making introductions. while there is no way to avoid notion of cliques at clubs, however those cliques are mostly just good friends who have forgotten that they themselves were new once and that they have just gotten comfortable with the friends they have made. The problem is, they don’t make themselves inviting for couples to approach on an outward appearance, however trust us that if you approach people regardless if they are in your perception of being in a clique or alone, they honestly are looking to meet new people too and most often will welcome you with open arms. We just had this conversation this past weekend where a couple told us that they were actually wrong in thinking that just going to a club that people would be swarming them to get at them and quickly realized that they had to be the people going up to others and make introductions. We suggest that you have confidence and just walk up to the party tables and tell them that you have been watching them and you want to party with them because they look like they are having so much fun! (everyone likes to have their egos stroked) you can also talk to the club host and ask them to make introductions between you and couples they feel you would have more in common with, your club host typically knows alot of details about their members just by observing and getting to know others, another source would be the Bartenders! if your club has bartender, they are going to know everyone! The bartenders are great at making introductions, they know who the party people are, the people looking for more intimate conversations, the ones who dance etc… if given enough information about yourself to them they could almost play matchmaker! As for rejection, that is part of the swinging lifestyle, don’t take it personal if you are not someones cup of tea or match, accept their rejection as a positive and learn what works and what doesn’t when approaching couples. Just because a couple rejects you sexually doesn’t mean they dislike you personally and can’t introduce you to someone who they know might be a better fit. Above all, our best suggestion would be treat everyone positive, regardless how you personally feel about them for the next couple you may be interested in may very well be close friends with them and depending on how you radiate yourself to them is how they will recommend you to their friends. We hope this helps. Tom and Bunny