We recently attended Club Trapeze in Atlanta GA and we were approached by a very nice, well groomed and well spoken younger single male who wanted to thank us for a video we had done on our YouTube channel about Swinging with the Single male, he wanted to let us know he followed all of our advice and has so much success it’s almost unreal. Listen to our podcast and we will put the video below.
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Today we discuss the Bait and Switch in the Swinging Lifestyle.
We have been in situations where you think you are on the same page as the couple you plan to play with only to find out after you are in the middle of the action they have different plans. Listen to our Podcast about Bait & Switch.
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Dear Tom and Bunny We have been fans for a while and we watch all of your videos because not only do we find them informative but the way you both interact is entertaining and wanted to thank you for doing them. We have recently started going to clubs and we have not approached anyone because, honestly we are afraid of being rejected. We went back through your videos but we don’t recall anything be about how to handle rejection, but we do have a personal question for you both. Have you two personally been rejected? and if so, how did you handle it? Can you still be friends with someone who rejected you? T & P
Dear T&P, Thank you for watching our videos, we enjoy doing them and we are glad you find our interaction entertaining. To answer your question, Yes we have been rejected many times, it’s just how the lifestyle is. Does it hurt our feelings? to be honest, yes it does, but we also know we are not going to be someone else cup of tea. There are so many variations when two couples meet up, so many that we say there is a 75% chance nothing will happen because it only takes one to say no. From our personal experience and we will assume many are like us, not all but many. We obviously look for a physical attraction with potential playmates and if we don’t have a physical attraction we will see if a mental attraction develops because honestly, more times than not for us, people we have played with from a physical attraction wasn’t as good as playing with someone who we have developed a mental attraction with. if we have either of those two and we feel the other couple is feeling something like we are, we might step up and ask if they are interested in taking things further and we know that’s a bold step because we are opening a door to rejection and we all know that never feels good. If we are rejected, we won’t lie, we go into a fetus position and cry it out for a while, maybe even kick and screen and whine wondering what was wrong with us! OK, we lied, we don’t do any of that, but we do understand that if you don’t ask you won’t know and if you wait for the other couple to ask, they may never ask themselves and at least we know where we stand. Can we be friends with people who have rejected us? Absolutely we can, this lifestyle is a small community and we are here to meet people, chances are high that because one couple rejected you or should we say not interested in playing with you, doesn’t mean they can’t be friends with you and even better, know someone you may be more compatible with that you yourself find just as attractive either or both physically or mentally. There is currently a lot of topics we are seeing about rejection and how people handle it, everyone handles it differently however those who can take those rejections and grow from them will have a lot more fun in the swinging lifestyle.
While we were at the Tom’s Trips Ms No Swim Suit Contest at Hedonism II Resort in Jamaica we were able to talk to Latonja from Adult Alternative Lifestyle. We discuss the competition, the girls and her facebook style for adults and the swinging lifestyle. Be sure to sign up on her website today at www.adultalternativelifestyle.com
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So recently we have been getting a lot of request to join chats using the App KIK and we are finding that people don’t actually know how to have a conversation anymore. On this #Podcast we discuss the pains of trying to induce conversation with people who actually requested us to chat with them to only get replies such as “OK” “Where you at?” “Whats Up” do people know to type more than two words or two letters anymore? While this is a Rant, it is kind of funny and we don’t take it personal.
So we are Going back to Hedonism for Ms No Swim Suit with Toms Trips and we are so excited to be part of this wild and crazy event. We have been going to these events for the past 8 years and it’s one of our DO NOT MISS events. Entertained by the very professional entertainer of the year 3 times Mr. Mark Maze and his beautiful wife Terri make this week a staple for the 20 Tom’s Trips group events hosted every year. Listen along with us as we talk you through what you can experience going to a Tom’s Trips Ms No Swim Suit Contest. If you are a club and would like to be considered, send us a message on our Contact link on our website.
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We all know that relationships stall and you become comfortable, we see this both inside and outside of the lifestyle and we feel that this is one of the causes for failed relationships. You got together because you were sexually attracted to each other and after several years you stop fixing yourself up or dressing up for your significant other but you do when you go meet others? Take time and make an effort for the one that you love.
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This is a sore subject. Most everyone will experience some sort of drama in their lifetime. Why bring it into your swinging lifestyle?
As former club managers we had to deal with all types of people and issues. Sometimes it is not an easy task. There is always going to be groups of people. This all started back in elementary school and proceeds into adult life. You have your cool kids, the jocks, the nerds, the bullies etc. We all know this and yet, we seem to bring it into our adult life. And yes, it carries into the Swing Clubs, Meet and Greets, Vacations, Websites and it seems like the worst of it is on Social Media. Try not to stick with just one group of people. Venture out of your comfort zone and go meet all the people you can no matter who they are. You never know, you could always end up really liking the band geek flute player.
We all have issues in our lives that we deal with on a daily basis and we want to go out on the weekends to have fun and escape the daily grind of our home and work life. Everyone likes to cut loose, dance, and have a great time. And a lot of us who are swingers like to meet and play with other like minded individuals. What everyone needs to remember is that we were all born the same way. No one is better than the other. It does not matter who you associate with, how much money you have or what body type you have. Were all in this for the same thing: To have fun and meet great people.
If you hear something from someone keep it to yourself, it may or may not be true. Wherever there is a gathering place with people there will always be rumors. But, that is where the issue should stop. Our advice is to go out, have fun, let all negativity roll off of you, don’t take sides and meet at least 3 new couples a night. This will make your lifestyle experience better for you and all you choose to meet.
Talk about an epic weekend! Tom and I had such an amazingly fun time this past weekend. We have hit the road again promoting Toms Trips adult travel. We were invited to attend the CouplesXcape 1st annual Tutu run in no other than the funnest place in the South, Bourbon Street in New Orleans Louisiana.
Friday night was the first party of the weekend and we all went to Colette Club. Colette is an on premise Swing Club located in Downtown New Orleans just a few blocks from Bourbon Street. It is a great club that offers so much for Swingers of all levels. We did a video tour of the great club last year and you can see that video right here, on our website. The evening was full of fun and laughter and we met so many new people as well as got to know some of our other friends much better.
Saturday, Oh Boy, Saturday! Well, this day started off early as we all met at 10:30am for Mimosa’s and pictures. This was the 1st annual TuTu run for CouplesXcape and did we ever leave our mark on the town. I came dressed in a Superman dress with pink and black tutu along with my bunny ears and I was “Super Bunny”. Tom had on his riddler shirt which said “What is white on top and black down below?” a green riddler cape and of course a green tutu. The costumes and tutus that people put together were so much fun and some were very, very sexy! You swingers sure know how to dress for a party.
I think the highlight of the day was when I was convinced to ride the bull at Bourbon Cowboy. I have been there so many times and have never even thought about it. Well, after a little (lot) of alcohol, I did it! Wow… do you know how hard that bull is to get on? That was the hardest part, but I mounted that bull like I mount Tom every night. Luckily I am a female so they take it easier on the women that they do the men. I did realize that I am a little older and more out of shape than I allow myself to believe. Geez, did my arm hurt the next day!
After the day of debauchery and getting dinner and a nap it was time to start all over again. It was a dress sexy night and there were so many sexy women and hot men. Tom and I worked the evening at the Toms Trips table where we met even more couples and we gave out a voucher for 2 free nights to Hedonism Resort in Jamaica as well as Kasidie memberships and other prizes. A little later in the evening Bob and Tess from Naughty in Nawlins came in to party with all of us. They are such a fun couple and they party on the best Convention! You all definitely need to check out the Naughty in Nawlins Convention this summer. We finally ended our weekend at 3:30am after many, many shots of Fireball.
We would like to thank Richard, Danielle, Bobby and Jamie who run CouplesXcape for putting on such a fun event. We will be back next year for this incredible event.
