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How to message people

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How to Message people with TomandBunny

We all get those annoying unexpected DM’s and Messages with absolutely no content that are so vagues that you just can’t find yourself responding to! Today we discuss our opinions and offer a few suggestions on how to actually message or DM people.

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Smoking – Bad Breath and Body odor with TomandBunny

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Smoking – Bad Breath and Body odor with TomandBunny

Today we talk about meeting people who are smokers, have bad breath or body odor and how do we get out of a situation that may become offensive to the other couple. We are a couple in the lifestyle 30 years and Tom is a previous smoker and discusses this in the podcast and while at it we talk about bad breath associated with smoking and body odor also associated with smoking…. or not!

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Stop ignoring your spouse at lifestyle events

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Stop ignoring your spouse at lifestyle events

We see a lot of times where one half of the spouse is so into the lifestyle they forget they have a spouse with them and focus all their attention on the new friends. We want to remind everyone that this can be a very dangerous route and you should never ignore or forget that your spouse is with you.

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Transcript

00:00:00:00 – 00:00:15:22
Tom
Hey, everyone. We’re Tom and Bonnie, and we got Bama here. Bama wants her stuffed animal. Hold on. Right here. Let me get her. If you’re watching this on YouTube, this is Bama. Bama bear right now.

00:00:15:24 – 00:00:18:04
Bunny
She doesn’t know that we have to work.

00:00:18:07 – 00:00:49:11
Tom
So we’re Tom and Bonnie from Tom and Buncombe. And if you are interested in pineapple topics, check us out on YouTube and on podcast on all the major podcast sites. Tom and Bonnie. And if you can, follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Tom and Bonnie and we work for Tom’s troops.com cheerleader and adult lifestyle travel to destinations all around the world with cruises, resorts and events.

00:00:49:14 – 00:01:08:18
Tom
We asked if these videos help you and we’ve done a lot of videos. If these videos help you, please help us by booking any of your trips with Tom’s trips, because this is how we get paid to do these videos. It cost you nothing and oftentimes you save money booking with Tom’s trips. Yes.

00:01:08:23 – 00:01:16:16
Bunny
And even if, you look at and you say, oh, well, they don’t have a group that week, I can still book you. Yes. If it’s available online, I can book it for you.

00:01:16:16 – 00:01:28:21
Tom
Yep. We can book hedonism all year long and we also book Desire and Temptation, as well as The Bluest blessed Desire and Temptation Cruises. Yes. And Nadia Nolan’s.

00:01:28:24 – 00:01:31:13
Bunny
Of course. And now splash parties.

00:01:31:16 – 00:01:37:00
Tom
And splash parties. So today’s topic is.

00:01:37:02 – 00:01:38:21
Bunny
Help you stay out of the doghouse?

00:01:38:21 – 00:01:47:04
Tom
Yeah, stay out of the doghouse because, Bunny, she brought this up a couple weeks ago.

00:01:47:07 – 00:01:54:04
Bunny
I brought it up and several months ago when I was first approached. I mean, we’re approached a lot with different things.

00:01:54:04 – 00:02:01:09
Tom
So let’s give the scenario what you’re up. I mean, what we’re saying is neglect.

00:02:01:11 – 00:02:11:07
Bunny
Yeah. Yeah, it is neglect on your spouse. Yeah. So basically what’s have basically.

00:02:11:09 – 00:02:13:12
Tom
Well what’s what’s written down up here.

00:02:13:12 – 00:02:20:18
Bunny
Let’s just start when you’re getting ready to go on lifetime vacation, to one of the great events.

00:02:20:18 – 00:02:21:05
Tom
The club.

00:02:21:05 – 00:02:36:22
Bunny
Even a club or a night out with another couple or a single, you want to talk about possibilities of scenarios, so you want to know where your partner is in line with you.

00:02:36:22 – 00:02:38:13
Tom
And where your boundaries are.

00:02:38:17 – 00:02:43:01
Bunny
You don’t want to be ten steps ahead of your partner.

00:02:43:03 – 00:02:46:24
Tom
And you got to make sure that you both like without.

00:02:46:24 – 00:02:48:00
Bunny
Your partner knowing.

00:02:48:02 – 00:03:24:21
Tom
Without your partner know. Yeah. Oh, our previous video, we talked about our boundaries and, we started off with a book of rules of what we couldn’t do. And then we created boundaries based on our actual real life experiences and activities because we talked about each scenario. Even still today, 20 some years later, almost 30 years later, we talk about every scenario as if it were a first time scenario.

00:03:24:21 – 00:03:57:15
Tom
And we want to know what we liked about it, what we could have done better. Yeah, to make it even more fun. But and then not a requirement is if there was anything we did not like about the scenario, we would either discuss it out our adopt a boundary about it. One of our boundaries is, is we keep an eye on each other during the whole socializing to play all the time.

00:03:57:19 – 00:04:17:17
Tom
Not that we’re watching each other like a hawk. We’re watching to make sure that we’re all on the same page. We’re having a good time. If someone’s not having a good time, we can pick up the cues. That goes for either me or me, our buddy. I won’t be here, buddy. So.

00:04:17:24 – 00:04:31:10
Bunny
And and that even that even goes for the other couple. If if I’m seeing something that, you know, one of them isn’t feeling it or feeling clicky, I will even say, hey, is everything okay?

00:04:31:13 – 00:04:56:23
Tom
I’ve seen buddy, I’m struggling. And Bonnie’s called the wife over because we we all know each other’s buttons to push. And there are times of emergency where somebody is trying their best, but they’re not just making the grade. And sometimes it’s the spouse that gets them over.

00:04:56:25 – 00:04:59:17
Bunny
Yeah. Absolutely. And I’ve done it for Tom before many.

00:04:59:17 – 00:05:00:16
Tom
Many times, many.

00:05:00:16 – 00:05:06:17
Bunny
Many times I’d be like hold on let me, let me help you here. You know, let let’s get him back to where he needs to be.

00:05:06:19 – 00:05:30:24
Tom
Well, because I like with any new people, they don’t know my buttons and therefore I may not really care for what they’re doing to me. And then finally, I’ll say, hold on, let me show you a couple things. Not that we the whole point of the pineapple lifestyle is to experience different types of, experiences.

00:05:30:26 – 00:05:31:13
Bunny
Right?

00:05:31:13 – 00:05:36:11
Tom
And then hopefully we’ll be that, lead off of that and bring it home with us.

00:05:36:12 – 00:05:49:01
Bunny
But we also know that, that when guys aren’t feeling it, that, it tends to. Deter the, the play situation a little bit. So sometimes you need help.

00:05:49:08 – 00:06:14:11
Tom
So one thing that buddy’s been getting a lot of comments on, I haven’t gotten on, but they’ve been coming to funny is a lot of frustrations where their spouse is more into to the other person and not caring about their feelings. Are there at the time level? Yes. Of security.

00:06:14:11 – 00:06:15:08
Bunny
Correct.

00:06:15:10 – 00:06:16:11
Tom
Or safe space?

00:06:16:11 – 00:06:16:22
Bunny
Yeah.

00:06:16:22 – 00:06:19:10
Tom
So like I love using that word.

00:06:19:10 – 00:06:40:26
Bunny
Now this is and I actually have seen it. Yes, I seen it just recently on, on a chat where, one of the, spouses was texting back and forth too much. And even though he was asked to stop, even though he was asked to stop, he still hasn’t.

00:06:40:28 – 00:06:44:14
Tom
And that is that the one where they have a group chat?

00:06:44:18 – 00:06:45:03
Bunny
No.

00:06:45:03 – 00:07:11:11
Tom
Oh, so I saw one today where they have a four way group chat. Our three way group chat. Because it’s, single female and the husband is they were private messaging at first, and then when they started to make plans to meet up, they then added his wife into a group chat. And so that way she was aware.

00:07:11:11 – 00:07:31:12
Tom
So that way, when the husband went out on a date, she was aware of all the plans and everything. Then she found out that they were texting the husband and the other girl, still privately and excluding her. Now we would have a major issue. Oh yeah, one of us did that with the other.

00:07:31:14 – 00:07:36:28
Bunny
And and for me, I mean, for me, that’s just another form of cheating. And I.

00:07:37:04 – 00:07:38:16
Tom
Well, in our eyes.

00:07:38:18 – 00:07:43:29
Bunny
Because it’s a mentally. It doesn’t cheating doesn’t have to just be physical.

00:07:44:02 – 00:07:45:03
Tom
Right.

00:07:45:05 – 00:08:02:00
Bunny
So and I am seeing the lot in and it’s not people that have been in this life for a long time. It’s most of the people that are just starting because they’re so excited and they’re, they’re jumping in with both feet and they’re forgetting that they have a partner with them.

00:08:02:03 – 00:08:03:13
Tom
Right.

00:08:03:15 – 00:08:08:29
Bunny
So they’re like going forward and then they’re like, oh, crap, I pissed off my partner.

00:08:09:06 – 00:08:38:19
Tom
Well, without saying any names, we we seen it happening at hedonism with a couple where they weren’t even together. The female brought the guy and the guy was just bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam bam. And it kind of created a wedge because she didn’t feel included in any of his stuff. So, I think she brought the wrong person.

00:08:38:24 – 00:08:40:25
Bunny
Oh, and that happens. That happens. So he’s a.

00:08:40:25 – 00:08:41:23
Tom
Nice enough guy.

00:08:41:23 – 00:08:54:25
Bunny
But but but the fact is, is if you’re married or you have a spouse or a partner or anything, you need to include them in your train of thought.

00:08:54:25 – 00:08:55:13
Tom
Right?

00:08:55:18 – 00:09:06:14
Bunny
So I always, you know, the best thing is, is to talk about scenarios like, if you’re going out to a club, kind of think about what might could possibly happen.

00:09:06:19 – 00:09:27:14
Tom
I mean, you don’t have to overthink it. No, I always say go to the club with the anticipation of nothing’s going to happen except just you and your wife or you and your husband, depending on who’s watching this video, just going and having a good time with no expectations. And if something happens, be prepared.

00:09:27:17 – 00:09:43:12
Bunny
But that’s where I’m saying I know you need to discuss those scenarios. You say we’re going to go have a good time, but if this happens, do we want to go forward, right? How far do we want to go? You need to have those already kind of in your little guideline.

00:09:43:13 – 00:10:00:19
Tom
I know, like, if a single hour couple, What are the signals if we’re not interested and one of us isn’t interested? I mean, always be aware of your partner’s feelings before anybody else’s, right?

00:10:00:19 – 00:10:31:07
Bunny
So one of the scenarios that I had is, there was, a for some going on and every and three of them seem to be having a good time. And the one was just kind of standing out on the outside because he didn’t really know how far it would go and how far he could go. And his wife was having a great time, and then he decided to have intercourse with the other female.

00:10:31:07 – 00:10:32:23
Bunny
And his wife freaked.

00:10:32:23 – 00:10:33:13
Tom
Freaked.

00:10:33:16 – 00:10:34:16
Bunny
Freaked.

00:10:34:19 – 00:10:34:27
Tom
Out.

00:10:35:03 – 00:10:45:20
Bunny
So she was like, no, you were not supposed to do that, right? It was. And it was basically implied it was going to be all about her. But he didn’t know that.

00:10:45:22 – 00:10:48:19
Tom
Well, I mean, I want it to be all about you, but I want to be included.

00:10:48:22 – 00:10:55:17
Bunny
I know, I know, but two days later, she still was not speaking to him. Wow.

00:10:55:19 – 00:11:29:14
Tom
And with that, I and I was telling Barney, you know, the a lot of people do videos TikToks podcast that the pineapple world is less divorces than any other field or any other lifestyle. But first off, there are no statistics. Not one single statistic out there goes specifically out pineapple people. Did you get divorce? Yeah. Okay. Then boom, right?

00:11:29:22 – 00:11:30:16
Tom
No, seriously.

00:11:30:16 – 00:11:31:05
Bunny
I know, I know.

00:11:31:06 – 00:11:57:01
Tom
They claim that they know these statistics out there and there are none. So the fact is, is we ran a club for 20 years. We saw a lot of divorces. Was it because of the lifestyle? Who knows? Who cares? The fact this is we’re thinking that if they did get a divorce, a lot of it was probably just they couldn’t communicate with each other.

00:11:57:03 – 00:12:09:25
Bunny
That’s exactly what it was. Could they even, you know, he was like, every day, come to me and talk to me. And I’m like, you need to talk to her. She’s not talking to me. Well, that’s part of the problem. Because if.

00:12:10:02 – 00:12:11:09
Tom
You’re huge problem.

00:12:11:09 – 00:12:18:04
Bunny
If you’re pissed off at your spouse or your partner, you need to communicate, not just sit there and.

00:12:18:06 – 00:12:26:02
Tom
And guys, take this as a hint. Don’t get so pissed off. You leave your wife at a resort or no by herself.

00:12:26:02 – 00:12:26:22
Bunny
Oh my god.

00:12:26:22 – 00:12:46:06
Tom
Because revenge is real. It’s big. We’ve seen guys get pissed off at their girl leave thinking they’re going to be all macho, and she’s going to come running. Hell no. We seen the girl bang the entire club. And then go home and tell him all about how he screwed up.

00:12:46:08 – 00:12:47:02
Bunny
Yeah. And then.

00:12:47:02 – 00:12:48:04
Tom
They’re divorced.

00:12:48:06 – 00:12:49:26
Bunny
Yeah.

00:12:49:28 – 00:12:54:27
Tom
I’m not laughing about the divorce. I’m not saying it’s just part of life.

00:12:54:29 – 00:12:58:26
Bunny
Well obviously if he left her at the club he left her before.

00:12:59:04 – 00:13:24:04
Tom
Right. And also be careful about fantasies of like having your wife do all these guys, because sometimes the wife can reset you. In the beginning she might be submissive. It might be kind of for it worse. Yeah.

00:13:24:07 – 00:13:31:14
Bunny
But but if your partner says, hey I don’t like this or I don’t want to do this again.

00:13:31:16 – 00:13:33:29
Tom
Everything don’t stop until you talk about it.

00:13:34:00 – 00:13:42:01
Bunny
Right. Don’t try to convince. Don’t try to push the subject, especially that night or that weekend.

00:13:42:03 – 00:13:44:26
Tom
Sorry, I’m looking for our dog.

00:13:44:29 – 00:13:55:21
Bunny
If somebody says that they don’t like something now, it’s not the time to push it. Now. Now is the time to stop it. And we can revisit that later. Go home.

00:13:55:24 – 00:14:11:14
Tom
Yeah, sleep on it. I mean, if you’re, It’s kind of like that drunk person who wants to apologize and become besties again five seconds after a huge argument, right? It’s not the time or place.

00:14:11:16 – 00:14:45:18
Bunny
There are certain scenarios that, yeah, definitely need a little bit of talking out. Need it more than ten minutes sometimes. Yeah. You can be pissed off at each other for quite a while. Right? And don’t don’t let extracurricular or fun time in come in between your yourselves and you know and that was the other thing is I’m hearing a lot in it’s both from male and female that their partner is paying more attention to their play partner than they are.

00:14:45:20 – 00:14:50:05
Tom
I have seen that. And,

00:14:50:07 – 00:15:12:00
Bunny
It’s almost like they come in and they’re like, oh, there’s my friend, and they’re like, gone, right? And they don’t pay attention. They don’t check in on their on their partner to make sure that they’re okay or they’re having a good time and they’re lovey dovey over here. And their partners like this. No. Read that body language. If that’s something that you don’t want.

00:15:12:00 – 00:15:27:22
Bunny
Sorry, I talk with my hands. If that’s something that makes you feel comfortable, you need to let your partner know. And if your partner says this is making me feel uncomfortable, then you need to discuss it, not not just let it roll. Roll off of you.

00:15:27:27 – 00:15:31:24
Tom
No, no, I, I totally I’m I’m hearing you.

00:15:31:27 – 00:15:36:00
Bunny
Because you because we’ve seen it. We’ve seen it a lot.

00:15:36:02 – 00:16:04:21
Tom
And I just, I, just me and Bunny have always been able to communicate. And communication is the key to a successful marriage. Our success a successful time in the pineapple world. Communication is important in life in general. If you can’t, if you cannot openly talk about everything with your spouse. I don’t have any words.

00:16:04:24 – 00:16:05:04
Bunny
No.

00:16:05:09 – 00:16:12:09
Tom
No, I mean, I don’t have any words of encouragement because my encouragement is for you to communicate with your spouse.

00:16:12:11 – 00:16:28:23
Bunny
Absolutely. And communication also means body language. You’ve got to be able to read your partner to write, if there might be a scenario where they’re gagged and you can’t say anything.

00:16:28:25 – 00:16:31:07
Tom
But it’s just, how have you been? Yeah.

00:16:31:10 – 00:16:43:03
Bunny
No, no, no. You know that that would not happen. You are going in the other night. I know I’m going in the other night. I have a bad gag to.

00:16:43:06 – 00:16:44:13
Tom
Spit on that thing.

00:16:44:15 – 00:16:52:24
Bunny
But no, that could be a situation like with Tom, his death. So he’s got to constantly be watching.

00:16:52:25 – 00:16:55:21
Tom
I do, because I take my hearing aids out.

00:16:55:24 – 00:17:01:01
Bunny
And sometimes if he doesn’t get this, like, he doesn’t understand that, I’m like.

00:17:01:04 – 00:17:03:26
Tom
I.

00:17:03:28 – 00:17:29:29
Bunny
But no, you you know your partner well enough that you know when by looking at body language, by looking at expressions that they’re not comfortable and that’s when you need to pay attention. And you need to determine, especially for the ones that are guilty of giving the play partner way much more attention than their other partner. You need to reevaluate if that’s what you really want.

00:17:30:01 – 00:17:34:05
Bunny
Because you keep pushing that level, you’re going to end up in the hole or.

00:17:34:07 – 00:17:36:23
Tom
I’m just letting money talk. This is our topic.

00:17:36:27 – 00:17:41:03
Bunny
This is my topic. I’m not used to just letting money talk.

00:17:41:05 – 00:17:45:26
Tom
I know I’m usually the one talking, but I’m just letting you free flow on this one.

00:17:46:02 – 00:17:52:20
Bunny
Yeah, because I just look at my. It’s like to see the hamster and I’m like, you’re going to fall asleep or no, no, no, no.

00:17:52:20 – 00:18:15:02
Tom
I, I’m actually intrigued because you wanted to talk about this topic because like I said, people don’t approach me on that stuff. They approached Bunny because she’s a female and they feel less threatened or they think, I’m going to charge. I mean, I don’t charge anybody, but me and Bunny are always willing to help everybody. We don’t want to see anyone break up or.

00:18:15:08 – 00:18:16:02
Bunny
You know, have a.

00:18:16:02 – 00:18:20:01
Tom
Divorce. But we also don’t want to see somebody ruin a marriage either.

00:18:20:07 – 00:18:21:12
Bunny
No, absolutely.

00:18:21:12 – 00:18:45:26
Tom
Not, ma’am, but we are 38 years married. 39 years together. We were always told in the pineapple world that it would break us up. We’d be jealous. And yeah, we’ve had our share of jealousies and everything. We just talk, we communicate. I mean, I just can’t express it enough. That communication.

00:18:45:28 – 00:18:47:07
Bunny
You know,

00:18:47:10 – 00:18:48:09
Tom
I had to get that word out.

00:18:48:10 – 00:19:14:27
Bunny
Yes, yes, I was talking to somebody, last October, and, I was talking to another gentleman, and, and we were talking about that same scenario, and I said, I said, you know, Tom and I have been together 38 years, and I still get jealous. And he goes, do you get jealous or do you get envious? And I’m like, excuse me?

00:19:15:00 – 00:19:24:13
Bunny
He’s like, are you jealous that he’s really having a good time? Or are you envious that he’s having a good time and you’re not?

00:19:24:16 – 00:19:25:26
Tom
That’s her great.

00:19:25:28 – 00:19:30:28
Bunny
And I’m like, you’re absolutely right. You’re absolutely right.

00:19:31:00 – 00:19:32:02
Tom
No.

00:19:32:04 – 00:19:39:06
Bunny
So so yeah, you got to think is a jealous or is envious. And that’s when I say, fine, I’m going to take my ball and go home.

00:19:39:06 – 00:19:43:23
Tom
Yep. And she takes me home.

00:19:43:25 – 00:20:06:07
Bunny
But I was like, yeah you’re that it that I was like after all these years? I said, you know what? That kind of slapped me in the head. That was like a an eye opener because, yeah, your absolutely right. And he goes, because of the fact is you’re not jealous. You’re still having a good time, but you’re envious because you know what she’s getting and that you like getting that.

00:20:06:12 – 00:20:07:23
Bunny
And you’re not right now.

00:20:07:25 – 00:20:10:18
Tom
I’ll say that’s true.

00:20:10:20 – 00:20:12:02
Bunny
Right? Yeah.

00:20:12:04 – 00:20:15:06
Tom
Yeah, I’ll say that. That’s 1,000% true.

00:20:15:25 – 00:20:33:11
Tom
Because you know when you, when you go meet up with people whether it’s single a couple, you don’t know what you’re going to get until you’re right. I mean these pictures with Coke cans and remote controls, you don’t know if it’s the tiny remote or the.

00:20:33:13 – 00:20:35:08
Bunny
Big, big remote.

00:20:35:11 – 00:21:04:23
Tom
You don’t know if it’s the little six ounce cans of soda or the 12 ounce cans or the the 16. But it’s just, I mean, yeah. I, I totally get that. I mean, I, I’ve been with females where they are more pillow princesses. Yes. And so I’ll use the word envious. I’m envious that the other guy has you and I am.

00:21:04:25 – 00:21:08:20
Bunny
Trying to do everything under the sun to help.

00:21:08:22 – 00:21:12:19
Tom
Yeah, I guess I feel neglected.

00:21:12:21 – 00:21:13:07
Bunny
See?

00:21:13:12 – 00:21:13:25
Tom
See?

00:21:13:27 – 00:21:14:19
Bunny
Yeah, yeah.

00:21:14:20 – 00:21:15:25
Tom
So I get it.

00:21:15:28 – 00:21:22:20
Bunny
Yeah, but that was an eye opener. I’m like, whoa, okay. That was that was a good one that he brought up.

00:21:22:23 – 00:21:25:13
Tom
So you’re no longer jealous. You’re just envious.

00:21:25:16 – 00:21:35:13
Bunny
Yes, absolutely. But I think if Tom went out on a date, I, I would be so jealous.

00:21:35:14 – 00:21:37:00
Tom
Oh, you’d be a stalker.

00:21:37:03 – 00:21:37:16
Bunny
I think.

00:21:37:18 – 00:21:39:09
Tom
Following us and.

00:21:39:12 – 00:21:40:24
Bunny
That is way beyond.

00:21:40:24 – 00:21:45:16
Tom
I look over my shoulder to be tucked down, looking at. Yeah. No, that would be funny.

00:21:45:19 – 00:21:49:15
Bunny
I would yeah, that’s way beyond my comfort zone.

00:21:49:17 – 00:22:13:18
Tom
But yeah, we see, it happens all the time. I mean, a lot of events, even people were close with we we never say anything because it’s not our place unless they ask us. Because we don’t interject ourselves into other people’s lives. Except for here on video. And you’re willing you’re able to hit stop or close out the window.

00:22:13:18 – 00:22:41:13
Tom
You don’t have to watch us or listen to us, but we see a lot of people where they put a lot more focus on their play partner than they do their own spouse. We just seen a, couple of events ago, and a whole like, dating scenario where, I mean, me, I’m funny after 39 years, we want to be this close to each other.

00:22:41:13 – 00:22:57:28
Tom
We work together, we live together. We are this close together, believe it or not, 23 to 24 hours a day, every day, seven days a week, all year long. We’re really not apart, and we prefer not to be.

00:22:58:03 – 00:23:01:08
Bunny
The only time we’re part is when we’re in the restroom.

00:23:01:10 – 00:23:35:15
Tom
That’s the only time we’re apart. But we’re still within yelling range. Yeah, but, I, I couldn’t if we are. I mean, if we’re friends with another couple. Yeah, we’re totally good. Don’t don’t take it out of context that we can pal around and hang on to the other person and do fun stuff, but if it comes down to just intimately holding hands, are acting like you’re the couple and not.

00:23:35:17 – 00:23:49:07
Tom
Yeah, me and Bonnie, that that’s just a different scenario for us. But we have a lot of friends where we can paddle around with each other, and we just don’t. We don’t get envious. Whoa, whoa. Going rooster block each other. No problem.

00:23:49:09 – 00:24:03:09
Bunny
Yep. Absolutely. But yeah. So that’s just the biggest thing is keep your eyes open, keep your mind open and keep keep an eye on your partner too. And make sure that they’re within the loop.

00:24:03:09 – 00:24:52:10
Tom
And and people can lose interest in each other if you’re not showing, the other one the attention that they. Oh that they deserve or need. I was just telling somebody and I know where I talked about the divorcing. We have an album in our Facebook and we had 109 couples and people whenever they say, oh yeah, the divorce rate is so low in the lifestyle because it’s statistically proven, because you can communicate that no, divorcing emotions can also create huge issues, because when you have an emotional attachment, someone else that your spouse can’t compete with.

00:24:52:12 – 00:25:12:16
Tom
Correct. But I go, I went, I I’ll pull up that photo album and I like see these couples see these couples, they look happy, right? They’re like yeah, yeah, yeah. All 75% of our divorce. 75%. And like I said earlier we don’t know if it’s because of the lifestyle and it could be any number of reasons.

00:25:12:21 – 00:25:26:15
Tom
But it probably all boils down to a common denominator of lack of feeling. The other ones are like a lack of interest or no communication, passion or no sexual desires or.

00:25:26:19 – 00:25:28:05
Bunny
Right. Absolutely.

00:25:28:07 – 00:25:43:10
Tom
And and at 39 years, we still think that you should be desiring each other sexually, as you did when you were dating. Because when you were dating, the focus, honestly, was to get laid right?

00:25:43:13 – 00:25:44:06
Bunny
Exactly.

00:25:44:06 – 00:25:59:29
Tom
It was to find your soulmate. It was to find a compatibility factor. That’s where I never understood. No sex before marriage. Because then you’re kind of stuck. And there’s a lot of divorces. Are that because.

00:26:00:03 – 00:26:00:22
Bunny
Oh, yeah.

00:26:00:24 – 00:26:08:24
Tom
They didn’t measure up to each other’s, what they thought would be like.

00:26:08:26 – 00:26:12:12
Bunny
No, I, I completely get that. Yeah I completely.

00:26:12:12 – 00:26:41:02
Tom
Get that the whole hot wife thing, it works for some people and I, we’ve seen it not work for a lot of people. So hot wife thing is something we would never recommend. If someone does it that’s fine. We have no issues with it. But we would never try to talk anyone into it, nor would we recommend it, because I don’t think a lot of people could handle that scenario well.

00:26:41:02 – 00:26:56:05
Bunny
And the fact is, is if, you if you really think that your wife wants to do it, then you really need to make sure that she really wants to do it. Because we met some men and he was just a narcissist, and he basically forced her to do it.

00:26:56:06 – 00:26:59:22
Tom
Yes. And I mean, he was literally calling guys.

00:26:59:22 – 00:27:01:06
Bunny
And she.

00:27:01:06 – 00:27:15:17
Tom
And he even asked us because we were meeting them. And next thing you know, he’s like, hey, do you mind if I have a couple singles come over and nail or why, why you guys are here? And I’m like, no, dude, we’re out of here.

00:27:15:18 – 00:27:19:09
Bunny
He got off on it. She hated it. Yeah, she she.

00:27:19:12 – 00:27:23:29
Tom
Tries to take her out of there and I’m like, I didn’t know what to do in that scenario.

00:27:24:04 – 00:27:46:21
Bunny
She said, I am leaving him, I feel used I don’t want to do this. So you’ve got to make sure you’re both on the same level. Yeah. And if think I’m like, I just can’t reiterate the fact of the feelings change. If you don’t want to do it, then you need to stand up and say, I don’t like this, I don’t want to do this anymore.

00:27:46:24 – 00:27:52:11
Bunny
And then your partner should respect you in figure things out.

00:27:52:12 – 00:28:21:19
Tom
Well, the whole thing about the, pineapple world is compromises. Somebody has a fantasy and it’s, I mean, hopefully you can let your spouse live out their fantasies. That’s the whole, point of including other people into your life because some fantasies require more than one person and yes, a person not willing to do things that your spouse isn’t willing to do.

00:28:21:19 – 00:28:31:05
Bunny
Well, and also, two fantasies can be just in your head. In reality, is a good slap kick in the nuts.

00:28:31:07 – 00:28:54:27
Tom
Now, we’ve seen people break up because they, one of them had all these wild fantasies and they came true and they couldn’t handle it. They wanted nothing to do with the other person, and it was their fantasies that backfired on them. And they were the ones disgusted with the other one for helping fulfill those fantasies. How messed up is that?

00:28:54:28 – 00:29:05:11
Bunny
Oh yeah. Yeah. Let’s go back into the narcissist there. Yeah. But. So no. Yeah. It’s a very, very fine line. I think.

00:29:05:13 – 00:29:06:00
Tom
I’m pulling up my.

00:29:06:00 – 00:29:18:00
Bunny
Glasses. But not only is it that fine line, but like you say, it’s just that communication. You’ve got to communicate it. Just make this pineapple world fun. It’s fun as you can.

00:29:18:05 – 00:29:18:16
Tom
If you’re.

00:29:18:16 – 00:29:20:04
Bunny
Not. It’s supposed to be.

00:29:20:09 – 00:29:39:25
Tom
Yeah. If you’re not having fun, if you if you can’t go out and without having something to do with someone else, it may come back to haunt you later. Like, remember that your spouse is the most important person like Tom.

00:29:39:25 – 00:30:07:10
Bunny
And I say we are very, very social pineapple people. So for us it’s just a matter of going out, having fun, flirting, harmlessly, flirting. If it leads to something, then that’s great. If not, then we’ve value a friendship. We are now part of the community. Well, we’re not having. I mean, we’re having fun, but we’re not meeting the people that we want to meet.

00:30:07:13 – 00:30:14:20
Bunny
So now we’re looking for pineapple first. Yeah. So we can go out and have fun with people. We like to have fun with.

00:30:14:21 – 00:30:16:15
Tom
Pineapple people are just more fun to be.

00:30:16:18 – 00:30:33:08
Bunny
They are much more fun to be around. You don’t have to worry about. You don’t have to worry about, offending somebody because you’re wearing a too low kind of a shirt or. Or you can go on a Jeep ride with wearing them side boob shirt without.

00:30:33:10 – 00:30:33:28
Tom
Without no.

00:30:33:28 – 00:30:36:10
Bunny
Bra with a right. Exactly.

00:30:36:10 – 00:31:05:23
Tom
No. It’s true, because, I just put up a thing, because we’re going to go to cheap and base and, and, Pigeon Forge and, August. Yep. And it’s going to be all through Pigeon Forge, Gatlinburg. And this last year there was like 50,000 shapes star expecting more this year they say to go a mile. It might take you an hour to two hours because it’s just it’s a slow crawl and we’re looking forward to that.

00:31:06:01 – 00:31:28:07
Tom
So I and all these people are posting, like, we have a solid black tie, so they’re doing a black T meet up and they’re going to take a big picture. All the black tips I did. You see the pink Jeep meet up? I didn’t realize there were hundreds of them. And there’s just a big picture with it.

00:31:28:07 – 00:31:32:00
Tom
Looks like a thousand pink jeeps all in one picture.

00:31:32:01 – 00:31:35:07
Bunny
I might have to be in a gray jeep next year.

00:31:35:09 – 00:31:36:25
Tom
A gray t.

00:31:36:28 – 00:31:41:16
Bunny
Told you if I. If I get a Jeep, what I’m doing with it.

00:31:41:18 – 00:31:43:15
Tom
What are you doing with it?

00:31:43:17 – 00:31:45:01
Bunny
Putting thumper on it.

00:31:45:01 – 00:32:13:17
Tom
Oh. So, there there were people about the red jeeps and white, every jeep color. And then somebody goes, is there going to be a singles meet up? And I thought, well, that’s a great idea, because mostly it’s a lot of it’s going to be families. So I found if you’re familiar or not on the Jeep, they have trail badges and you earn them.

00:32:13:22 – 00:32:39:25
Tom
But there was, an upside down pineapple with horns and a tail and it just says plays well with the others. 4×4. And I posted that I didn’t think it was going to get approved because this is a very family friendly Facebook group. And it two weeks later, all of a sudden it popped up, approved. I was like, oh my God, there’s like seven, almost 18,000 profiles in here.

00:32:39:28 – 00:33:10:28
Tom
I’m like, I am either going to get slaughtered or so immediately I got 150 either likes hearts are laughing emojis. I got a couple of angry emojis. I got three comments, that were negative. One is, really this community has dole out those people in it and I’m thinking, you know, look around at all your friends, family, coworkers, people you sit next to in church.

00:33:11:00 – 00:33:48:22
Tom
You probably know pineapple people and not realize it because we don’t just come out, we know how to act well. Most of us know how to act normal. Yeah. And, social environment. A lot of the comments are pretty good and people are sharing it. People are tagging it, and there’s, vendor who’s going to be selling little cheat badges, and they have one that says, upside down pineapple, if you know, you know, and they’re like 25 bucks, I’m like, I might have to buy one.

00:33:48:22 – 00:34:10:04
Tom
I don’t want to put it on my Jeep, but, I just thought to support that and I was talking to her. She’s not in the lifestyle, but I committed her for producing stuff that would be promotable or sellable to other people that aren’t. Are not her demographic.

00:34:10:04 – 00:34:10:16
Bunny
Correct?

00:34:10:19 – 00:34:23:24
Tom
Mostly the coins are challenge. Coins are military, police, firemen, first responders. So it’s kind of cool to see an actual, real, bona fide upside down pineapple.

00:34:23:26 – 00:34:25:05
Bunny
Exactly.

00:34:25:07 – 00:34:57:04
Tom
Badge. So, we’ll get that. But I was talking to her, and I was telling her, I said, you know, probably 20% of that group is in the pineapple lifestyle somehow. Because in California, they did a study, the local news, and they went around surveying people. And it came out that 1 in 4 couples admitted to at least trying something in the pineapple world one time.

00:34:57:06 – 00:35:08:07
Tom
They didn’t ask any father. So that meant if you walk your neighborhood and count 100 houses, 25 possibly could be pineapple people.

00:35:08:07 – 00:35:08:18
Bunny
Yep.

00:35:08:21 – 00:35:20:03
Tom
You go to your work, you got 100 people that work in your office. 25 could be pineapple people. I know if you’re a police officer, it’s probably 85%.

00:35:20:05 – 00:35:21:02
Bunny
School teacher, a.

00:35:21:02 – 00:35:38:18
Tom
School teachers, nurses. But I mean, different lines of work are going to accumulate that 25% down. But that also goes for churches. I mean, the the moral majority aren’t so moral when they keep a secret like this.

00:35:38:21 – 00:35:49:11
Bunny
Did you see the the one going around now that there was some type of a list and it says the most swingers per capita is Pennsylvania?

00:35:49:12 – 00:35:55:16
Tom
Oh, I the one that say that. Yeah. And well, but they didn’t even put California on there.

00:35:55:16 – 00:35:55:29
Bunny
No.

00:35:55:29 – 00:36:19:08
Tom
So they’re skewed I mean, and I even post I even wrote to you that you could tell they were non pineapple people who did it just by the way. They were a few things. They, they were very naive or trying to be just a plain where someone like us would have wrote the list and yeah, got a little more definitive on it.

00:36:19:10 – 00:36:41:01
Tom
But when I told this girl who is going to be selling these batches about the pineapple world, she goes, oh my God. My friend basically said word for word, what? You just said that there’s going to be 20% of this group that would buy that batch and stuff like that. They might not put it on their cheap, but they might keep it at home.

00:36:41:04 – 00:37:06:01
Tom
We want to make a pact for with different cheap batches, and that would be one of them. And then she asked me to take it off, because I did promote it, that she was going to be selling them. So she must have gotten a little pushback. And, you know, I don’t I don’t, disagree with her wanting, me to know my post because I don’t want anyone to be dark.

00:37:06:03 – 00:37:06:16
Bunny
No.

00:37:06:16 – 00:37:08:28
Tom
And she wasn’t even in the pineapple.

00:37:08:28 – 00:37:33:11
Bunny
And that’s what I disagree with, because everybody has a right to their own business. Everybody has a right to make money, whether, it’s selling that or selling a set of tires. Right. And that’s where I just get so frustrated with people out there in the community that are so hateful towards another group of individuals.

00:37:33:11 – 00:37:42:17
Tom
Yeah. And that group of individuals, they just have a stigma in their head about that, group of individuals.

00:37:42:17 – 00:37:42:28
Bunny
Right.

00:37:43:01 – 00:37:52:25
Tom
But the fact is that group of individuals is a more honest group. They’re more they they’re more caring about other people.

00:37:52:28 – 00:37:54:23
Bunny
They’re the first ones to jump up.

00:37:54:27 – 00:37:58:00
Tom
To paint our house in California.

00:37:58:02 – 00:37:58:21
Bunny
Yeah.

00:37:58:24 – 00:38:14:22
Tom
And we are just talking about it, man. But we’re going to paint it by ourselves. And we have like ten people. So, ready to work. I mean, not to socialize. They were pushed. Let’s do, let’s do one day start to finish prime, paint it.

00:38:14:24 – 00:38:33:12
Bunny
And then when we moved to when we bought our house in California, we were moving 80 miles away and we didn’t know where are we going to put all of our stuff. And somebody just randomly called us, we made, maybe once or twice and, he’s like, I got this property, I’ve got this, I’ve got that.

00:38:33:12 – 00:38:36:11
Bunny
You can. You’re more than welcome to park your trailers here.

00:38:36:13 – 00:38:37:01
Tom
Yeah.

00:38:37:03 – 00:38:45:20
Bunny
I mean, just out of the blue. So our community is so much more helpful and is so much more caring, I think, than most any of the other.

00:38:45:20 – 00:39:10:15
Tom
And we don’t have no judgments. And that’s the difference between the pineapple world, where there are a lot of people that I know. We’re totally off topic because we’re done with the other topic. I think. But there’s a lot of people that go to pineapple clubs and events, even hedonists, there’s a lot of nudist, there’s a lot of people that want to wear their bottoms and no tops.

00:39:10:20 – 00:39:25:22
Tom
There’s people that want to be naked, there’s people that want to play with others and that everyone gets along because, you know, if someone comes up and says, hey, do you want to play? All you guys says, no. Well, I’m not into that, but thank you. Take it as a compliment.

00:39:25:22 – 00:39:26:21
Bunny
But it’s basically.

00:39:26:22 – 00:39:27:06
Tom
Is,

00:39:27:09 – 00:39:37:27
Bunny
We’re all in the same mindset of just want to have fun and meet people, right? And enjoy everybody’s.

00:39:37:29 – 00:39:52:10
Bunny
Being around people and have fun. But socialize. Yeah. The socializing and, yeah, there’s people outside. They’re so closed minded that they won’t even think of anything beyond you’re having sex with somebody else.

00:39:52:13 – 00:40:08:08
Tom
Right? And then that goes along with it. And I guess I will add into the topic of this. When we see people that focus on someone more than their own spouse, me and Bunny actually avoid both of them.

00:40:09:20 – 00:40:24:29
Tom
Because we just don’t want drama. And most people in the pineapple world, they’re, they want to be drama free. And we, we want to have fun. We want to smile. We don’t want to be the shoulder that they’re always crying on or talking about.

00:40:25:00 – 00:40:30:22
Bunny
Correct? Very correct. Yep. All right I think we’re done with this one.

00:40:30:22 – 00:40:31:23
Tom
We are done.

00:40:31:24 – 00:40:33:09
Bunny
We are done with you.

00:40:33:11 – 00:40:57:15
Tom
We’re done with you today. So until next time, definitely follow us everywhere. Just search Google, Tom and Bunny all one word. Tom and boo and and y and book your next trip with Tom’s trips.com your leader in adult lifestyle travel and let us further let us show you a good time.

00:40:57:18 – 00:41:00:02
Bunny
You got that right. We’ll see you.

00:41:00:02 – 00:41:02:00
Tom
Soon. We’ll see you soon.

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00:00:00:00 - 00:00:22:25
Tom
Hey, everyone. Tom and Bunny here and I know we're getting ready to watch our next video. And if you find this video useful or some of the videos from the past, please do us a favor by booking your travel through us at Tom's trips.com, or give us a call at 1-800-285-0853 and I can answer any questions and get you booked on your next lifestyle vacation.

00:00:22:25 - 00:00:38:23
Tom
Welcome to Tom and bunny.com. Here is another episode of our Opinions Mean Nothing and Pineapple World. But it might give you some guidance on helping you navigate this. I mean, wide open lifestyle.

00:00:38:24 - 00:00:42:15
Bunny
It's so completely different than when we started. Yeah, so completely different.

00:00:42:16 - 00:01:06:25
Tom
Our shameless plug, we are Tom and Bunny. We work for Tom's trips here. Leader and adult lifestyle travel to destinations around the world, including resorts, cruises and events. If you want to book travel, please call us at 802 850853. Our visit Tom's trips.com and let us get you booked today and let us show you a good time.

00:01:06:27 - 00:01:07:16
Bunny
Of course.

00:01:07:17 - 00:01:08:16
Tom
That is our motto.

00:01:08:19 - 00:01:12:03
Bunny
That is, Will you look a little tropical later? I know.

00:01:12:08 - 00:01:14:24
Tom
I know, our last video I was wearing.

00:01:14:27 - 00:01:17:14
Bunny
yeah. Ray. Hawaii. You must have gone shopping.

00:01:17:15 - 00:01:19:28
Tom
We must have gone. So I'm in a medium.

00:01:20:01 - 00:01:25:03
Bunny
I know, I know a medium. Oh, wow.

00:01:25:05 - 00:01:25:25
Tom
Don't be a hater.

00:01:25:25 - 00:01:28:12
Bunny
You've never been a medium.

00:01:28:14 - 00:01:29:15
Tom
Don't be a hater.

00:01:29:18 - 00:01:30:23
Bunny
I know, right?

00:01:30:28 - 00:01:33:02
Tom
I was going into double extra large.

00:01:33:04 - 00:01:34:13
Bunny
I know, I know you were.

00:01:34:20 - 00:01:47:03
Tom
I went from 238 pounds to. I'm now about 160. And oh I saw so on notice. Okay. Someone calling you who's calling.

00:01:47:03 - 00:01:48:06
Bunny
Spam spam.

00:01:48:07 - 00:02:04:08
Tom
Spam potential spam. So anyway we get we get asked a lot of questions. So this video we're going to focus on one of the questions that we get asked a lot. What is the question.

00:02:04:10 - 00:02:05:27
Bunny
How do you play.

00:02:05:29 - 00:02:08:01
Tom
And what's the meaning of that. How do we play.

00:02:08:01 - 00:02:37:25
Bunny
Well they you know, we give a little more information. All right. So the in this our pineapple world has grown and expanded so much from what it did 20 years ago. Yes. And so many different people are seek other different options. Correct. So they actually asked how how do we approach it. and do we separate room, do we go on dates.

00:02:37:27 - 00:02:39:28
Bunny
do we go out alone.

00:02:40:00 - 00:02:53:19
Tom
So we when we first got into the pineapple world and we got into a lot longer a long time ago before the pineapples were even invented in this lifestyle.

00:02:53:19 - 00:02:54:20
Bunny
Yes.

00:02:54:22 - 00:03:06:17
Tom
I know some people want to believe that they came out in the 50s and it was a military thing. And we cannot establish that from anybody. That's over the I mean.

00:03:06:25 - 00:03:09:08
Bunny
Even well into their 70s, 80, 80.

00:03:09:08 - 00:03:09:26
Tom
90.

00:03:09:26 - 00:03:10:04
Bunny
Yeah.

00:03:10:05 - 00:03:11:09
Tom
We can't find anyone.

00:03:11:10 - 00:03:17:07
Bunny
And yes, we do know people that old that are that had run clubs are still in the lifestyle.

00:03:17:11 - 00:03:38:13
Tom
So we did a lot of talking when we first got into it. And one of our laundry list of rules that we narrowed down to, we what we do is we create and I will use the word rules, but it's not I don't know what a good word to use here is, but.

00:03:38:15 - 00:03:39:04
Bunny
boundary.

00:03:39:05 - 00:03:53:21
Tom
Boundaries. That's a great word. so we, we create boundaries based on previous experiences, meaning we found ourselves because we came into this with.

00:03:53:23 - 00:03:57:01
Bunny
Page, like a book. you.

00:03:57:01 - 00:04:18:28
Tom
Can't do this. You can't do that. You can't even look at someone too long. You can't have too much fun. there was just so many things that we were enjoying. Nothing. It was to the point where it wasn't even worth doing because we neither of us were having fun. Because we're too worried about breaking a boundary.

00:04:19:00 - 00:04:19:26
Bunny
Absolutely.

00:04:19:26 - 00:04:24:27
Tom
Are offending the other person are hurting the other person. The last thing we want to do is hurt each other.

00:04:24:29 - 00:04:47:13
Bunny
And, and yes in the beginning we did break boundaries and in the night it didn't end well because we broke boundaries. And guess what. You have to go home. You have to discuss it, you have to talk it over and you got to work through it and either you continue on with that in the pineapple world or you step back.

00:04:47:13 - 00:05:28:03
Tom
And so we eliminated all of our roles as we called them, back them. And we created boundaries of respect based on prior experiences. So how do we play when we are active with other people? Afterwards we come home. We actually discuss after every encounter. We still discuss every encounter, and we want to know what we liked about it, because the whole point of being in this is because we're having a great time and we we want to enjoy it.

00:05:28:05 - 00:05:53:23
Tom
but the most important thing and it never is a requirement. But if there was something that we did not like, it didn't sit well. We felt the green eyed monster coming on. We discussed it more, and if it was something that was really, truly an issue, we would create a boundary based on that is go. Nothing else, just that scope.

00:05:53:25 - 00:05:59:09
Tom
And later on we might even release that boundary because we've grown up.

00:05:59:23 - 00:06:01:08
Tom
Yeah. And grown past.

00:06:01:13 - 00:06:02:26
Bunny
That. Yeah.

00:06:02:27 - 00:06:13:25
Tom
Because yeah everyone gets jealous in this lifestyle. So a couple of our boundaries is we prefer to play with couples.

00:06:13:27 - 00:06:14:16
Bunny
Yes.

00:06:14:19 - 00:06:30:19
Tom
We don't prefer to play with couples that only one plays. We want everyone active. We would prefer just to be wingman and friends. We could be friends with everybody. It doesn't matter. Well, not everybody. We who? We haven't.

00:06:30:19 - 00:06:31:10
Bunny
Come new.

00:06:31:17 - 00:06:40:20
Tom
We have encountered a few that they tested our limits and we couldn't. We didn't want to hang out with them.

00:06:40:23 - 00:06:43:08
Bunny
They were way,

00:06:43:10 - 00:07:15:02
Tom
Different than we were. So, same room. We we have we we've we've tried to separate play, but the whole point of us being in it is for us to have fun together. Now we get it, other people will play separately and everything, and that's perfectly fine. Some people get stage fright or they get, antsy because their spouses watching, or whatever.

00:07:15:05 - 00:07:31:13
Tom
We actually prefer it because Bunny, I mean, knowing my history of Eddie since I was in my 20s, Bunny can cue in and see if I was struggling or not. If she wasn't there, I'd be on my own.

00:07:31:13 - 00:07:33:17
Bunny
Yeah, yeah. And you're hearing.

00:07:33:25 - 00:07:34:22
Tom
Am I hearing.

00:07:34:22 - 00:07:58:16
Bunny
Because, with his hearing aids, he can't do any he doesn't play with his hearing aids. And because of the fact is you put your hands over his head and of course, he's going to start whistling. So he never, never does anything with his hearing aids in, in. Therefore, he was always afraid of hearing the word stop and not being able to hear it right now.

00:07:58:18 - 00:08:18:21
Tom
I would just tell the female if, if I'm doing something that you don't want or like, or you're not enjoying, don't tell me. Just put your hand on my forehead and push me back. I will take offense to that. No, that's it's called, an unsaid body language.

00:08:18:22 - 00:08:19:27
Bunny
Well, I have to do it to him.

00:08:19:28 - 00:08:20:26
Tom
She does it to me.

00:08:20:26 - 00:08:22:22
Bunny
Yeah, well, it's time to stop.

00:08:22:24 - 00:09:02:22
Tom
She starts tapping me. Now, another boundary that we have, and we know a lot of couples like doing is the whole holding hands with the opposite person while they're out at dinner, sitting with the with the other person. Me and binding prefer to be together all the way up until any activity starts. We do not want to be part of the other people, because when we're out in public, we want to be seen as Tom and Bonnie.

00:09:02:24 - 00:09:09:12
Tom
it's nothing against anybody. It's just kind of our comfort zone, or at least my comfort zone.

00:09:09:13 - 00:09:32:20
Bunny
Exactly. So we all, everybody does everything different and, and you know, we have had those couples say, well here Bonnie will sit here and I'm like, no, I won't. I mean, I sit with Tom and you've got it. If somebody does something and you're not on, come. If you're uncomfortable with you, just tell them, hey, no, no, no, no, I'm not going to do that.

00:09:32:22 - 00:09:34:08
Bunny
Right. you.

00:09:34:08 - 00:09:35:18
Tom
Don't have to be so abrupt, Pike.

00:09:35:18 - 00:09:40:04
Bunny
Funny was. I know. Well, I did, I.

00:09:40:04 - 00:09:47:02
Tom
Know, but you don't have to be that abrupt. You could be polite and just say, well, I would rather preferably sit here.

00:09:47:10 - 00:09:50:14
Bunny
Well, I do like that you don't.

00:09:50:17 - 00:09:55:17
Tom
You're setting up a date. You're meeting someone for their first time, and they say, oh, buddy, I'll sit here. Oh, no, I will.

00:09:55:23 - 00:09:58:17
Bunny
Nope.

00:09:58:20 - 00:10:02:11
Tom
That's the way it came across to me. You can chime in and if you.

00:10:02:13 - 00:10:03:00
Bunny
Well, how.

00:10:03:00 - 00:10:05:05
Tom
Did that come across? I mean.

00:10:05:07 - 00:10:10:11
Bunny
I probably did. Come on. Like she's a bitch, but she's real.

00:10:10:11 - 00:10:11:14
Tom
Like she's really not, though.

00:10:11:15 - 00:10:21:17
Bunny
Maybe that's why the hookup has been slow down, but I actually did. We actually met this morning. Couple one time and and we chatted back and forth online.

00:10:21:17 - 00:10:36:07
Tom
Now we must put a little warning. You may or may not be the couple we're talking about. Just because it resonates or sounds familiar doesn't mean we're talking about you. But we might be talking about you. So just having all those out there.

00:10:36:09 - 00:10:38:09
Bunny
Because we get called out, you do, we.

00:10:38:10 - 00:10:47:11
Tom
Do we do get called out for talking about scenarios even when we don't mention the people's names, our location, they know we're talking about them and they'll message us.

00:10:47:11 - 00:10:48:10
Bunny
All right, so I know.

00:10:48:10 - 00:10:48:27
Tom
There you go.

00:10:48:27 - 00:11:15:14
Bunny
Sorry. I'm just going to say that we're going to an event across the country. And we had been chatting back and forth with this couple online, and everything seemed to be working out very, very well. we met them in the hotel the first day and they seemed really, really great. Well, then we go out for the evening and he just, like, turn turned into.

00:11:15:15 - 00:11:16:20
Bunny
He's going to control me.

00:11:16:23 - 00:11:17:25
Tom
Yeah. This.

00:11:18:02 - 00:11:19:20
Bunny
And he was like.

00:11:19:23 - 00:11:30:04
Tom
But he's her own person. She doesn't need to be dominated. Well not not like like verbally dominating.

00:11:30:05 - 00:11:33:16
Bunny
Well and if I'm going to answer to anybody, it's my husband.

00:11:33:18 - 00:11:34:22
Tom
Damn right.

00:11:34:24 - 00:11:36:26
Bunny
Damn right. And, you.

00:11:36:26 - 00:11:37:06
Tom
Know, your.

00:11:37:06 - 00:11:40:05
Bunny
Place and he was like, literally.

00:11:40:11 - 00:11:44:01
Tom
I could see the people, like, what did he just say?

00:11:44:03 - 00:12:09:04
Bunny
At one point he was like, literally like turning me so no one else would, like, see me. It was almost like he should have just peed on my back so people would know that I was. Yeah. And then and then he didn't like the first bar. So Tom says, okay, well, we'll go somewhere else. Then we sit down in the second bar and he looks, I remember this, and he looks at me and he grabs my hand.

00:12:09:04 - 00:12:12:29
Bunny
He goes, we're leaving. And I'm like, grabs Bonnie's hand.

00:12:13:01 - 00:12:14:08
Tom
His wife's here.

00:12:14:09 - 00:12:17:13
Bunny
I go, no, I am not leaving.

00:12:17:15 - 00:12:19:15
Tom
We let him leave with his wife.

00:12:19:17 - 00:12:21:21
Bunny
I go, if you want to leave, you can leave.

00:12:21:25 - 00:12:22:18
Tom
We're fine.

00:12:22:18 - 00:12:28:14
Bunny
Here. We we like it. We're having a good time. You can leave. And they didn't. They never spoke to us. The rest of the.

00:12:28:16 - 00:12:30:22
Tom
I don't think the wife wanted to leave him.

00:12:30:25 - 00:12:59:29
Bunny
But which? Which was totally fine. Because, like Tom said, I'm my own person. I'm strong enough to tell somebody. No. Why? I don't like it. Right. but like I said, we are not in a Bdsm lifestyle whatsoever, Tom and I, I said, but really, if if you really watch this, I am so much more submissive. to Tom, but only to Tom, not to anybody else.

00:13:00:02 - 00:13:06:10
Bunny
Right? So, no, you've got it. You've got to set your boundaries for yourself and do what's comfortable for you.

00:13:06:11 - 00:13:12:20
Tom
Yeah. yeah, I that was I remember that when that was.

00:13:12:22 - 00:13:18:18
Bunny
Yeah. That that little date that he had planned last lasted less than an hour.

00:13:18:20 - 00:13:23:04
Tom
Yeah. After chatting. So that leads up. We chatted with them for a long time.

00:13:23:05 - 00:13:23:18
Bunny
We did.

00:13:23:18 - 00:13:46:04
Tom
And we're not just pointing out this couple, this can go on with many other couples, and especially if you're new to this argument, if you've been in this for a while and you're frustrated or anything to build up, some people go, oh, we got to have a build up before we meet. No, because sometimes the expectation doesn't match.

00:13:46:04 - 00:14:11:21
Tom
Yes, the reality. So we would rather not sext. We would just rather meet people and keep any personal, stuff, fun time stuff at that moment. I mean, we could talk about what we're into because, yeah, some people may or may not be into what you're into.

00:14:11:22 - 00:14:26:14
Bunny
Yeah, you do have to discuss that. She's sound asleep at my feet. You do have to discuss stuff like that. But, But like Tom said, I'm not going to do anything with somebody else that I don't do with Tom. Right. So we're going to.

00:14:26:17 - 00:14:28:18
Tom
Well, that's not true.

00:14:28:21 - 00:14:30:29
Bunny
Well, no. Mean, because.

00:14:30:29 - 00:14:56:14
Tom
I am not even including interested in the Bdsm lifestyle. The fetish lifestyle. None of it. I'm okay with it. We're friends with a lot of people were we could hang out. We'll go to certain scenarios. Dungeons or fetish parties. We're fine with that. I just don't I don't want it on me and I don't want to put it on that somebody else.

00:14:56:19 - 00:14:58:29
Tom
So I'm more of a just a people watcher.

00:14:59:25 - 00:15:30:22
Tom
Bunny. She will get into it a little bit. Yeah. the since sensory play you're flogging stuff like that. Me personally, I don't even like Bunny. I, I don't do none of that stuff. So when we go to events, if there's somebody that is doing something and she finds it interesting, we'll go over and talk to them and they'll end up usually tying Bunny up and.

00:15:30:25 - 00:15:31:10
Bunny
Right.

00:15:31:14 - 00:15:43:17
Tom
Giving her the sensory play or the flogging. And she'll tell them light or hard and, that I and I'm perfectly fine with that, and she's perfectly fine with that.

00:15:43:17 - 00:15:52:28
Bunny
But you're right there with me watching. Correct. Now, it did happen one time that, Tom was called out of the room and I was like, I'm done.

00:15:53:01 - 00:16:18:17
Tom
Yeah. And I told her I talked to a friend of ours, and I said, I have to go to the office. They're calling me in the office. For some odd reason, I wasn't told why. it was an emergency, and I just told Bunny. I said, you're okay, you're safe. I have so-and-so keeping an eye on you. He's not going to let it go any farther than you want it to go.

00:16:18:21 - 00:16:31:09
Tom
And I go leave the room. Yeah, I was kind of pissed. In the office was six dudes and my boss trying to watch a YouTube video. My boss couldn't figure out how to get the speakers to work.

00:16:31:12 - 00:16:31:26
Bunny
It was murder.

00:16:31:28 - 00:16:43:05
Tom
Meanwhile, I'm like, I get it working. I like I got it going right by the time. Now. This all lasted 2.5 minutes. By the time I got back, but was already done and she wasn't interested in going back home.

00:16:43:07 - 00:17:14:03
Bunny
Because at that point my comfort zone was done. I was done right. So Tom is my comfort zone. And so therefore we like same room, same room. We liked we enjoy watching each other. Yep. some people don't. And that however you want to do it is however you want to do it. And the reason why I bring this up is because on social media now, everybody seems to be wanting to find a boyfriend or wanting to find a girlfriend.

00:17:14:05 - 00:17:25:16
Bunny
And a lot of people, they don't feel comfortable with that. Well, that's just those people's version of being a pineapple that doesn't have to mean that that's your version of it.

00:17:25:18 - 00:17:53:29
Tom
And we do not want to find a boyfriend or girlfriend or couples. That is monogamy with just us. Because, just to be upfront and honest, if a couple approaches you and says that they want to be monogamous with you and you agree to it, you're probably monogamous with them, and chances are they're probably not monogamous with you.

00:17:54:03 - 00:18:03:27
Tom
They're monogamous with you and probably six other couples. And none of you know about each other because they keep everything ultra secret and private.

00:18:03:27 - 00:18:09:11
Bunny
Well, there are there are some that they all live together. But if you don't live together.

00:18:09:14 - 00:18:15:26
Tom
And stuff like that. But I'm just saying we're not into them. What I was saying is we're not into the monogamous thing.

00:18:16:00 - 00:18:36:03
Bunny
I'm going to piss off a lot of people. Oh, Jesus. I was joking with Tom the other day, and I was doing something, and I was getting frustrated and, cleaning up something, and I looked at Tom and I go, you can have a girlfriend. He goes, what? I go as long as she cleans up.

00:18:36:06 - 00:18:38:11
Tom
Yeah, because Bunny was tired of sweeping them off.

00:18:38:16 - 00:18:47:21
Bunny
Oh, that's what it is. I yeah. My back. I have such a bad back. And sweeping and mopping will knock me down for three days. So I said as long as they come in and sweep.

00:18:47:21 - 00:19:00:22
Tom
So if you are a female that loves to sweep and mop and you're looking for a couple today, so long as you sweep them off our house, I finally want mine. So, Feijoo.

00:19:00:25 - 00:19:02:07
Bunny
I'll feed you. Yeah.

00:19:02:10 - 00:19:14:23
Tom
But he's a great cook. Just kidding. Wait, wait. That's another one of our boundaries. And we do not allow people to wake up in our bed.

00:19:14:29 - 00:19:15:09
Bunny
No.

00:19:15:09 - 00:19:39:02
Tom
And we do not wake up in their bed. Meaning, when playtime is over, we go to our room, we go home, we wherever. We just don't stay there. They don't stay there because we want a long time. We want private time. We want to be able to talk about the other couple without them.

00:19:39:02 - 00:19:40:12
Bunny
Being.

00:19:40:14 - 00:20:07:23
Tom
On either side of us, and not in a bad way. Just in just general context of how we felt about the evening. That is our dog and, so we did have one couple that it was their fantasy and we unfortunately declined. And we told them that we couldn't we didn't do it because we.

00:20:07:25 - 00:20:12:28
Bunny
They wanted to, sleep with us and cuddle and,

00:20:13:00 - 00:20:13:28
Tom
Oh, she has a sock.

00:20:14:01 - 00:20:17:06
Bunny
Yeah. I, I don't want to sleep with somebody.

00:20:17:06 - 00:20:19:20
Tom
I don't want to wake up with dragon breath.

00:20:19:23 - 00:20:20:02
Bunny
No.

00:20:20:06 - 00:20:21:29
Tom
Our bed head.

00:20:22:01 - 00:20:23:20
Bunny
Or passing gas.

00:20:23:27 - 00:20:26:06
Tom
Right. Hey, you don't do that.

00:20:26:09 - 00:20:28:20
Bunny
Or like, it's a our snoring.

00:20:28:25 - 00:20:44:05
Tom
No, it's just when we go to meet people, we dress up funny. Does our hair makeup worth a lot of cleavage? Dresses and pineapple necklaces, by the way. Partners. hi.com. You want a necklace like that?

00:20:44:07 - 00:20:52:27
Bunny
And, you know. And and it's funny too, because we have been in the pineapple world a long time. A long time, okay. And we all have.

00:20:53:04 - 00:20:55:15
Tom
Our upside down pineapples were.

00:20:55:15 - 00:21:09:20
Bunny
A thing. And we, like you say we all have our different play. We all have our little quirks. Tom. He could be naked in front of anybody. He'll be the first one naked. Yeah. When it comes time to getting ready, he wants privacy.

00:21:09:23 - 00:21:15:12
Tom
I do. I want my own bathroom. I want my own time. I it's just.

00:21:15:15 - 00:21:19:13
Bunny
When he comes out of the shower, all clean and everything, he doesn't want anybody else.

00:21:19:13 - 00:21:22:26
Tom
They're fine. I it's just a quirk.

00:21:22:26 - 00:21:24:13
Bunny
Yeah, yeah, it's.

00:21:24:13 - 00:21:25:08
Tom
A quirk of mine.

00:21:25:11 - 00:21:32:15
Bunny
You could tell he was never military, right? Never had to take a shower in gym class.

00:21:32:18 - 00:22:03:28
Tom
Now, we singles, we have played with both single females and single men. We typically won't. We do play in those scenarios. We don't have a really big friendship with them outside of play. We we had a couple different ones where they can call us, or we can call them and just say, hey, we just want to hook up.

00:22:04:01 - 00:22:24:03
Tom
We go meet them, hook up and go home. But outside of that, because we have seen a lot, not great things. I mean, there are a lot of singles that embrace the lifestyle, but then there's a lot of singles that want what the other people have.

00:22:24:03 - 00:22:41:23
Bunny
We actually have seen, and I'm going to say it, we've seen a lot of break ups from the break from singles or, you know, people having a boyfriend or girlfriend because when they were out on a date with that other person, the other person's in their ear, like.

00:22:41:23 - 00:23:18:05
Tom
I would, I would treat you much better than your husband or your wife or just we've heard it all. We've seen it all that it's just, boundary. We're not willing to cross at all. It took us a long time to even just allow play time with singles, let alone, have them, I mean, mine, funniest thing is, if you say anything to one of us and you got to have a lot of trust in your partner for this, it ends a friendship.

00:23:18:08 - 00:23:18:25
Bunny
Yes.

00:23:18:25 - 00:23:28:02
Tom
If you say anything negative about the other one of us. even if it's just constructive, if if it pretty much end a friendship.

00:23:28:05 - 00:23:28:19
Bunny
Absolutely.

00:23:28:19 - 00:23:30:20
Tom
Because we don't need that in our life.

00:23:30:23 - 00:24:02:20
Bunny
No. We keep all negativity out the the pineapple world for us. It is very consuming for us because we do work it. So we work in the lifestyle travel industry. We go to the events where we do the videos. We're completely consumed within this world. So therefore for us, we don't really plan anything. We're the we're the ones that you see at 11:00 at night and say, hey, you want to go?

00:24:02:20 - 00:24:04:05
Bunny
Oh yeah, let's go, let's go.

00:24:04:06 - 00:24:33:28
Tom
Because we've been working all night or, we've been hosting an event or anything, and we like to meet people where we are, what you call more social pineapples. there are different levels of pineapples. There are only social pineapples. They will never play with anybody, but they like to be around other pineapple people just because of the openness and the erotic nature.

00:24:34:00 - 00:24:51:06
Tom
There are people like us. We like to go meet at least five different couples, whether we're going to, play or not. It just gives us more people that we can mean. But we also know that we don't want to rooster block them.

00:24:51:08 - 00:24:51:21
Bunny
Know.

00:24:51:21 - 00:25:15:11
Tom
So if we know, there's no connection as far as that goes. And like I said, we can be a wingman. We can be friends with most anybody. We don't want to ruin their night. So we'll usually just say, hey, we're going to move on and we'll go meet another couple that thing is, at the end of the night, we met our five couples or three couples or singles.

00:25:15:11 - 00:25:26:10
Tom
Whatever. Whoever we talk to doesn't mean we have to play with anybody. We're just as content going home and having a great time by ourselves.

00:25:26:10 - 00:25:27:10
Bunny
Yes.

00:25:27:12 - 00:25:35:28
Tom
The whole play aspect, to us is extracurricular and just a little added fun, but, you.

00:25:36:03 - 00:25:42:12
Bunny
Know, a little wider. It's just a little to enhance, to have fun and to do something different.

00:25:42:16 - 00:26:07:27
Tom
Well, and I get it. I totally understand that people would come to our club. They would spend $50 $60 for a membership and then $90 to get in on the on the first night, the membership, which was a year, and then each party was either 80 or $90 to come in, but it was BYOB. Think about it. You're and we had a full buffet and people are like, oh no, it was all sanitary.

00:26:07:27 - 00:26:13:09
Tom
We were regulated by the health department. They would come in randomly during our parties and inspect.

00:26:13:09 - 00:26:16:08
Bunny
Us, and we were from California, so we had an A rating.

00:26:16:10 - 00:26:35:05
Tom
Or rating. So, and if you would think about it, a pineapple club or a stripper club, most people would be afraid to eat out. But we were so scrutinized it was very, clean. I forget where.

00:26:35:05 - 00:26:48:10
Bunny
It's gone, you are saying. But those a lot of those people would come in and they'd. I need a car. Some people would. Some people would just have a good time and enjoy each other. And if they hooked up, they hooked up and they were good.

00:26:48:12 - 00:27:17:06
Tom
Well, okay, that's where I was going then. People pay $90 to come in. I understand they might have kids at home. They work a lot. They only go out. Some people once a month and we never understood. I understand it, but we never understood it to the point where they would leave yelling at each other because they didn't hook up and they wasted all that money.

00:27:17:09 - 00:27:19:19
Tom
But yet they had a great time.

00:27:19:19 - 00:27:20:18
Bunny
Yeah, but they were all.

00:27:20:18 - 00:27:22:01
Tom
The way up until they.

00:27:22:01 - 00:27:24:18
Bunny
Left. But they would always blame it on each other.

00:27:24:19 - 00:27:49:04
Tom
They would blame each other like you weren't a great wing person or you you were ignoring the other person. Well, maybe that was a hit and a half that you need to move on to. Another couple are another single. If, like I always tell people we prefer couples, that's for people. There's a 75% chance nothing will happen and people will be like 75%.

00:27:49:05 - 00:28:06:25
Tom
Yeah, because if 25% meaning one person is not interested on our boundary, nothing happens. Correct? That includes if one person and the other couples not interested in one of us, or both of us or any of us, but the other one is it's done. We we just don't cross those.

00:28:06:25 - 00:28:26:24
Bunny
Lines, you know? And, and to be fair to yourself, you've got to have that respect for yourself too, that if it's just not working for you, if you're not feeling it, you've got it. You've got to tell your partner that right. you've got to let your partner know that that that it's it's not working for me.

00:28:26:24 - 00:28:27:29
Bunny
Let's move on.

00:28:27:29 - 00:28:49:11
Tom
You got I mean, when we. Okay. So how would we get out of situations is another big question we've always had. Let me I'm by any artist. Easy. Now we just say, hey, let's go meet this other couple or I've been wanting to meet this couple. We'll have nice meeting you. We'll. We'll talk to you later. Not cutting anything off for the future.

00:28:49:11 - 00:28:57:00
Tom
Just, It makes it easy out what we would do when we first got into it because we didn't know what to do.

00:28:57:05 - 00:28:57:16
Bunny
Right?

00:28:57:16 - 00:29:24:23
Tom
So we use the weather to our advantage. And we could either say, like, if we're not interested, well, let's just say we're interested because we're saying too much about not interested if we're interested in the other couple, we could say, man, it's pretty warm in here. Yeah, that means if I said it, that means I am interested in both House of the couple.

00:29:24:26 - 00:29:32:24
Tom
And then buddy would reply back with either. Yeah, it's like Phoenix, it's hot in Phoenix. That means.

00:29:32:27 - 00:29:33:08
Bunny
It's good.

00:29:33:12 - 00:29:56:04
Tom
If they're interested, we're interested. We can move forward that way. At least we knew our signal. But if she said, but it's freezing in Iowa, I. I knew she wasn't interested. And therefore then we would bow out and move on. And the couples never knew until we did a video and we talked about it and we got called out a couple times.

00:29:56:04 - 00:30:01:14
Bunny
Yeah, yes, we did it before we did. And we've had to. Yeah.

00:30:01:18 - 00:30:07:26
Tom
And they always say, you know, the best thing is to be upfront and honest and it's hard. It's you don't want to hurt people's feelings.

00:30:07:26 - 00:30:19:05
Bunny
No. You know, and it's funny because when we stopped using it was when we were in the middle of Palm Springs and, 110 degrees and.

00:30:20:12 - 00:30:23:07
Bunny
Tom was really having a good time.

00:30:23:07 - 00:30:24:19
Tom
We were in the hot tub.

00:30:24:22 - 00:30:26:23
Bunny
And Tom was really having a good time.

00:30:26:25 - 00:30:29:12
Tom
She was one of my fantasy girls.

00:30:29:12 - 00:30:35:03
Bunny
Yeah. See, this is what I was getting hot. I was getting this.

00:30:35:05 - 00:30:36:13
Tom
But he was watching us.

00:30:36:14 - 00:30:40:12
Bunny
He was watching you. I was trying to get.

00:30:40:14 - 00:30:41:11
Tom
A good looking guy, too.

00:30:41:13 - 00:30:51:26
Bunny
He was trying to get things going, but it just wasn't going to go there. No. And I kept trying. And it's one of the things you've gotta learn your your couple signals, you've got to learn each other cigarets and.

00:30:51:26 - 00:30:52:14
Tom
Alcohol.

00:30:52:16 - 00:30:58:16
Bunny
And alcohol and Tom wasn't catching anything. So I finally just Josh stands up.

00:30:58:18 - 00:31:02:12
Tom
Gets on the edge of the koozie and goes, what do you say?

00:31:02:14 - 00:31:06:28
Bunny
I'm leaving. It's freezing in here.

00:31:07:00 - 00:31:08:21
Tom
And it's 110 degrees.

00:31:08:24 - 00:31:14:14
Bunny
Outside in a Jacuzzi. Tom looked at her and goes, oh, I guess my.

00:31:14:16 - 00:31:22:28
Tom
Hand on forehead push her back, said, I gotta go. I'm not going to piss off the wife of all people.

00:31:23:01 - 00:31:23:20
Bunny
But see, we.

00:31:23:22 - 00:31:50:07
Tom
We ended up playing with the waiter. We did. What happened was, is they were fairly new, and he was very nervous. It wasn't that we learned it. We we talked to him later on when we actually played with him, and he had a lot to drink, and he was more embarrassed about his performance. So therefore it was easier to keep an arm's distance than it was to humiliate himself.

00:31:50:14 - 00:32:04:14
Tom
Because when we grew up in this pineapple world, it wasn't uncommon. If a guy couldn't perform that, the female would put him on blast in front of an entire club, and it sucked.

00:32:04:16 - 00:32:07:15
Bunny
It did. It sucked really bad.

00:32:07:17 - 00:32:11:02
Tom
Nowadays it's a little bit more politically correct.

00:32:11:04 - 00:32:34:20
Bunny
And people are because because people like us are coming forward and, you know, telling and, well, outing people like that, but telling people that it's a fact of life. Eddie, Eddie is very, very common. There's no reason that you have to live with it, because now I just talked to somebody and you can have things taken care of.

00:32:34:23 - 00:32:53:16
Bunny
But back then, nobody wanted to say anything. No one would say anything. And so when they would go back with somebody and they couldn't, achieve anything, then the other person would just like, don't go downstairs with him. He can't get it up. And it's like, you can't do that. You can't do that.

00:32:53:16 - 00:32:59:19
Tom
Right? And, you know, they say too much drinking inhibits the clubbing.

00:33:00:09 - 00:33:17:15
Tom
So, so that's another thing is we don't deal with drunks when we go out with somebody and they're just tying it on. It's a turn off for us. We we drink socially. We drink. I mean we used to be the drunks but we.

00:33:17:18 - 00:33:20:25
Bunny
But we always hooked up with people that were just as drunk.

00:33:20:25 - 00:33:38:22
Tom
Yeah. So it didn't really matter. But when we're more the sober ones now because of our jobs and everything, if somebody is too drunk will usually say, hey, let's meet up another time, because we're not not interested. We just aren't interested at that very moment.

00:33:38:24 - 00:33:56:11
Bunny
If that makes sense. No it does, it does. And like I said you know you've got to really keep not only the lines of communication with each other but with that couple. So if you really like them and if there was just something that night then you just say, hey, you know, maybe, maybe we can try again later or anything like that.

00:33:56:11 - 00:34:06:22
Bunny
But we keep everything like, you know, cool. Unless you just don't want to see him again like I did and said, nope, I'm not leaving with you. Right? Yeah, right. But.

00:34:06:24 - 00:34:14:11
Tom
I again, Are we are we talking about the.

00:34:14:15 - 00:34:20:25
Bunny
No no, no. So in their email that's next. So basically what we're talking about is, the.

00:34:20:28 - 00:34:23:04
Tom
More questions we've been asked.

00:34:23:06 - 00:34:43:04
Bunny
And the fact is, is, like you said to this one was just separate rooms or dating or playing together. And that's what you have to discuss and what you guys are comfortable with. Right? We do know couples that don't even like to play in the same room because they don't want to see each other. So they always separate and that works for them.

00:34:43:06 - 00:34:59:19
Bunny
So what works for somebody else may or may not work for you. And, it's like I always said, it's it's your pineapple world. You do what how you want to do it. And don't let anybody pressure you or make you feel bad about anything else.

00:34:59:22 - 00:35:29:21
Tom
Because at the end of the day, you're with your spouse, whether you like them or not, because again, like Bonnie said, she's seen we have seen people whisper into other singles, like we had one couple where the guy was telling his wife cooking a boyfriend, and then come home and tell me all about it while they played. And pretty soon she dumped him and she ended up marrying the boyfriend.

00:35:29:27 - 00:35:33:22
Tom
And we have seen that on numerous occasions.

00:35:33:22 - 00:35:44:16
Bunny
And we've seen it in couples too. Yes. Where for couple or two couples are really, really good friends, and then the other spouses don't know that there's something going on on the side.

00:35:44:16 - 00:35:54:29
Tom
Oh, yeah. cheating. I mean, the lifestyle that people say, oh, there's no cheating in the lifestyle. Yes, there is. And not everyone is.

00:35:55:01 - 00:35:56:03
Bunny
upfront and honest.

00:35:56:09 - 00:36:11:22
Tom
All right. Yeah. They're moral. Their morality. But yeah it just be like if they were cheating on their wife or husband without the lifestyle, they're doing it using the lifestyle to fine people.

00:36:11:24 - 00:36:12:20
Bunny
And we don't want to.

00:36:12:27 - 00:36:41:28
Tom
Now we did say what I at least one couple, two couples where they were monogamous and they were doing the hot and heavy with the, with with each other together. And then they realized they didn't have as much in common with their own spouses as they did with the other half of the other spouses. They literally all divorced, remarried the other half of the spouses, and then bought a house together.

00:36:41:28 - 00:36:46:18
Bunny
Yeah. And continued to live in a poly lifestyle.

00:36:46:21 - 00:36:48:08
Tom
Who would have thunk that?

00:36:48:11 - 00:36:50:20
Bunny
I mean.

00:36:50:22 - 00:36:52:21
Tom
But at least they acknowledge that.

00:36:52:24 - 00:37:13:29
Bunny
They weren't meant to be, right? So it was meant to be. And they just they found the one. And and it happens. It happens more than people realize, right. but no, it's like I said it to your pineapple world. You do it how you want to do it. You do, you do. You want to be a social pineapple?

00:37:13:29 - 00:37:18:11
Bunny
Or if you want to be a hardcore pineapple, more power.

00:37:18:13 - 00:37:44:05
Tom
There are pineapple people that was we ran a club for 20 years. We knew them. They would walk in the door and it was like notching the bedpost was. Their goal was. And husband and wives were are. Yeah. Husband wives would have competitions on who can bang the most people and in the six hours that they're going to be.

00:37:44:05 - 00:37:47:11
Bunny
There, they literally come up for a glass of water and go back down.

00:37:47:13 - 00:38:13:07
Tom
And they I mean, now me and Barney are like that. We're we're we were I mean, have we played with multiple couples in one setting? Absolutely. But to just go hibernate in the playroom and just stay there from the minute it opens to the time they're going to go home anyways, that does that's not the social.

00:38:13:09 - 00:38:16:02
Bunny
that's not our, our level of.

00:38:16:02 - 00:38:32:03
Tom
Comfort. Yeah. We like socializing. We don't, no orgy settings. I mean, there's a lot of orgies out there. Nothing wrong with them. Mind and bindings, kind of thoughts on this. Is.

00:38:32:05 - 00:38:34:24
Tom
Everyone has to be attracted to everyone.

00:38:34:26 - 00:38:38:09
Bunny
That's what I would think. Yes.

00:38:38:11 - 00:39:12:29
Tom
we do have to have an attraction, whether it be physical or mental. we both need to have somewhat of an attraction. And that type of environment you just got to be you got to put blinders on and I guess throw caution to the wind. Our big thing is call me OCD. I'm uncleanliness fanatic and going from partner to partner to partner to partner to partner to partner.

00:39:13:01 - 00:39:20:04
Tom
I don't know when they washed what happened in their prison wallets, I don't.

00:39:20:06 - 00:39:36:11
Bunny
Yeah, well a lot of you don't. You don't know if she if like if you're going with a girl you don't know if she's had, intercourse with somebody with condom on or without a condom on or if somebody did not know.

00:39:36:13 - 00:39:44:23
Tom
Did he? Not in her. And then next thing you know, she wants me to go down on her. I don't know, and I'm just very uncomfortable in those scenarios.

00:39:44:26 - 00:40:07:16
Bunny
Yeah. Yeah. No, no it's just funny because and like with you know a female I mean your, your balance is completely different than somebody else's. And if somebody even doesn't wipe around their body parts before they penetrate then guess what? I am going to get a bacterial.

00:40:07:16 - 00:40:09:17
Tom
Infection or a urinary tract infection.

00:40:09:22 - 00:40:17:00
Bunny
Just from the pH balance from female to female. So it just it's your your life.

00:40:17:02 - 00:40:45:12
Tom
Now, we did organize an orgy once, and what I did was I talked to a friend of mine because we were at a club. Everyone knew who we were, so we didn't want to out ourselves. So I asked him if he would be the front. It was a couple, if they would be the front people, and because they were one of the couples that would play with this many people, as they could in a party setting, which is fine with us.

00:40:45:12 - 00:41:11:23
Tom
We're okay with that. and if we could use his place and then we're fine with that, too, because I used to have parties. Yeah. So what I did was I went on a swing lifestyle.com or cassidy.com sdc.com, and I would look at everybody, all the profiles that we were attracted to. And then I would send them a message.

00:41:11:25 - 00:41:33:02
Tom
And if they were interested in coming to this party, we were creating, then we would open it up to, each couple that was and it was couples only each couple that was interested. We would then open up the other profile so that they could see.

00:41:33:05 - 00:41:33:25
Bunny
Who they.

00:41:33:25 - 00:42:02:24
Tom
Were attracted to each other, meaning it was all pre-planned. Everyone would have an attraction to everyone. And then we set it up to 8:00 to 9:00. Everyone met at this couples house and then 9:00 if you after meeting everyone for an hour and we had drinks, cocktails, we had pizza. If you weren't interested in even one person, how many people did we have?

00:42:02:29 - 00:42:06:26
Tom
We had 12 couples. So, yeah. And a 11th stay.

00:42:06:27 - 00:42:07:22
Bunny
Yeah.

00:42:07:24 - 00:42:37:07
Tom
If you weren't attracted to every single person and willing basically by staying, you were giving your consent. We weren't forcing it. We're just saying, consent was implied by staying after 9:00. The other thing was we locked the door. No one's allowed back in our in after 9:00. And that way it didn't interrupt anything. And then we had stacks of washcloths in the bathrooms.

00:42:37:09 - 00:42:54:26
Tom
If there was any penetration with or without a condom. We're not mom and dad. We're just saying, with or without, before it went into somebody else's present wallet, they needed to go to the bathroom and actually wash their junk. And so with the female.

00:42:55:25 - 00:43:02:25
Tom
And that was probably one of our best parties. We've only done it once and it was hard to do.

00:43:02:26 - 00:43:03:07
Bunny
Yeah.

00:43:03:13 - 00:43:10:03
Tom
But it was probably one of the best experiences we've ever had because it was, it was a lot of fun.

00:43:10:05 - 00:43:12:18
Bunny
It was a lot of fun for sure.

00:43:12:20 - 00:43:21:20
Tom
But he did have to pull somebody off of me because it was her intention to make me right. And Bonnie's right.

00:43:21:21 - 00:43:23:16
Bunny
No no no no no no no.

00:43:23:16 - 00:43:24:05
Tom
We're here to have.

00:43:24:05 - 00:43:42:06
Bunny
Fun with a lot of people and people. Not just one, not just one person. That was during Eddie. And when he was able to achieve an erection the minute he orgasm, he was done for the night night done. And I'm like, no, no, no no no no no no no.

00:43:42:10 - 00:43:45:26
Tom
Once it goes up it's fine. But once

00:43:45:28 - 00:43:51:13
Bunny
So I was like no no no no no he, he didn't come here for just you. Right. I was nice about it.

00:43:51:19 - 00:43:53:23
Tom
Now we haven't been this open in.

00:43:53:26 - 00:43:54:20
Bunny
A long time.

00:43:54:23 - 00:44:09:22
Tom
I mean we're, we're open books but we've never really laid it out there because like I said, these are questions people ask us. And we thought, you know what? We finally started documenting the questions and a lot of them are off the top of our heads.

00:44:09:22 - 00:44:26:02
Bunny
Right. And because, like I said, a lot of people were like, well, I don't want to go on a date with somebody or I don't want to be in separate rooms. So we just putting it out there that, yeah, Tom and I are normal everyday people that have the extra curricular, but we like to do it together.

00:44:26:07 - 00:44:29:11
Bunny
Yeah. So that's just it.

00:44:29:18 - 00:44:55:04
Tom
Now let me look. Let me show you how old I am. We got the glasses or 45 minutes. All right. So we're going to call this one, a done deal. We'll get this one up. If you did not know we are on YouTube, we're also on every part, part, podcast site. I'm getting tongue tied.

00:44:55:06 - 00:45:18:21
Tom
we also own all the social media platforms. Just look at Tom and Bonnie. If you're watching us, it's right there on the screen. Tom and boo and y. Yeah, and that's Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and all the, podcast sites. we like Spotify. I mean, it works out really good. And you can see all of our new images that we put up.

00:45:18:26 - 00:45:19:24
Bunny
Of course.

00:45:19:26 - 00:45:48:18
Tom
If you have any questions, go to Tom and bunny.com and click the contact link. And we'll, we'll reply to that. And if you are looking at traveling to hedonism, desire bliss cruises or even not in dollars, we would much, much, much really appreciate if you would book with Tom's trips.com because this is how we do these videos.

00:45:48:18 - 00:46:09:07
Tom
It cost you zero and it cost you nothing more and you might save money booking with Tom's trips than anyone else are the resort directly. So please, we beg you buck with Tom's trips.com so our bosses will continue to keep paying us to be sitting here talking about our sex life.

00:46:09:09 - 00:46:11:21
Bunny
He's happy because they're not because they're.

00:46:11:21 - 00:46:17:10
Tom
Not going to talk to you about their sex life. So anyway, until next video.

00:46:17:13 - 00:46:18:13
Bunny
We'll see you soon.

00:46:18:14 - 00:46:19:15
Tom
We'll see you soon.

Ms No Swimsuit – Naughty in Nawlins and Northaven Resort

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Ms No Swimsuit – Naughty in Nawlins and Northaven Resort

On this Podcast, we discuss our recent trips to Naughty in Nawlins, the largest upside down pineapple lifestyle swingers convention in the world! While at Naughty in Nawlins, we hosted one of the many parties on Bourbon St on Friday afternoon and promoted our Tom’s Trips Ms No Swimsuit competitions where one sexy lady out of 10 wins a chance to represent Naughty in Nawlins at Hedonism resort in Jamaica during the Tom’s Trips Ms No Swimsuit contest. Attending this event, you are a Judge!

We also discuss our upcoming trip to Northaven Resort in Brooklyn Michigan where we will be the host for Tom’s Trips Caribbean party August 1st – 3rd , 2024 Check out http://www.Northavenresort.com today

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00:00:00:00 – 00:00:23:07
Tom
Hey, everyone. Tom and Bunny here and I know we’re getting ready to watch our next video. And if you find this video useful or some of the videos from the past, please do us a favor by booking your travel through us at Tom’s trips.com, or give us a call at 1-800-285-0853 and I can answer any questions and get you booked on your next lifestyle vacation.

00:00:23:07 – 00:00:50:01
Tom
Hey everyone, we are Tom and Bunny from Tom and bunny.com. So if you are watching us on YouTube, it’s written right down at the bottom of your screen. And if you are listening to us on podcast, we invite you to come over to our YouTube channel. Because all week I got my dog pushing socks on me. All we do is we take the audio from our YouTubes and then put them over to podcasts.

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Tom
So if you want to see what Bunny is wearing right now, hubba hubba.

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Bunny
It’s new.

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Tom
It’s very new.

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Bunny
It is very new.

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Tom
jump over to our YouTube, all of our social media, everything under the sun. No matter what website we’re on, Cassidy slash SDC, it’s where all Tom and Bunny all spelled out one word.

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Bunny
It keeps it very easy. So we remember who we are right now.

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Tom
We work for Tom’s trips. Hold on. I’m going to put that on the screen.

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Bunny
There you go.

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Tom
You’re your leader in adult lifestyle. Travel to destinations all around the world. We book cruises, resorts and events like Noddy and Northerns. Yeah.

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Bunny
That was fun. We’re going to talk. We’re going to talk about that one this trip.

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Tom
Yeah. So right now we’re going to talk about a couple of events, a previous event not in dollars. And then North Haven. Yes, that’s coming up next week.

00:01:45:01 – 00:01:49:05
Bunny
So that’s going to be August 2nd and third in Brooklyn, Michigan.

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Tom
Yeah. And we’re going to be we’re going to meet a couple other podcasters up there.

00:01:53:11 – 00:02:02:04
Bunny
Why we’re there we are. It’s going to be a real fun filled weekend. But you know, one one thing that I want to know, how come everybody invites us out for the Jamaican week?

00:02:02:06 – 00:02:03:17
Tom
I don’t know.

00:02:03:19 – 00:02:05:08
Bunny
Do they think we’re just American or.

00:02:05:08 – 00:02:21:11
Tom
Something? We aren’t American, but maybe because Tom’s Trips is the most booking travel agency. hedonism we saw and number two of the entire island of Jamaica. Mind.

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Bunny
So yes.

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Tom
We are, we are. Our company is well-respected in the travel industry and the Jamaica, region.

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Bunny
We’re quite busy.

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Tom
We are very.

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Bunny
Busy.

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Tom
So we just got back from Nadia and we did.

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Bunny
Oh, my gosh, we haven’t been there since before Covid, so I think the last time we were there was the summer of 2019.

00:02:45:02 – 00:03:01:07
Tom
Yeah. And we we were excited to go back because our schedules haven’t allowed us to go back because it never coincided with our travel schedule. And we were always booked somewhere else.

00:03:01:09 – 00:03:11:16
Bunny
So we definitely realized how much fun we had missed out on. Yes, every single time. And every time we go back, it gets bigger and bigger and bigger.

00:03:11:17 – 00:03:40:19
Tom
It’s packed. I mean, you want to, meet thousands and I, I’m not exaggerating. Thousands of pineapple people in one place. Now they take up all of Bourbon Street. They take up several hotels, but they all wear, lanyards with their event passes on them. So you could spot a pineapple person walking down the street from a mile away.

00:03:40:20 – 00:03:52:17
Bunny
You know, we we actually we booked very, very late and we did not stay at one of the host hotels. We had to stand and and another one and that’s our dog.

00:03:52:19 – 00:04:13:14
Bunny
And as we’re walking down in front of the hotel, I looked at Tom and I’m like, hey, there’s some of those freaky people. Yes, they had their lanyards on and they kind of jump back. And I started laughing. I pulled mine out. Don’t worry, I am too. And they’re like, oh, should we not wear these down Burma Street?

00:04:13:14 – 00:04:28:23
Bunny
I said, you can wear them wherever you want. And they said, certainly no one’s going to know when I’m like, ha ha. Everybody on Bourbon Street now was right when the pineapple people are in town. So sorry. our dog did not get the memo that today was a work day.

00:04:28:25 – 00:04:31:26
Tom
Today is podcast day. Bama.

00:04:31:28 – 00:04:32:28
Bunny
And she she.

00:04:32:29 – 00:04:47:27
Tom
Bring me a sock. So, we absolutely had a blast at Naughty Dollars. more importantly, is one of the main reasons we went there was because Bob was getting married.

00:04:47:29 – 00:04:55:26
Bunny
Yep. He got remarried, got remarried. It was a beautiful little intimate, setting. And it was really, really nice.

00:04:56:02 – 00:04:56:16
Tom
Right.

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Bunny
So it was the first time that we got to meet Adrianna.

00:05:01:00 – 00:05:01:18
Tom
Yes.

00:05:01:18 – 00:05:09:17
Bunny
So. But it was so, so good to see so many people that we haven’t seen in absolute years. Tom, stop playing with your socks.

00:05:09:21 – 00:05:21:18
Tom
I know I was trying to grab her because I was going to put her out here. I got her, I was going to put her on camera. This is our Bama.

00:05:21:20 – 00:05:23:03
Bunny
That’s our troublemaker.

00:05:23:05 – 00:05:35:16
Tom
She likes to growl down, at our legs. And one video, we did a blooper reel and I called it bunnies Angry Vagina because she kept growling right in Bunny’s crotch.

00:05:35:19 – 00:06:03:11
Bunny
It’s about what she’s going to start doing now. Luckily, it’s only a sock. Another squeaky toy or one of those honkers, right? So. Oh, funny story on that. She loves these stuffed animals at home and they make all these horrible noises. So I am in the middle of the store and I’m looking at this toy, and I honk it, and it sounded like a fart.

00:06:03:14 – 00:06:10:04
Bunny
And I did it right as an employee was walking by me turn and he looked at me. Really? Now I start laughing. I said, it’s a toy.

00:06:10:06 – 00:06:11:06
Tom
For toy, not.

00:06:11:06 – 00:06:11:27
Bunny
Me.

00:06:11:29 – 00:06:41:11
Tom
It was a for me. I don’t know what you’re talking about. So I didn’t say take up. I mean, it used to be just the weekends when we would go over there Thursday to get all checked in and the party started on Friday and Saturday. Now people show up on Monday. Yeah, they have a pre-party on Tuesday. Then it really kicks off Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and then everyone goes home Sunday.

00:06:41:17 – 00:06:43:24
Tom
But they even have an after party on Sunday.

00:06:43:25 – 00:06:45:27
Bunny
They drag home on Sunday.

00:06:45:29 – 00:07:18:08
Tom
Yeah. if you are interested and going to not in all ends. There is a link on Tom’s trips.com. Tom’s trips.com. Just go to that web page and scroll down. You’ll see $19 for 2025. Book your room. Book your event. It’s something. Whether you’ve ever been to an event or ever traveled, you can feel comfortable there because you’re not just at a lifestyle only event.

00:07:18:13 – 00:07:20:28
Tom
It’s everybody under the sun.

00:07:20:29 – 00:07:29:13
Bunny
And there is something for everybody. I mean, starting at noon every day, you’re going to have two, two parties on Bourbon Street.

00:07:29:14 – 00:07:31:16
Tom
Usually right across the street from each other.

00:07:31:16 – 00:07:43:28
Bunny
And then at 3:00 you’ve got two more that spring up. If you’re not a party person, they have a pool party. So they have both pools open during the day, right? They have every seminar that you can possibly imagine.

00:07:44:04 – 00:07:46:05
Tom
I’m kicking the dog. I think time.

00:07:46:07 – 00:07:55:07
Bunny
One of the one of the, presenters that I, absolutely fell in love with. And I just thought she was amazing. Was Doctor Stephanie.

00:07:55:10 – 00:07:57:07
Tom
Oh, she was awesome.

00:07:57:07 – 00:08:02:21
Bunny
She was. We’ve been always keep missing each other. And it was finally great to finally meet her.

00:08:02:21 – 00:08:09:24
Tom
And we got to meet Dan and Lacey from the, swinging Nation. the swinger society.

00:08:09:26 – 00:08:15:03
Bunny
And let’s not forget, we got to reconnect with Jay and Angie from Avid Swingers.

00:08:15:06 – 00:08:25:05
Tom
Yeah, so it’s been a long time since we’ve seen them. And on Tik Tok, if you ever seen her sexy swinger check, we got to meet her.

00:08:25:07 – 00:08:28:18
Bunny
And, swinging flamingos. We also know very, very well.

00:08:28:18 – 00:08:29:10
Tom
Yes.

00:08:29:12 – 00:08:30:28
Bunny
I don’t know if we can say their names.

00:08:31:01 – 00:08:41:24
Tom
I don’t think so. They were going to start posting their pictures because they said what the hell, we’re going to come out. And then all of a sudden they stop posting their pictures so we won’t say their name.

00:08:41:24 – 00:08:47:05
Bunny
So we did meet quite, quite a few other podcasters and YouTubers.

00:08:47:06 – 00:08:48:07
Tom
Up and comers.

00:08:48:08 – 00:08:51:17
Bunny
But I am horrible with names and I’m really sorry.

00:08:51:19 – 00:09:04:22
Tom
I know we should have wrote it all down, but, we we always suggest people this, and we suggest to people that they should listen. And, all kinds of content creators.

00:09:04:24 – 00:09:05:27
Bunny
Some we.

00:09:06:03 – 00:09:06:25
Tom
May.

00:09:06:28 – 00:09:13:02
Bunny
Forget, some big ones that we’ve actually had many conversations with was.

00:09:13:05 – 00:09:20:17
Tom
Charlie, Jackie from Open Love 101 and the owners of color, probably the biggest names out there.

00:09:20:20 – 00:09:24:10
Bunny
So like I said, it’s just been everything’s been a whirlwind since we got back.

00:09:24:12 – 00:09:52:22
Tom
We’re you know, we’re not scripted here. We’re just talking. So whatever comes flying through our little brains, it comes out of our mouth. And then so if we missed something, we do apologize. But we do, we do like that. There are up and comer podcasters, TikTok ers and YouTubers and stuff like that. You know, we always say, listen to everybody.

00:09:52:22 – 00:10:11:02
Tom
You might resonate better with somebody, might not, you might get bad information, you might get great information. But the whole thing is a good melting pot of information that you can decipher from because every podcaster talks about stuff other people believe them.

00:10:11:06 – 00:10:16:25
Bunny
Exactly. And there’s there’s a podcaster out there for everything. Everything from.

00:10:16:25 – 00:10:17:10
Tom
From,

00:10:17:12 – 00:10:24:11
Bunny
From the single females to the single males to young 20s all the way up to.

00:10:24:13 – 00:10:24:29
Tom
All right.

00:10:25:00 – 00:10:29:21
Bunny
All right, I, I wasn’t going to throw a number.

00:10:29:23 – 00:10:33:00
Tom
if you’re going to go there, we might as well say, because we’re we’re old.

00:10:33:06 – 00:10:35:03
Bunny
We’re the old ones out here.

00:10:35:05 – 00:10:51:23
Tom
We are the old ones. when we started doing our YouTube channel, there was only a few out there. Average Swingers was doing their podcast, Open Love 101. John and Jackie, they were doing a YouTube channel.

00:10:52:12 – 00:11:23:14
Tom
And there was maybe a couple of others, but it was a very new, environment. And we started it because we ran a club in California and we thought we kept hearing different information online, and then we would see the responses and we weren’t countering any responses. What what we were doing was telling people how we would personally navigate certain situations and the lifestyle in general.

00:11:23:16 – 00:11:30:24
Tom
And what worked for us may or may not work for them, but at least it’s a guide or a direction they can look into.

00:11:31:01 – 00:11:53:09
Bunny
Right? So now we’ll go back to 99 okay. So on top of meeting all of these people that we had never met before or reconnecting the ones that we haven’t seen in years, you know, you have all your different little seminars, right? And Tom was invited to sit in on one and it fizzled. It didn’t go anywhere.

00:11:53:10 – 00:11:57:11
Tom
Nobody showed up.

00:11:57:13 – 00:12:01:24
Bunny
But it was framed. The old guy felt like it was phrased.

00:12:01:26 – 00:12:22:14
Tom
stuff that happened from years past or something. But you know what? It was, it was some other well-known people that own clubs, and we had some great stories. So y’all missed out because now we’re not going to repeat them. Oh, no, they’re locked away. They’re like, you know.

00:12:22:15 – 00:12:25:15
Bunny
Yeah. We can’t share them now.

00:12:25:17 – 00:12:32:06
Tom
That’s all right. So we had fun just chilling and we, we were going down memory lane with these people.

00:12:32:08 – 00:12:38:05
Bunny
Oh, it was great. I mean, to see JC yeah, we haven’t seen JC since,

00:12:38:08 – 00:12:39:05
Tom
American Republic.

00:12:39:05 – 00:12:45:04
Bunny
Yeah, yeah. So so no, it was an absolute amazing time. We had so much fun.

00:12:45:08 – 00:12:47:20
Tom
We did do the Miss No swimsuit contest.

00:12:47:20 – 00:12:48:14
Bunny
We did.

00:12:48:14 – 00:12:59:20
Tom
So this is where. So we are where we’re going to go. We we just decided we could go within two weeks notice.

00:13:00:07 – 00:13:28:17
Tom
So we weren’t expecting to sponsor anything or to set up a booth or do anything because we, we didn’t know and we didn’t want to ask for anything because, you know, they already had their stuff coordinated. So Bob gave us our own party on Bourbon Street, and it was the, noon party. So we, we were going back and forth with Bob, and we were like, hey, we want to do a miss.

00:13:28:19 – 00:13:52:27
Tom
No swimsuit. are we able to. And he goes, well, you could do anything you want, but remember the noon parties is kind of the start of the day, and people kind of trickle in, and it’s the, 3:00 party that because everyone is finally at the noon parties and it ends at three. So they’re ready to go to the 3:00 foreign.

00:13:52:28 – 00:13:53:24
Tom
Really terrible.

00:13:53:24 – 00:13:57:01
Bunny
And at the noon party, they’re just starting to drink.

00:13:57:01 – 00:14:13:20
Tom
Yeah. So they’re not drunk yet. So the party, we didn’t think the party was going to be there. So we discussed it and we thought, well, yeah, we’ll play it by ear, we’ll see what happens. But if anything 2025, we will do an official miss No swimsuit contest.

00:14:13:21 – 00:14:20:22
Bunny
Now, one of the things that you got to know about Tom and I is we are fly by the seat of our pants, right? If they say we can do it, we’re going.

00:14:20:22 – 00:14:22:08
Tom
For it, and we will exploit it.

00:14:22:08 – 00:14:26:20
Bunny
And we, you know, you said yes. Okay, we’re taking it all the way.

00:14:26:27 – 00:14:39:13
Tom
So we used to do our Miss No swimsuit, raise you on Saturday at 3:00. It was one of the premiere parties. Besides the Kassidy foam party that was hard to compete with.

00:14:39:16 – 00:14:39:23
Bunny
At the.

00:14:39:23 – 00:15:10:10
Tom
Beach. At the beach. But we were the final party of the event, and it was really cool. They would block out all the windows so nobody could see it, and we would have anywhere from 10 to 15 ladies going up competing to represent Not and Orleans at our event miss no swimsuit in Jamaica. in March. Well this event we couldn’t get an answer if they could be nude or not.

00:15:10:11 – 00:15:17:24
Bunny
We couldn’t even get an answer if we could have Ronnie come and announce it until the bar opened at 12.

00:15:17:25 – 00:15:41:04
Tom
We didn’t know we could deejay it, or we knew there was gonna be a light band, but we didn’t know what control we had with the deejay, the microphone, or we could deejay. So we finally, five minutes before they open, we get this feel there’s going to be a band. We can use the microphones when, we can stop the band, we can make announcements, whatever.

00:15:41:06 – 00:16:02:19
Tom
We can’t touch their deejay equipment. Even though we have had a professional sound and lighting guy right there, we weren’t allowed to touch it. It’s fine. They brought in a DJ, so we told them what we wanted to play, and we were finally told they didn’t care what we did. And we were like, are you sure?

00:16:02:21 – 00:16:05:22
Bunny
Windows all open to Bourbon Street?

00:16:05:24 – 00:16:16:23
Tom
Everything is wide open in this bar. The doors are wide open and we had ten contestants and they all got naked.

00:16:16:23 – 00:16:23:13
Bunny
Well, it got really scary because, well, right at 12, just as we’re opening the doors, it starts to pour.

00:16:23:15 – 00:16:25:28
Tom
Oh yeah. So we were like, okay, our party’s.

00:16:25:28 – 00:16:27:16
Bunny
Just done because we’re.

00:16:27:18 – 00:16:28:18
Tom
Way down bourbon.

00:16:28:21 – 00:16:46:06
Bunny
And then next thing I know, I see people walking by us, and then I see him going next to the party across the street. And then I realize we don’t have any but a sign, a sign holder. So what happens is not in New Orleans, has people, volunteers, do, you know, for for different things and they are assigned different places.

00:16:46:06 – 00:16:46:29
Bunny
Well, there is.

00:16:46:29 – 00:16:47:29
Tom
A little fubar.

00:16:47:29 – 00:16:57:00
Bunny
Yeah. And our sign holder person decided not to show up. So I’m like, screw this, I got it. So I’m out here dancing.

00:16:57:02 – 00:17:16:00
Tom
Funny. She’s out there holding our sign, guiding people in. Of course they have to have the lanyards. Get it? And that was the only stipulation. Then she goes across the street to the other party and directs people over to our party.

00:17:16:03 – 00:17:17:12
Bunny
Oh, we’re gonna make it there anyways.

00:17:17:12 – 00:17:49:05
Tom
Meanwhile, the other bar is calling Bob’s saying, hey, no one’s coming in our bar. And meanwhile buddy out, they’re going go over to our party. So. Okay. So yeah, yeah, that was a little unscrupulous, but it was fun. we did finally get a couple door monitors and but there’s still the other party didn’t kick off because they knew what was going to happen at our party and they weren’t let down.

00:17:49:08 – 00:18:04:02
Bunny
But come in coming at like 1230, 1:00. Everybody is just now starting to roll in. Now we only have this place until three, right? They’re starting to roll in. They’re all sober and trying to get girls to do this was like.

00:18:04:05 – 00:18:04:16
Tom
Pulling.

00:18:04:16 – 00:18:05:12
Bunny
Teeth. Yeah.

00:18:05:14 – 00:18:07:07
Tom
Cause they were all sober.

00:18:07:09 – 00:18:20:20
Bunny
And so we had two of our past contestants there. So we had Stacy Stacy and Dennis. Denise. Yeah. And with the help of those two, we were able to get ten contestants, right?

00:18:20:20 – 00:18:23:12
Tom
And we were trying to keep it at ten.

00:18:23:20 – 00:18:26:14
Bunny
Some of them did it just because they got a free pair of panties.

00:18:26:14 – 00:18:45:10
Tom
Yes, we give out booty shorts, so I’ll I’ll play the video of Bunny holding the sign, and then I’ll show a picture of what the booty shorts look like. So I got to remember to do that. So if I didn’t do it, make a negative comment. That’ll get me on the ball next time.

00:18:45:12 – 00:18:51:18
Bunny
But we had those girls, came onto the shoot like, normally the first one.

00:18:51:20 – 00:18:52:10
Tom
Is so.

00:18:52:10 – 00:18:56:04
Bunny
Shy and doesn’t really know what to do. Oh heck no.

00:18:56:04 – 00:19:06:14
Tom
And as each girl goes, the other girls one up them because they seen what the other girls are doing. But the last girl.

00:19:06:17 – 00:19:10:27
Bunny
Oh yeah. So the first girl, actually,

00:19:11:00 – 00:19:12:20
Tom
And they did a phenomenal job.

00:19:12:21 – 00:19:22:00
Bunny
The first girl came out immediately and got naked right away. and then she proceeded to put a lot of steam.

00:19:22:02 – 00:19:42:02
Tom
I was being blocked by some dude. I had a great view of the stage and some seven foot tall dude walks right in front of me and stands there. And not only was I there, there was like four other people. Like, really? You’re seven feet tall. You should have a mental awareness to go against the wall, right?

00:19:42:04 – 00:19:42:22
Bunny
You’re like, it wasn’t.

00:19:42:25 – 00:19:44:29
Tom
So I got blocked for half of the contest.

00:19:44:29 – 00:19:57:21
Bunny
But so no, they did. They absolutely did. Amazing. And one thing I was cracking up at is here, they’re naked on the stage and they don’t care. They don’t even see the people behind in the window. I know they’re looking in the window.

00:19:57:24 – 00:20:06:28
Tom
I look over and I’m like, oh, they’re they’re getting a show. And like all, all eyes are inside.

00:20:07:05 – 00:20:17:00
Bunny
And all of these girls there. The applause was just absolutely amazing. But they had a good time. But our winner our winner was last.

00:20:17:07 – 00:20:18:00
Tom
Yes.

00:20:18:00 – 00:20:19:00
Bunny
And, she.

00:20:19:00 – 00:20:20:03
Tom
Was in to win.

00:20:20:03 – 00:20:22:08
Bunny
It. Can we say what she did?

00:20:22:11 – 00:20:27:15
Tom
Well, you got to be careful because of the censoring on YouTube, but you can.

00:20:27:18 – 00:20:30:05
Bunny
Okay, so let’s just say that,

00:20:30:08 – 00:20:32:19
Tom
You’re going to have to use a little imagination on this.

00:20:32:19 – 00:20:39:06
Bunny
So she decided she wanted to put a small little alcohol bottle. Like what? You would get.

00:20:39:08 – 00:20:40:08
Tom
The airline.

00:20:40:10 – 00:20:45:01
Bunny
On and shot that little thing. She was going to put it in a place that it shouldn’t be.

00:20:45:05 – 00:20:47:14
Tom
She was going to put it in her present wallet.

00:20:47:16 – 00:21:02:02
Bunny
Yes. And then, Yeah, that’s where she was going to put it and then pull it out and do a shot. Yeah. Well, she sent her husband to the store to buy one of those, and he couldn’t find that. And he came back with one of this, did the double serving of wine bottle.

00:21:02:02 – 00:21:05:14
Tom
That would do it. Two glasses.

00:21:05:16 – 00:21:06:03
Bunny
In.

00:21:06:05 – 00:21:09:15
Tom
The bottle was like, where’s that thing? Don’t know.

00:21:09:15 – 00:21:14:23
Bunny
It’s just the first thing. She looked at her. She’s like, what do you want me to do with this?

00:21:14:25 – 00:21:32:24
Tom
So while the other girls were competing, before the competition, she started getting, into our present wallet. It’s only for about five, ten minutes. Yeah, and once it was in there, she. I don’t think she want to take it out.

00:21:32:27 – 00:21:34:14
Bunny
She was. She was enjoying it.

00:21:34:14 – 00:21:40:15
Tom
She was enjoying it way too much. She just hit the, the neck of it up and down.

00:21:40:16 – 00:21:47:10
Bunny
Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, it’s funny because she came right up immediately and got naked and like, oh my gosh, that thing is going to come out.

00:21:47:12 – 00:21:53:02
Tom
I told her I should be careful about bending over. You’re going to shoot that thing out like a frickin shotgun shell.

00:21:53:09 – 00:22:07:00
Bunny
Knock somebody out. Yeah. Somebody out. But then she should start dancing. She turned around, she squatted, and she pushed that thing right out, and, Oh, my God, that was it. Everybody went crazy.

00:22:07:05 – 00:22:27:08
Tom
And then she opened it and took a big drink and then called Ronnie, one of our entertainers up, and he got down on his knees to do a body shot, and she just poured it down between her cleavage down into him, and he drank it, and then he spit it all over the audience.

00:22:27:10 – 00:22:29:17
Bunny
Space thing. She just couldn’t make it out, like.

00:22:29:18 – 00:22:34:21
Tom
I think we got. Oh, I was taking pictures of them, so I got a great picture of that.

00:22:34:21 – 00:22:41:18
Bunny
So that guy finally moved. Yeah. You got to see the show. Yeah. But no, it it was really, really.

00:22:41:21 – 00:22:44:21
Tom
Nice coming to.

00:22:44:23 – 00:22:47:22
Bunny
swimsuit in March. March 1st be the eighth.

00:22:47:22 – 00:23:09:15
Tom
March 1st to the eighth. If you would like to go to miss no swimsuit. It is one of Tom’s trips and hedonism, most interactive events. Because if you come to watch the competition and typically there’s 8 to 10 ladies representing clubs and events around the nation, you are a judge.

00:23:09:17 – 00:23:10:02
Bunny
Yes.

00:23:10:02 – 00:23:25:13
Tom
And your responsibility is to pick your top three. And then out of all the, combinations of points and math and everything, one is deemed a winner. And then we got a second place and a runner up.

00:23:25:15 – 00:23:35:13
Bunny
so it’s super fun. And you get to see things like that before. Yes. Because we actually did have one that would always put glitter in her prison wallet.

00:23:35:15 – 00:23:39:17
Tom
And throw it out.

00:23:39:19 – 00:23:40:19
Tom
People are like.

00:23:40:22 – 00:23:41:10
Bunny
Oh.

00:23:41:12 – 00:23:49:05
Tom
Where are these people going? I’ve never been to a place like that. Well, you got to travel with us.

00:23:49:06 – 00:23:50:20
Bunny
And you got to come to the party.

00:23:50:20 – 00:23:52:07
Tom
You got to come to the parties.

00:23:52:10 – 00:24:03:15
Bunny
Yes. So yeah, no, we definitely, definitely have a great time, that’s for sure. Yes. And and you know what stories like that people are like. Yeah, right. Whatever. Oh people that don’t live in our life.

00:24:03:15 – 00:24:05:14
Tom
Right.

00:24:05:17 – 00:24:12:20
Bunny
Relishing the boring. The boring people that are just going out for dinner and to the movies on the weekends.

00:24:12:23 – 00:24:13:03
Tom
Yeah.

00:24:13:05 – 00:24:17:18
Bunny
They’re like, people don’t really do that. Yeah, yeah, we do know.

00:24:17:20 – 00:24:19:04
Tom
They don’t dress up for each other.

00:24:19:11 – 00:24:21:17
Bunny
No, not at all. No, not at all.

00:24:21:19 – 00:25:06:24
Tom
So, again, see? Yeah. Barney’s angry vagina down there. So if you would like to go to Nadia again, go to Tom’s trips.com. Scroll down. You’ll see Anthony and Nolan’s banner. Click it and it’ll take you right to the booking and everything. and then on miss no swimsuit you can go to no swimsuit.com. And I have been uploading pictures of the previous years of them, and I’m starting to upload the contestants for the 2025 contest, so just keep checking out.

00:25:06:24 – 00:25:19:29
Tom
No swimsuit.com and you’ll get an eyeful. And follow us on Twitter because we post all the pictures we can’t post on Instagram and Facebook on Twitter.

00:25:21:01 – 00:25:23:03
Tom
Yeah. So definitely go to Twitter.

00:25:23:05 – 00:25:23:24
Bunny
So you.

00:25:23:24 – 00:25:28:06
Tom
Can follow us on Twitter. Tom and Bonnie are troops.

00:25:28:11 – 00:25:38:04
Bunny
So and for if you’d like to meet us they said next week I know it’s like really quick and it’s probably going to be that week. And you put the video out, I’m going to.

00:25:38:04 – 00:25:39:14
Tom
Put it I’m going to try to put it out by.

00:25:39:14 – 00:25:43:22
Bunny
Tomorrow, August. I think it’s the first, first, second, third. We’re going to be there.

00:25:43:23 – 00:25:44:29
Tom
Got a calendar on your phone.

00:25:45:00 – 00:25:51:04
Bunny
It’s okay. But we’re going to be at North Haven in Brooklyn, Michigan and then and.

00:25:51:07 – 00:26:05:14
Tom
And the website to that is an o r t h a v and resort.com. So it’s not North Haven, it’s North Haven resort.com.

00:26:05:14 – 00:26:14:29
Bunny
Yes. So it’s a really really fun place to go. You can it it’s a clothing optional. It’s a clothing up so clothing optional.

00:26:15:05 – 00:26:38:02
Tom
So they have sometimes I mean it varies per event but some they have group breakfast on certain days they have group dinners where a group will supply dinner for the whole entire resort. Our breakfast. We’ve done that in the past. We last year we did margaritas, right?

00:26:38:05 – 00:26:40:12
Bunny
We did. We did. We did a margaritas on.

00:26:40:12 – 00:26:42:10
Tom
Soups and salsa bar.

00:26:42:12 – 00:26:54:25
Bunny
So we are actually, they ask one of their members to kind of sponsor the party and they come up with it. Well, this year the their member, he’s they pretty much got everything covered.

00:26:54:26 – 00:27:03:09
Tom
Yeah. So we we get to enjoy a lot marks. They’re going to handle the pool games and events and everything.

00:27:03:09 – 00:27:12:13
Bunny
And Friday night they have a little pond. Yeah. And they call it the beach area. So on Friday night, we’re actually having a Caribbean beach party down there.

00:27:12:14 – 00:27:39:13
Tom
Right. And then we are going to be bringing our Toms trips 360 photo booth. And we’ll set up and we’ll put the background image of that event for Friday night. and then we’ll do videos of all the guests. We don’t share those videos. We’ll share our videos. We don’t care. but all those videos go to each of the individual guests that was on the platform.

00:27:39:13 – 00:27:40:00
Bunny
Yes.

00:27:40:00 – 00:27:48:26
Tom
And the camera spins around them. They just stand there and as I say, looks stupid for 30s. And it will be an awesome video.

00:27:48:26 – 00:28:01:05
Bunny
Yeah. Because if you look like you’re wanting to be sexy or anything, they don’t turn out, you gotta you gotta look like you’re having fun. Yeah. And then on Saturday night is my ever favorite theme. And it’s so easy for me. It’s glow night glow party.

00:28:01:07 – 00:28:09:12
Tom
Yeah. And we’ll be setting up the 360 photo booth for a glow party. they have a nightclub there. It’s a really nice night.

00:28:09:13 – 00:28:10:27
Bunny
Very, very nice nightclub.

00:28:10:27 – 00:28:16:20
Tom
So we’ll we’ll set it up just out on their back. it’s the smoking patio, right?

00:28:16:23 – 00:28:27:12
Bunny
so their hotel, their nightclub is called Hotel California, and it is open at least this Saturday night. Some some weekends. It’s open both Friday and Saturday.

00:28:27:15 – 00:28:46:08
Tom
Now North Haven has cabins where they just have just a bed, dresser, TV and everything you would have except for bathrooms. they have a main bathroom with multiple showers and everything. And then they have, you can bring RVs in there.

00:28:46:10 – 00:28:50:22
Bunny
They do have some rooms that have like a half bath. So at least you have a toilet in a safe.

00:28:50:23 – 00:29:14:29
Tom
Okay. I didn’t know that. And then they have, residents that stay there throughout. Well, they don’t on the weekends. Some live there when it’s open and closed. It’s not open year around it. I think it’s open May through October or November. I don’t don’t quote me on the dates. You can check North haven.com. I’ll put a link across the screen.

00:29:15:01 – 00:29:23:22
Bunny
Well it’s because it’s so high, so far into Michigan that I know that they the city turns off the water there like in October.

00:29:23:22 – 00:29:24:14
Tom
Yeah, because.

00:29:24:19 – 00:29:26:01
Bunny
They want it to freeze, you.

00:29:26:01 – 00:29:51:18
Tom
Know. But we look forward to that. We we’ve been going there now for seven years. And a very clean very upscale resort. They have general store the prices are just normal prices in a resort like this. We’ve been to some they check up the prices on drinks or food or anything even ice here. It’s all just regular hours.

00:29:51:18 – 00:29:53:24
Tom
If you went down to your local circle K right.

00:29:53:24 – 00:30:15:09
Bunny
And it’s really nice because I mean you can get your, their, their logo, Yeti Yeti style mugs. You can get, milk. Yeah. Crackers. Chips. if you didn’t bring an outfit and you want a new sexy outfit, you can purchase one there too, right? So you pretty much a little bit of everything. And they have in that little store there.

00:30:15:10 – 00:30:19:17
Tom
Yeah. And you get to talk to people and that’s where you get your best internet.

00:30:19:20 – 00:30:20:22
Bunny
Yes. Yes it.

00:30:20:22 – 00:30:27:20
Tom
Is. So you’ll see me up there in the little tail. They got several tables out front. They got an ice cream thing.

00:30:27:22 – 00:30:29:27
Bunny
So if we ever need to do any work we go up there.

00:30:29:27 – 00:30:48:17
Tom
We go up there. we, enjoy the pool parties because they will have a live deejay overlooking the pool. And then the the pool is. It’s a pretty good sized pool, but you got to get there early if you want to DCC.

00:30:48:19 – 00:31:05:11
Bunny
Right? So if you want a chaise lounge, if you want to lay out. Yeah, you definitely have to be there early, right. and, you can’t have your alcohol in the pool. So that’s one of the reasons to why you want to get a chaise lounge. So that way you can go back to you and get get your stuff out of here.

00:31:05:11 – 00:31:06:25
Tom
Any any mug.

00:31:06:27 – 00:31:10:04
Bunny
Yet you want to bring your Yeti mug, your towels and your sunscreen.

00:31:10:05 – 00:31:24:08
Tom
Now, we talked about, like, different breakfast is our margarita. knocks over our, our chips and salsa, dinners on Thursdays. What do they call it? The drunk, drunk bitch.

00:31:24:08 – 00:31:25:07
Bunny
Thursdays.

00:31:25:09 – 00:32:01:10
Tom
It’s Thursdays. And that’s where people. You’ll see golf. You can rent golf carts there. So we got a golf cart, thank God. Otherwise we’d be cheap. A cheap being around the place. But, you basically take your golf cart, and different residents will sponsor. They put our alcohol munchies. And when we’re not talking chips or dips, we’re talking, they’re pouring it a crock pot with man, which is, different sandwiches, different types of foods and everything.

00:32:01:10 – 00:32:05:04
Tom
So it’s not like you can go hungry. And what time does that start?

00:32:05:06 – 00:32:20:01
Bunny
I don’t even know what time that one starts. That’s Thursday afternoon. Thursday evening because you say evening because there’s nothing else going on. And then Friday you have whatever party or whatever they’re doing in the meantime. And then there’s always an after party on Fridays.

00:32:20:02 – 00:32:20:22
Tom
Right.

00:32:20:24 – 00:32:29:10
Bunny
And then, same thing on Saturday. There’s always an after party after a party on Saturday nights, too.

00:32:29:11 – 00:32:37:02
Tom
Now, there was one time we went and I really liked, and that’s where the the residents.

00:32:37:05 – 00:32:38:02
Bunny
Meet your neighbors.

00:32:38:02 – 00:32:40:14
Tom
Meet your neighbors. Okay. That’s what it was called.

00:32:41:16 – 00:33:03:06
Tom
They would set up either alcohol, like a bar or, some did both. Alcohol and or Ders. We, we’re not lying when we’re talking. They were serving filet mignon bites. They were serving prime rib sandwiches. They were going all out on this stuff.

00:33:03:08 – 00:33:04:26
Bunny
Because they won a prize.

00:33:04:29 – 00:33:08:24
Tom
They won a prize, but still, I was very, very.

00:33:08:25 – 00:33:14:12
Bunny
How about the shrimp? They had shrimp that were as big as my hand. Huge like a prawn.

00:33:14:14 – 00:33:37:00
Tom
So, yeah. it’s definitely like I said, it’s an upscale resort. Very, very nice resort. The, the people who the residents as well as the guests are all amazing. Yeah. It’s you could talk to everybody. Nobody’s a stranger, nobody. And there’s no clicks. They just hang out and everything. And all you got to do is just walk up.

00:33:37:00 – 00:33:45:08
Tom
I mean, people view people as clicks. If they don’t get invited into the conversation, just walk up and say, how are you guys doing? And you’re part of the conversation.

00:33:45:08 – 00:33:53:12
Bunny
And if you’re an Avia and you, you’re looking for a place of they’re open, you know, seven days a week during.

00:33:53:14 – 00:33:54:12
Tom
Right during.

00:33:54:12 – 00:34:01:21
Bunny
Season. So, I mean, you can roll in there on Monday and just enjoy the resort and relax and lay out at the pool.

00:34:01:21 – 00:34:02:23
Tom
And then the party and.

00:34:02:24 – 00:34:05:07
Bunny
I start Thursday.

00:34:05:10 – 00:34:24:27
Tom
And so we’ll be going up world even our house in Nashville on Wednesday so we can pull in Thursday morning. Yep. And then, we’re bringing our motorhome and pulling our Wrangler because we can’t put the 360 both in our motorhome. So we got to pull the cheek to put the 360. Both in the back.

00:34:25:05 – 00:34:26:26
Bunny
Don’t let them lie to you.

00:34:26:29 – 00:34:27:21
Tom
I’m excited.

00:34:27:25 – 00:34:29:10
Bunny
He just liked full of Jeep.

00:34:29:10 – 00:34:29:29
Tom
It looks bad.

00:34:29:29 – 00:34:31:01
Bunny
Out.

00:34:31:04 – 00:34:32:27
Tom
It really does.

00:34:32:29 – 00:34:33:13
Bunny
It sure.

00:34:33:13 – 00:34:39:02
Tom
Does. But check out North haven.com. Lawton is.

00:34:39:05 – 00:34:40:08
Bunny
North North Haven.

00:34:40:14 – 00:34:49:23
Tom
North haven.com. Yeah North haven.com. And like I said I’ll put links throughout the video and everything right over the top of our faces.

00:34:49:23 – 00:34:51:16
Bunny
And you will not be disappointed at all.

00:34:51:17 – 00:35:09:06
Tom
You won’t be disappointed. And hopefully you guys come out, the first weekend of August. We’ll be there. we know that there’s gonna be another, couple that just started doing podcast, and so we’re going to meet them while we’re there. So that’ll be kind of fun and interesting.

00:35:09:07 – 00:35:10:16
Bunny
Absolutely. Yeah.

00:35:10:18 – 00:35:30:27
Tom
And, they’re going to be doing a party in South Bend, Indiana pretty soon in September. We can’t go because we’re going to be in to make them on. But if you’re looking for a party in South Bend, Indiana, send us a message. We’ll get you hooked up with that couple, and hopefully we can help them get all sold out.

00:35:30:27 – 00:35:31:07
Tom
And.

00:35:31:14 – 00:35:32:01
Bunny
Right, right.

00:35:32:02 – 00:35:35:12
Tom
This is our first party.

00:35:35:14 – 00:35:37:13
Bunny
more power to them.

00:35:37:15 – 00:35:39:09
Tom
Hahaha.

00:35:39:11 – 00:35:46:05
Bunny
Parties are fun. They’re fun to run. But man, you, Yeah, it’s a lot of work.

00:35:46:07 – 00:35:48:16
Tom
So how much time are we into this far?

00:35:48:17 – 00:35:50:07
Bunny
I don’t know, I can’t see I’m getting on.

00:35:50:13 – 00:35:59:10
Tom
Hold on. I’m going to put the glasses on. We are, 35. Man, that’s not bad.

00:35:59:12 – 00:36:02:13
Bunny
I five.

00:36:02:15 – 00:36:16:01
Tom
All right, so we are going to be doing a couple videos after this about just pineapple world stuff. as we’ve been going around, I know we haven’t done a video in a while, and if we have, it was about my junk.

00:36:16:04 – 00:36:17:22
Bunny
And which is healing perfect.

00:36:17:23 – 00:36:25:23
Tom
It’s healing perfectly. So we are going to get my urologist. I was just chatting with him last Saturday.

00:36:25:25 – 00:36:26:09
Bunny
Yes.

00:36:26:10 – 00:36:46:24
Tom
And so we will get him. I gave him the dates that we’re not going to be here. So I told him whatever date he wants to come up. And if you have any questions for the urologist, send, don’t go to Tom bodycon. We have a contact link on there. Send us messages and I will ask the urologist right here on camera.

00:36:47:12 – 00:36:50:13
Tom
And even may or may not answer but I’ll ask.

00:36:50:15 – 00:36:57:02
Bunny
Well and even then you know like I said, if you have any questions regarding any of that.

00:36:57:05 – 00:37:19:29
Tom
Implants, ed medications, you know, a lot of people we hear all the time in front of a lot of people that no one ever has an issue. Privately, I get all the messages and our the text, our calls are feedback saying, hey, I, I’m embarrassed. I don’t want to ever bring this up. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

00:37:19:29 – 00:37:24:25
Tom
No. It’s life. I mean, we lose our eyesight. I say, I got glasses.

00:37:24:29 – 00:37:25:12
Bunny
We lose our.

00:37:25:12 – 00:37:28:02
Tom
Hair, we lose.

00:37:29:03 – 00:37:29:21
Tom
I will lose them.

00:37:29:21 – 00:37:31:08
Bunny
I got a spot right here.

00:37:31:08 – 00:37:33:14
Tom
I did have my cochlear implants.

00:37:33:21 – 00:37:36:00
Bunny
Yeah, my sixth surgery.

00:37:36:00 – 00:37:57:19
Tom
So we gotta turn it head. I will, I was doing this, but I’ve had six surgeries because each time they do one surgery at a time to make sure that it works and everything. So I started with the bars, and then I went to the Baja Magnetic. Now I’m on the OCA, TOS and the OCA to let me see if I can take it off.

00:37:57:21 – 00:38:12:21
Tom
It is this little thing here. It’s not very big, and it just magnetized this to the side of my head, and then I can hear everything. I can stream my TV to them. I can talk on my phone through them. I can watch TikTok through them.

00:38:12:24 – 00:38:13:28
Bunny
You know, it’s pretty interesting.

00:38:13:28 – 00:38:18:29
Tom
This is what they look like. Camera. Yep. Okay. Yep. So I’ve got one on both sides.

00:38:19:05 – 00:38:47:29
Bunny
It was pretty interesting because his otolaryngologist is very new to the Nashville area and to the, clinic that we go to. and then when we went in for the first surgery, the, the nurse was like, so who is this doctor? I’ve never heard of them. And I’m like, oh, you know. And I told her, I said, he’s the only one outside of Vanderbilt that’s doing these implants, right?

00:38:47:29 – 00:38:49:19
Tom
Yeah. It’s only two doctors.

00:38:49:19 – 00:38:58:23
Bunny
Yeah. And then he comes back in two months later and they’re like, oh my gosh, you’re back. They’re not used to doing two. They’re used to only doing one right.

00:38:58:23 – 00:39:27:01
Tom
Most people that have a cochlear implant have one because it uses your skull as a conductor for your hearing. Could I go with one? I could, but I don’t hear as well because I am deaf. I mean, if you look at my hearing results, I am 95% deaf beyond deaf. So while I have one, I could hear, I just don’t hear as well.

00:39:27:01 – 00:39:34:25
Tom
With both of them. I still even struggle. And this is directly connected to my yes, my inner ears.

00:39:34:25 – 00:39:39:05
Bunny
Right? Right. So it’s pretty, pretty interesting technology.

00:39:39:05 – 00:39:41:10
Tom
I can’t tell direction.

00:39:41:10 – 00:39:41:20
Bunny
No.

00:39:41:20 – 00:39:48:20
Tom
So buddy, in a storm, we’ll go. Tom and I got a staff and I go out to the I.

00:39:48:23 – 00:39:49:05
Bunny
I got.

00:39:49:05 – 00:39:55:06
Tom
It, and then I start doing a slow circle and looking for.

00:39:55:06 – 00:40:00:05
Bunny
Her. I have to start telling him, all right, go to the front of the store, stop at the main island, stay there.

00:40:00:06 – 00:40:01:20
Tom
I wonder what people think.

00:40:01:20 – 00:40:04:12
Bunny
When we were yelling through the store.

00:40:04:12 – 00:40:06:22
Tom
We are.

00:40:06:25 – 00:40:08:27
Bunny
Because usually the phones in the car, we.

00:40:08:28 – 00:40:14:25
Tom
Got no shame in our game. Yeah, we have a call each other. Oh, why don’t we call each other?

00:40:14:28 – 00:40:15:21
Bunny
I don’t know.

00:40:15:24 – 00:40:17:00
Tom
That would probably be.

00:40:17:03 – 00:40:22:05
Bunny
So, you know, funny story. His aunt and, cousin were just out here.

00:40:22:08 – 00:40:23:00
Tom
You know, and we took him.

00:40:23:00 – 00:40:27:11
Bunny
In that we took him to Nashville, and the stores were packed, and we went there on Sunday.

00:40:27:15 – 00:40:32:06
Tom
Saturday, Sunday. No, no, it was Sunday. We left Monday.

00:40:32:07 – 00:40:40:29
Bunny
Sunday afternoon, and the stores were packed and we’re trying to find everything. So it’s. Aren’t you open? Marco? And everybody turn around. Oh.

00:40:41:00 – 00:40:45:19
Tom
Store yours. Paulo. I think they need new words.

00:40:45:21 – 00:40:47:20
Bunny
Yeah, that one didn’t work out or.

00:40:47:24 – 00:40:48:21
Tom
That didn’t work out too.

00:40:48:22 – 00:40:52:11
Bunny
Well. But it was cute, because then we went into another store and they did it again.

00:40:52:13 – 00:41:13:08
Tom
Yep. my hand surgery. So if you’ve ever if you’ve been following on that, am I, I’m not really happy with. That’s as far as I can open this hand or this hand I can open all the way. This doctor pat himself on the back saying how great he was. I asked him to call this doctor because I really had faith in what this doctor did.

00:41:13:08 – 00:41:32:29
Tom
My pinky is a little crooked, but the rest of that hand is good. And this doctor says, I’m the man. I know what I’m doing. Oh, I’m so mad. Why can’t somebody just bring their ego check down, make a phone call and say, what did you do? Because this guy’s already had seven prior.

00:41:32:29 – 00:41:33:26
Bunny
Surgery because of.

00:41:33:26 – 00:41:37:03
Tom
And you’re the only one that’s actually wanted his hand.

00:41:37:04 – 00:41:47:17
Bunny
And it’s, you know, out of all of Tom’s doctors, he is the he is the least trusted. And he won’t go back home. And we just talked to somebody.

00:41:47:17 – 00:42:02:12
Tom
We bought something off Facebook Marketplace, and she had the same doctor and he totally messed up her hand. I mean, we’re talking a lawsuit, lots and all kinds of stuff going on. Yeah, but yeah, I don’t like what he did to my hand.

00:42:02:12 – 00:42:09:01
Bunny
And but all of our other doctors, we just absolutely love them. Yeah. They’ve been amazing. All right. So we’ve we’re done with this.

00:42:09:03 – 00:42:10:14
Tom
Really I’m not.

00:42:10:16 – 00:42:13:03
Bunny
Yeah you are. You’re just rambling now.

00:42:13:03 – 00:42:14:10
Tom
I am rambling because that’s the.

00:42:14:17 – 00:42:15:27
Bunny
Ramble on the next video.

00:42:15:28 – 00:42:41:10
Tom
All right. So if you are watching this on YouTube, we do transpose all this YouTubes into audio files and put them on podcast. We’re on all the major podcast sites. We’re on iTunes, we’re on Google Podcasts. I think they’re going away. But Spotify, that’s what I listen to my podcast on. And typing all of the even the lower ones.

00:42:41:10 – 00:43:02:29
Tom
So if we’re not on a podcast site, message us. We’ll get ourselves added. if you are listening to us on podcasts, definitely check us out on YouTube. we actually we don’t make much money. We are monetized. We might be able to get a Happy Meal one month, or we might be able to go to a nice dinner.

00:43:02:29 – 00:43:15:14
Tom
So it’s up to you to watch our videos. And if you’re not going to watch all of our video, we don’t care. Click play and go to the bathroom, take a shower, go to work something. Just let it play all the way through. Yeah.

00:43:15:17 – 00:43:25:10
Bunny
So, our biggest, our biggest grossing one was Tom broke his penis. So. Yeah, I don’t know. I don’t I don’t think we could top that one. We’ll see.

00:43:25:13 – 00:43:50:05
Tom
We’ll we’ll eventually get there. But, follow us on Twitter. We have several accounts. We got Tom and Bonnie. That’s, our more popular one. We have Tom’s trips and we have no, miss no swimsuit. on Instagram, we have Tom and Bonnie, and we have Tom’s trips. And then on Facebook, we have, Tom and Bonnie.

00:43:50:05 – 00:43:57:05
Tom
So just search Tom and Bonnie everywhere. And you’re going to hear about Tom’s trips here regardless.

00:43:57:08 – 00:43:59:03
Bunny
Yes. You whether you want to or not.

00:43:59:05 – 00:44:05:21
Tom
But we do post mostly on on our personal stuff, pictures and stuff on Tom and Bonnie.

00:44:05:29 – 00:44:08:21
Bunny
Yes. That’s it. That being said.

00:44:08:24 – 00:44:10:20
Tom
All right, we’ll see you soon.

00:44:10:21 – 00:44:12:02
Bunny
We’ll see you soon.

How to talk my wife into swinging

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00:00:03:00 – 00:00:26:07
Tom
Hey, everyone. Tom and Bunny here and I know we’re getting ready to watch our next video. And if you find this video useful or some of the videos from the past, please do us a favor by booking your travel through us at Tom’s trips.com, or give us a call at 1-800-285-0853 and I can answer any questions and get you booked on your next lifestyle vacation.

00:00:26:07 – 00:00:52:07
Tom
Hey everyone. We are Tom and Bonnie with Tom and by. It’s right there on the bottom of your screen if you’re watching us on YouTube, if you are not watching us on YouTube and you’re listening to us on podcasts, we invite you to jump over to YouTube and check us out. Just search Tom and Bonnie and if you’re watching us on YouTube and you prefer to listen to us in your car, we’re on pretty much every major podcast network.

00:00:52:14 – 00:00:55:22
Tom
So you can just search Tom and Bonnie.

00:00:55:24 – 00:00:56:23
Bunny
We make it simple.

00:00:56:23 – 00:01:15:23
Tom
We try to make it simple. We actually work for Tom’s trips. You’re a leader in adult lifestyle travel and this is how we are able to do these videos is because of your viewership, your comments, your feedback. But more importantly, booking with Tom’s trips.

00:01:15:23 – 00:01:17:10
Bunny
Yes. So call me.

00:01:17:12 – 00:01:25:29
Tom
Yes. The phone number is right there on the screen right now. Call Bonnie. And so she’s a low pressure sales person, but she’ll answer all your questions.

00:01:25:29 – 00:01:29:13
Bunny
And you’ll talk to me, not my assistant.

00:01:29:16 – 00:01:41:04
Tom
With Bonnie. Does I have an assistant? So real quick, there is a story on that. When people do call the 800 number and when it’s really flattering.

00:01:41:05 – 00:01:42:15
Bunny
It is very flattering.

00:01:42:16 – 00:01:58:22
Tom
And when Bonnie answers the phone and the people get all giddy, are they, get tongue tied? And then they say, I didn’t think you were going to answer the phone. I thought you would have an assistant. And what’s your response?

00:01:58:22 – 00:02:00:01
Bunny
I am the assistant.

00:02:00:01 – 00:02:10:01
Tom
Bonnie is distance. Yes. We work a real job, ladies. And yes, we do. so we just thought that was. I thought that was kind of work.

00:02:10:01 – 00:02:13:09
Bunny
A real job. Straight from my phone. Wherever my phone’s out, I’m at.

00:02:13:10 – 00:02:21:14
Tom
Yeah. We tell people, you know, a lot of people work from an office, other people work from home. We work from the phone. Currently, my phone is up. They’re recording.

00:02:21:14 – 00:02:27:00
Bunny
Us. I used to work from up here in in this little studio.

00:02:27:02 – 00:02:35:22
Tom
I know the lighted area over Bonnie’s head right there. That’s a little cubby with the dormer window and that there’s a desk.

00:02:35:25 – 00:02:50:00
Bunny
I should start working back up here again, because whenever the phone ring, I’d have to run up here, take care of it, and then run back downstairs. I should do it because, you know, I mean, it’s up and downstairs. There’s 17 steps from the.

00:02:50:02 – 00:02:52:28
Tom
Bell that you gotta come down these steps to go back up these.

00:02:52:28 – 00:02:57:06
Bunny
Steps. Yeah. So there’s only maybe I’ll do that. I’ll put that back up here.

00:02:57:10 – 00:03:28:07
Tom
Now, one of the things we do tell people all the time is if you ask us questions, a lot of times we will respond to your questions. However, when we get asked multiple times, we feel that there is a need for our answer to be more public and more on YouTube or podcasts because we figure if we get five or more questions, there’s gotta be a lot more people out there that have a same exact burning question.

00:03:28:10 – 00:03:39:13
Tom
And often times we get, oh my God, I ran across this video or this podcast and you answered, well, we don’t say we answer all the questions. What do we do?

00:03:39:16 – 00:03:40:21
Bunny
We give our opinion.

00:03:40:21 – 00:03:42:09
Tom
Yeah, which doesn’t mean nothing.

00:03:42:09 – 00:03:45:24
Bunny
No, just us are the only ones that care about our opinion.

00:03:45:25 – 00:04:02:13
Tom
We are the content creators that say our opinion is just our opinion. It means absolutely nothing and you could take it for what it’s worth. And we hope what works for us may or may not work for you, but we hope it works for you.

00:04:02:15 – 00:04:02:28
Bunny
Yes we.

00:04:02:28 – 00:04:04:02
Tom
Do. That makes sense.

00:04:04:04 – 00:04:05:13
Bunny
It completely okay.

00:04:05:17 – 00:04:20:07
Tom
So but we always say ask five other people that are in the direction you’re looking at and you’ll get five varying answers. And then just choose the one you resonate. Best and the most.

00:04:20:07 – 00:04:49:11
Bunny
Well with of course you do. Yeah. Of course you do. Now you know. And it’s, there’s so many different content creators out there from all aspects of life and which is what absolutely makes this new pineapple world so great. Yeah. And I really and I really, absolutely love that. And we all have our little following too. I mean, because there’s some that are much younger than us and there’s some that are older than us, so we fall right in that as.

00:04:49:12 – 00:05:05:25
Tom
Content creators that host hotel takeovers. So they offer a great, advice because they’re talking from experience. they’re like finding said there’s younger content creators. There’s our age.

00:05:05:28 – 00:05:10:15
Bunny
Yes, there’s some that are just straight lifestyle. There’s some that are into.

00:05:10:18 – 00:05:11:05
Tom
Fatter.

00:05:11:07 – 00:05:15:25
Bunny
Baristas, poorly, I mean, you name it, all gamuts are.

00:05:15:25 – 00:05:39:04
Tom
Covered now we will start off by saying there is no right or wrong way of navigating the lifestyle. However you personally choose to navigate, it is the most accepting way to navigate it. You do not have to conform to others ideology to be in this lifestyle. That’s absolutely. I accept.

00:05:39:08 – 00:05:40:15
Bunny
The absolute truth, but.

00:05:40:15 – 00:05:56:05
Tom
All the creators welcome, advice, suggestions and everything and that’s what makes it great. It gives you may resonate with another creator more. You may resonate with us. It doesn’t matter. you may resonate with multiple creators.

00:05:56:08 – 00:06:06:29
Bunny
Yeah. Because some of us are still on the same wavelength. It it’s just great. Yeah. I just love listening to and talking to other people about different situations.

00:06:07:00 – 00:06:14:18
Tom
Right. So we just got recently, we recently so we just got recently about it’s my hearing.

00:06:14:19 – 00:06:15:07
Bunny
It is yours.

00:06:15:08 – 00:06:38:06
Tom
I mean literally I know I’m going to go stay off topic for a second. if you guys have been following us, I have had multiple surgeries in the last six months. Sitting is six months. Six months. I, I’ve had a hand surgery. And then I had a cochlear surgery and then I had a penile implant surgery.

00:06:38:06 – 00:06:39:01
Bunny
Yes.

00:06:39:03 – 00:06:51:11
Tom
And then I just had another Kokila surgery and the Kokila penile implant cochlear all within one month. Well a month and a half. Yeah.

00:06:51:14 – 00:06:52:05
Bunny
I mean it was.

00:06:52:05 – 00:06:53:17
Tom
Just bam bam bam.

00:06:53:17 – 00:06:54:15
Bunny
Yes.

00:06:54:17 – 00:06:58:00
Tom
Yeah. But it’s our slow. It was our slow time.

00:06:58:02 – 00:07:06:25
Bunny
Right. I was going to say come July you’re going to get your butt probed.

00:07:06:27 – 00:07:12:09
Bunny
Oh it’s that time I forgot about.

00:07:12:09 – 00:07:17:07
Tom
Don’t don’t. No, we’re not going to talk about that.

00:07:17:10 – 00:07:18:18
Tom
What is that called, an MBA?

00:07:18:24 – 00:07:21:07
Bunny
No, you’re going to go nuts.

00:07:21:09 – 00:07:24:07
Tom
Ask. I thought it was an endoscope or something.

00:07:24:12 – 00:07:27:01
Bunny
That’s just how old we are, right?

00:07:27:03 – 00:07:30:05
Tom
So, yeah, unfortunately, we got to go through all that.

00:07:30:05 – 00:07:31:05
Bunny
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:07:31:12 – 00:07:57:21
Tom
But anyway, just a quick, quick, quick update. I am healing great. My implant is three weeks old. And we’ve used it twice. and we recommend not using it for about three months. And I will still go with that recommendation because the last two times. So it’s a little painful. I had to, deflate it really fast since we.

00:07:57:24 – 00:08:02:01
Tom
Yeah. Says we say our good as we say, not as we do here.

00:08:02:08 – 00:08:07:04
Bunny
There it is. Well, I was looking for, backwards. Backwards.

00:08:07:06 – 00:08:15:07
Tom
But, so we did talk to our urologist, our urologist.

00:08:15:07 – 00:08:16:06
Bunny
Our.

00:08:16:08 – 00:08:36:14
Tom
Great guy. Love him, love him. And I told him, I said, hey, when we are talking about you going on video coming up, I was on drugs. Were you serious? And he goes, absolutely. So he’s going to come over here to our house one of these nights. We just have to care.

00:08:36:16 – 00:08:48:06
Bunny
Okay, go get get the schedule. But can I reiterate the fact that you’re on pain medication and you were on, coming out of Anastacia. You weren’t on drugs.

00:08:48:08 – 00:08:49:29
Tom
That. Right? Right, right, right.

00:08:50:00 – 00:08:50:27
Bunny
You were medicated.

00:08:51:01 – 00:09:05:29
Tom
I, I was legally medicated. So, are legally on drugs. I’m doing the air quotes because somebody is going to put us on blast, and they always do because they didn’t hear the context. They only heard the headline.

00:09:06:00 – 00:09:07:02
Bunny
Yeah.

00:09:07:04 – 00:09:28:04
Tom
So let’s hear the context before we make comments, please. So anyway, everything’s healing. Well, the doctor is coming to our house. He’s going to do a while. We do all of our videos and then we turn them into podcast. So it’s going to be probably several weeks, maybe 3 or 4 weeks.

00:09:28:04 – 00:09:30:14
Bunny
Our travel scramble was crazy, right?

00:09:30:14 – 00:09:37:22
Tom
Because he can do it during the week. And our I mean, we’re traveling from Thursday through Sunday and Monday is a recovery day.

00:09:38:20 – 00:10:14:19
Tom
So that only usually leaves a couple of days. So look forward to him. He’s actually going to join us on several years ago we were doing videos on Eddie. and we did a, quite a few videos and I took them off. And not that I have thin skin, but I was getting more negativity about my head from supposed people that didn’t have Eddie and, are how can I talk about it or be so open about it, blah blah, blah blah blah.

00:10:14:21 – 00:10:20:00
Tom
The fact is, is how many percentage of people with, diabetes have 80.

00:10:20:03 – 00:10:20:24
Bunny
80%.

00:10:20:24 – 00:10:41:00
Tom
80% of people with diabetes have some form of Eddie. We’re going to talk to the doctor. We’re going to get real numbers. But one of the numbers is, on the Eddie thing is, if people don’t talk about it to their doctor or their wife, how many people truly have it?

00:10:41:03 – 00:10:42:12
Bunny
And that, yeah.

00:10:42:12 – 00:10:43:22
Tom
That we don’t even know.

00:10:43:22 – 00:10:44:18
Bunny
About.

00:10:44:20 – 00:10:54:19
Tom
We only know about what’s documented with urology and, family practices or Viagra sales. All right. You know what I mean?

00:10:54:19 – 00:10:54:26
Bunny
Yeah.

00:10:54:26 – 00:10:56:18
Tom
Well, that’s how they’re documenting.

00:10:56:19 – 00:11:03:00
Bunny
Viagra sales that they know of. They don’t know. Right. Other ones. India. Yeah, exactly. Acquired.

00:11:03:01 – 00:11:10:08
Tom
We’re not saying you should go to India, order from India or go to Mexico. Just it’s gotten cheaper though.

00:11:10:11 – 00:11:13:04
Bunny
It has it. Yeah I haven’t I haven’t priced it doesn’t.

00:11:13:04 – 00:11:13:19
Tom
Work for me.

00:11:13:19 – 00:11:17:00
Bunny
No, no I say we haven’t tried that in a long time.

00:11:17:02 – 00:11:39:16
Tom
so. Yeah, we’re going to bring back a lot of those 80 videos. I didn’t delete them. I just turned them off. And you know what? I’m just going to grow a thick skin and I’m just going to put them back online. And hopefully the negative comments I can weed out. But if it if those videos help people, that’s the import.

00:11:39:18 – 00:11:54:01
Tom
If it helps one one guy out there are even a couple trying to understand, because a lot of times I know this isn’t even the video, but a lot of times Bonnie was thinking it was her.

00:11:54:23 – 00:12:01:27
Tom
Personally, not me physically. So. So yeah, I think it’s time to bring those back.

00:12:02:00 – 00:12:02:18
Bunny
And of course.

00:12:02:18 – 00:12:03:22
Tom
I’m a happy camper.

00:12:03:24 – 00:12:04:17
Bunny
Yeah. You are.

00:12:04:20 – 00:12:14:16
Tom
All right. So, with that said, that was our course. We haven’t done a video in a while. Now is our quick, quick update to the update to the update.

00:12:14:19 – 00:12:15:06
Bunny
Of course.

00:12:15:07 – 00:12:15:18
Tom
Okay.

00:12:15:19 – 00:12:17:05
Bunny
Enough talking about your junk now.

00:12:17:05 – 00:12:19:28
Tom
Yeah. So what question did you get recently asked.

00:12:19:28 – 00:12:49:13
Bunny
And so this lady contacted me and she wanted her and her husband hadn’t been discussing getting into the pineapple world. And of course, she had numerous, numerous questions. And and some of them were kind of bordered on poorly and some of them were on lifestyle. And then, of course, she thought, well, as my husband pushing me into this and, and, like I told her, I said, you got to communicate all of those issues for starters, right?

00:12:49:15 – 00:13:02:04
Bunny
And of course, I asked her different questions about what, you know, he was doing or saying, and, and it and it just turned out that he wasn’t trying to push her into it. He was just showing his, enthusiasm.

00:13:02:06 – 00:13:02:25
Tom
Right.

00:13:02:28 – 00:13:05:04
Bunny
And his excitement is to.

00:13:05:06 – 00:13:05:25
Tom
Enthusiasm.

00:13:05:25 – 00:13:09:17
Bunny
Over enthused. And which happens a lot.

00:13:09:18 – 00:13:11:20
Tom
It does. And.

00:13:11:22 – 00:13:28:03
Bunny
I mean, was really think back for the people that are already in this in our world, when you have had your first initial hookup, gone to a club, anything, you come home and you’re so excited about it and you wanted to.

00:13:28:05 – 00:13:28:21
Tom
Hit, but.

00:13:28:22 – 00:13:33:01
Bunny
You want to tell everybody and you can’t you can’t just tell everybody.

00:13:33:03 – 00:13:43:03
Tom
Well, it depends on who you are. There are parents or that would go to their job and tell everyone, which we would never, ever advise.

00:13:43:05 – 00:13:44:11
Bunny
no.

00:13:44:13 – 00:14:03:25
Tom
we, I think Pineapple World is a sexual lifestyle. It’s not a marriage. It’s not, anything that you’re trying to achieve. They’re like nodding all and say, have the sexual freedom parade.

00:14:03:28 – 00:14:05:15
Bunny
Hey, I was going to say that.

00:14:05:18 – 00:14:06:06
Tom
Oh, sorry.

00:14:06:06 – 00:14:15:17
Bunny
So I was going to say so you can pretty much go with sexual freedom, right. And that’s exactly what what this lifestyle is all.

00:14:15:17 – 00:14:47:03
Tom
About right now. What the Sexual Freedom Parade is. It goes down Bourbon Street and through the French Quarter. And the one thing about it is it it kind of opens people eyes up. hey, there’s a lot of people that don’t have the chances that normal relationships have are that they are more sexually active, are sexual beings. I truly believe that, as a human race, we were never meant to be totally monogamous.

00:14:47:03 – 00:15:18:02
Tom
Sexually, we are committed to each other. Yes. Me and Bunny have been married 38 years. This, it was 24, and we’ve been together over 39 years. Some people would always say, oh, your marriage has gone, crash, or you’re going to get divorce. Now, me and Barney just know how to navigate, see? And that’s the key thing is knowing how to navigate the pineapple world and not I mean, we always tell we.

00:15:18:02 – 00:15:29:02
Tom
Oh, you used to tell people jump in with both feet and then back out of the waters to your comfort level, because if you go in too slowly, it kind of gets,

00:15:29:04 – 00:15:32:07
Bunny
Too many roles, too boring.

00:15:32:10 – 00:16:00:01
Tom
it’s just me and Barney are one role was we had a one seat for everything. Meaning if one of us did something the other really didn’t care to see afterwards, we would talk about the whole encounter. And if one of us said, hey, we had fun. But I really didn’t like this part of the encounter. Doesn’t matter what it is, it could be someone playing with her toes.

00:16:00:01 – 00:16:03:26
Tom
I don’t have a foot fetish, but I might have an issue with somebody.

00:16:03:29 – 00:16:04:14
Bunny
Yeah.

00:16:04:16 – 00:16:18:20
Tom
Doing something I wouldn’t do at home. I don’t know, I’m just making stuff up. But we agree that at that point we won’t cross that line again. We never crossed the line in the first place.

00:16:18:23 – 00:16:21:28
Bunny
No, we had a one because we had a yes, because we asserted.

00:16:21:28 – 00:16:23:28
Tom
We don’t hold it against each.

00:16:23:28 – 00:16:41:07
Bunny
Other. Not at all. Not at all. Now, her concern was it almost sounded as though her husband was looking for a poly relationship with another couple, and she didn’t want to do that. She thought it was just going to be more fun to go out and mix and mingle with multiple people.

00:16:41:07 – 00:16:41:25
Tom
Right?

00:16:41:28 – 00:16:55:26
Bunny
And, you know, like, that’s what I told her, you know, you’ve got to communicate this with your husband. And I said, but, you know, things always involve two. I mean, you may start one way, you might end up with another. Yeah.

00:16:55:29 – 00:17:11:05
Tom
Those couples that started off as pineapple and then turned poly. And then there’s people that wanted to start off poly and turned pineapple. I mean life is ever changing. Kind of like Garth Brooks. The song the River.

00:17:11:05 – 00:17:12:07
Bunny
Of course got.

00:17:12:07 – 00:17:13:13
Tom
A got a follower follow.

00:17:13:13 – 00:17:23:11
Bunny
Flows like, you know, we’re still in the pineapple world. But I mean, as far as doing anything, it’s been a long time.

00:17:23:12 – 00:17:49:06
Tom
Well, I’ve been broken for a long time, but I will say me and funny, we’re not so much selective, are picky some people, because that comes along as a negative connotation. We can be friends with pretty much everyone, and I always have to leave myself an out because there are people we never want to encounter ever, ever again.

00:17:49:06 – 00:17:51:15
Tom
Just because we weren’t expecting.

00:17:51:17 – 00:17:52:17
Bunny
Exactly, yes.

00:17:52:17 – 00:18:09:03
Tom
But when it comes to actually playing all the moons, how to line, we got to feel it and then we’re good with it. We don’t go out necessarily looking for.

00:18:09:06 – 00:18:10:09
Bunny
Exactly.

00:18:10:11 – 00:18:13:11
Tom
Because we don’t want to get disappointed. And, you.

00:18:13:11 – 00:18:28:16
Bunny
Know, there are a lot of misconceptions for people that are starting off in, into this life that if they go to a club or they go here, they go there, that they’ve got to play with just anybody that asks, absolutely not.

00:18:28:17 – 00:18:52:23
Tom
We’ve heard that from a lot of women. and it’s ironic, though, we heard that from a lot of women, and it’s mostly women. And I’ll tell you how I came up with this. Mostly it’s a women’s idea about getting into the lifestyle. When we ran a club, we ran it for 20 years, and I would whenever a new couple brand new.

00:18:52:23 – 00:19:34:03
Tom
I mean, big, bugged out eyes and just, you know, and I would always just have fun, open up general conversation. And one of my questions was always, whose idea was it to come here? Because our club was the first thing they ever did. The first place they were meeting people, first place they ever went to. So and a lot of times I would probably I mean, it was I don’t even I don’t have a percentage, but it was a high ratio of it was the woman’s idea and it kind of, I kind of shocked me because you were most people think it’s the guy’s idea.

00:19:34:05 – 00:19:39:24
Tom
The guy’s the dog because the guy is the sleazy one. But I’m not saying women are.

00:19:39:26 – 00:19:42:02
Bunny
But it’s.

00:19:42:05 – 00:19:50:01
Tom
I’m just saying that women are just a sexual. But out in the vanilla world, they don’t show up as much.

00:19:50:01 – 00:20:04:01
Bunny
No, not at all. Not at all. And you know, in that, in that kind of poses, one of the other questions that we get all the time from the creepy people that say, how do I how do I, get.

00:20:04:01 – 00:20:04:28
Tom
My wife into it?

00:20:04:29 – 00:20:10:14
Bunny
How do I talk my wife into this? Well, you don’t well, you don’t, you do.

00:20:10:16 – 00:20:12:13
Tom
There’s a way, which is a way.

00:20:12:16 – 00:20:15:17
Bunny
You talk to her about it. Yes.

00:20:15:19 – 00:20:17:01
Tom
You communicate?

00:20:17:03 – 00:20:18:16
Bunny
Yes.

00:20:18:18 – 00:20:43:29
Tom
So, yeah. I have we get probably half of our emails. Our messages we get half are from married men asking either telling us how they wish their wife was like, funny, are asking us how to talk their wife into it, even to the point of asking if we would talk their wife into it.

00:20:43:29 – 00:20:44:28
Bunny
Yeah, and that’s a big no.

00:20:44:29 – 00:20:55:01
Tom
That’s a big no. I mean, well, we’ll answer questions, we’ll talk to people. But the person has to be has to understand that what we’re talking about.

00:20:55:04 – 00:20:56:00
Bunny
Is.

00:20:56:02 – 00:21:04:13
Tom
We know we don’t want to throw out, a jaw dropper and just say, hey, you should wait. I mean, pineapple we.

00:21:04:13 – 00:21:05:20
Bunny
Have and we.

00:21:05:23 – 00:21:05:25
Tom
I.

00:21:06:01 – 00:21:31:12
Bunny
Actually haven’t heard this. The horror stories of, of a couple went to meet a couple, and the wife had no clue what was going on. No clue, because he he did all of the talking, all of the chatting back and forth. He sent all of her pictures to them, and she had no clue whatsoever that she was going on.

00:21:31:13 – 00:21:36:16
Bunny
Well, yeah. And that is just wrong in every sense of the word.

00:21:36:16 – 00:21:55:04
Tom
Yep. And we don’t agree with that. We started our videos. I don’t know how long ago I have to go back and see when the first video was done, but our videos actually started with there was a cup down by. Back then there was only a few content creators.

00:21:55:04 – 00:21:55:23
Bunny
Yeah there was.

00:21:55:24 – 00:22:18:15
Tom
We weren’t even a content creator at the time. We were just running a club. Yeah, and one thing that we noticed at the club was the pineapple. They didn’t call it pineapple people back then. They call them and cheers. I mean, let’s bring it back to where it is. They keep changing the terminology faster than we can keep.

00:22:18:15 – 00:22:22:15
Bunny
Oh, we we came along not too long after. Key part is.

00:22:22:19 – 00:22:53:24
Tom
Right. our wife. You a press? And I gotta say this because of the algorithm, so bear with me on this. But. So we had seen a video where the couple said s pineapple world was the best thing for your marriage, and you should get into it. And I looked at Bunny and I said, that is probably I could see divorce forces happening.

00:22:53:27 – 00:22:56:02
Bunny
And,

00:22:56:04 – 00:23:03:01
Tom
we set up our camera in our living room, because I go overboard and we say.

00:23:03:03 – 00:23:03:29
Bunny
Go big or go home.

00:23:03:29 – 00:23:30:11
Tom
Yeah. We set up a lighting, soft boxes, everything. And our first video was communication is the most important thing in your relationship. If you can communicate about anything, everything under the sun, you can not. I mean, it’s embarrassing. And if you could just muscle through the embarrassment and talk to your spouse.

00:23:30:14 – 00:23:32:23
Bunny
No, no no no. If you if.

00:23:32:26 – 00:23:34:26
Tom
I kiss, a lot of things are embarrassing to talk.

00:23:34:26 – 00:23:41:10
Bunny
I want to say, if you can ask your husband, hey, do I have a hair in my buttcrack you can talk about anything.

00:23:41:10 – 00:23:53:17
Tom
Wow. I did not expect that one, but yeah, if you could talk about a hair on your buttcrack, we could probably talk about pretty much everything.

00:23:53:17 – 00:23:54:22
Bunny
Yeah, exactly.

00:23:54:22 – 00:24:05:06
Tom
So if you could talk about your penile implant, you could probably talk about anything to everybody. if you want to go that route.

00:24:05:07 – 00:24:07:05
Bunny
Of course. Of course you got that right.

00:24:07:06 – 00:24:37:03
Tom
But, yeah, the the biggest thing is we don’t talk to wives. If you don’t, we never hear from wives talking the husbands into this. I mean, that’s probably the easier target, but we don’t talk to wives. I mean, we’ll answer the wives questions. We’ve actually had wives contact us and say, hey, my husband watched one of your videos and said communication is the best thing, and he brought up the pineapple world.

00:24:37:05 – 00:24:46:00
Tom
I have serious questions. Can I ask you questions? Absolutely. Yeah, we want, but we’re only giving our opinion.

00:24:46:03 – 00:24:47:13
Bunny
But yes.

00:24:47:16 – 00:24:48:06
Tom
What works for.

00:24:48:06 – 00:24:59:20
Bunny
Us, I mean, we’re an open book. If you call us and ask us questions or you want you have any concerns, definitely. We’ll talk to you. but I’m not going to try to talk somebody into it.

00:24:59:21 – 00:25:16:17
Tom
Right. And there is a whole lot of gamut to lifestyle people. starting off with there are you don’t actually have to physically, connect with somebody to be in this world.

00:25:16:19 – 00:25:29:20
Bunny
No, no. You know, we used to have a lot of people that came to our club that they just they were more exhibitionists. So they wanted to come dance erotically, pull their boobies out of their dress.

00:25:29:21 – 00:25:31:20
Tom
Right. So they want to be older.

00:25:31:22 – 00:25:41:15
Bunny
So we had that from, from all the way up. You imagine what people could do. And they did it. Yes. So there’s so much.

00:25:41:16 – 00:26:05:15
Tom
People just like to be around the pineapple people because the pineapple people are so much more honest and open. And now in today’s terminology now mind you we go back 2527 years in the pineapple world. So I’m going to kind of say terminology we use back then that we would get slaughtered for using today.

00:26:05:18 – 00:26:06:10
Bunny
Yes.

00:26:06:10 – 00:26:32:13
Tom
What our thought was if a couple came to our club and they didn’t want to, they didn’t want to physically touch another person. They just wanted to hang out, drink, have a good time, dance erotically, like Barney said, maybe get a little bit of naked. on the dance floor, or get up on our pole and be a stripper for a song or two for their husband.

00:26:32:15 – 00:26:44:12
Tom
We always said, and this is work. Don’t slaughter me. This is just what the mentality was 20 some years ago. One drink shy of being a pineapple world.

00:26:44:14 – 00:26:46:00
Bunny
True. Very true.

00:26:46:05 – 00:26:51:13
Tom
So drinking is a big thing in the pineapple world.

00:26:51:16 – 00:26:56:01
Bunny
it can make. It can make you make mistakes, too.

00:26:56:01 – 00:27:19:17
Tom
It can make you make a. But you just have to know that when you start drinking, you gotta own up to your. Yes, any mistakes that you feel you made and just get past that? because obviously the other people, they may be aware that you’re overly intoxicated, they may not be aware because they are just as intoxicated.

00:27:19:24 – 00:27:32:17
Tom
So hey, Mimi, I’m funny, have different thoughts around all the politically correct going around. If we if we lived by politically correct, there would be no pineapple World.

00:27:32:19 – 00:27:33:10
Bunny
No.

00:27:33:13 – 00:27:44:00
Tom
There wouldn’t be because everyone is going to find fault somewhere. And they have to rephrase the terminology because they they fault even the terminology so much.

00:27:44:00 – 00:27:45:00
Bunny
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:27:45:05 – 00:27:46:02
Tom
It’s it’s.

00:27:46:02 – 00:27:46:14
Bunny
Very.

00:27:46:14 – 00:27:50:04
Tom
Offended by certain phrases are words.

00:27:50:04 – 00:27:55:11
Bunny
Yeah. It’s very, very and it’s really hard to keep up with that because.

00:27:55:13 – 00:28:03:23
Tom
because before our terminology would change every five plus years now it seems like it changes every year.

00:28:03:24 – 00:28:07:01
Bunny
Oh it’s funny, Tom’s a tick tock guy.

00:28:07:04 – 00:28:08:14
Tom
I am a tick tock guy.

00:28:08:17 – 00:28:29:28
Bunny
if you see my tick tocks, they’re all dogs. I my dog is dogs. So there will be words that come out or phrases that come out. And I have to ask Tom, what does this mean? It’s like, are you kidding me? Right? I’m so far behind. But you know what? It’s where I’m comfortable with.

00:28:30:00 – 00:28:33:17
Tom
And this all entails what? Where we are.

00:28:33:19 – 00:28:34:23
Bunny
but no, that’s talking.

00:28:34:23 – 00:28:36:16
Tom
About the original sub.

00:28:36:17 – 00:28:53:07
Bunny
Yeah. So we. But, you know, I basically told her, hey, this is your life years and your husband’s life. You do with it however you want to go. And our our saying is always, you can only go as fast as the slowest person, right?

00:28:53:08 – 00:28:55:13
Tom
You and you. You can’t.

00:28:55:15 – 00:28:59:29
Bunny
You can’t fault each other for somebody being slower than the other one.

00:28:59:29 – 00:29:11:09
Tom
I only said that because I’m watching the microphones go up and down, and when funny turns my direction, I watch it go down. And then when she turns back. So it’s, not a blast. It’s just, I get blasted for.

00:29:11:10 – 00:29:12:28
Bunny
I know, I know, for me.

00:29:13:03 – 00:29:18:25
Tom
We talked to each other because I read lips and I have my cochlear on so I can actually hear.

00:29:18:28 – 00:29:19:09
Bunny
On this.

00:29:19:09 – 00:29:25:03
Tom
Side, on this side. Now, if she was on this side, I’d be like, why?

00:29:25:05 – 00:29:34:12
Bunny
But did you even hear what I said? No, she. This is what I live with. He had no clue what I even said.

00:29:34:13 – 00:29:35:18
Tom
Said all over again.

00:29:35:20 – 00:29:37:11
Bunny
I said, you can only go as.

00:29:37:14 – 00:29:39:11
Tom
Fast as the slowest person. I did hear.

00:29:39:11 – 00:29:40:10
Bunny
That. What I said after that.

00:29:40:13 – 00:29:41:04
Tom
I don’t know.

00:29:41:06 – 00:29:46:12
Bunny
You can’t fault each other for somebody going slower than the other one.

00:29:46:14 – 00:30:20:07
Tom
Correct. And my, my thing. I always tell couples, especially new new couples talk, talk, talk meaning talk before you go anywhere or meet anybody or anything but scenarios in your head. I know it’s kind of, it could get stressful. You can get anxieties. Yeah, but you should be prepared for the encounter. If you’re going to meet a couple at a bar or dinner, do you have an out?

00:30:20:10 – 00:30:40:08
Tom
I mean, because you could walk in and as Bonnie says, the first two, three, four words out of a guy’s mouth, she knows right then and there if she even wants to communicate any further. So you got to have an out and the babysitter thing doesn’t work. Don’t get a fake phone call. Go get the babysitter out.

00:30:40:08 – 00:30:57:25
Tom
Gotta go. No, no, just be honest. Just say, hey, we don’t think it’s going to work out and we don’t want to waste your time. And we don’t want to spend $150 on a dinner sitting with people. We have no nothing in common with. You don’t have to be that dramatic. But you.

00:30:57:25 – 00:30:58:16
Bunny
Have.

00:30:58:19 – 00:30:59:10
Tom
My buddy.

00:30:59:12 – 00:30:59:20
Bunny
Buddy.

00:30:59:20 – 00:31:22:17
Tom
Turn her back on a couple. But the guy was an arrogant chauvinist. Yes. So when she did that, I’m a nice guy. I had to sit there for 45 minutes and endure the other couple. Meanwhile, Bonnie has her back. She’s talking to another table. She’s talking the waitresses. And this guy thinks he has a chance with her. And I’m like, you don’t read body language.

00:31:22:20 – 00:31:34:11
Tom
Apparently it’s a deaf skill because I can read body language, facial expressions, lips. Yeah, yeah. I mean, when someone turns their back on me, I know. Okay, it’s time to end.

00:31:34:11 – 00:31:48:28
Bunny
You know, we’ve been we’ve been in this long enough to that we know each other’s, what are each other’s likes and dislikes. And so, I mean, we both will almost no immediate leave.

00:31:49:01 – 00:32:18:17
Tom
Oh, yeah. I mean, so, Harry Harrison out for new couples that we used to use, and it worked really, really well. It still works today. Not so much for us, because if people have seen our videos, but in the conversation within so much time, you can actually talk about the weather. No matter if it’s hot or cold, rainy doesn’t matter.

00:32:18:21 – 00:32:44:10
Tom
You could talk about the weather, but the weather is the code for you guys. So I would look at Bonnie and, all right, look at the general conversation. I would say if I was interested in, other female, I would say, Holy cow. Bonnie, did you see that record temperature in Arizona? And Bonnie would reply back either.

00:32:44:10 – 00:32:56:01
Tom
Yeah, it was really hot. Meaning she was hot for the other guy, or she would talk about how call that was in Iowa.

00:32:56:03 – 00:33:18:21
Tom
Immediately, if she said the word cold, I knew that it was time to start backing out of the conversation and oh, because we don’t want, rooster block another couple ever. So there’s no reason, especially in a club setting our hotel take over, that you occupy someone’s time because they’re in a very short time frame.

00:33:18:28 – 00:33:32:18
Bunny
And you will find people, and people go, oh, that was really rude. But no, it’s not rude. The people will come up and be like, you know, within the first five minutes, hey, are you guys players? Would you be interested?

00:33:32:20 – 00:33:34:27
Tom
Hold on. We we like to get to know people.

00:33:34:27 – 00:33:51:22
Bunny
Yeah, I mean, we I met this one couple one time and they literally came up and they sat at our table and they go, so do you think there’s a chance of us and they said the word f u c k. And I’m like, nope. And he goes, hey, great guess. now you just saved me an hour, right?

00:33:51:22 – 00:34:17:02
Tom
And we were all good with that. And they’re no offense. they’re there is going to be a very high, high, high probability unless you’re in it for play. And there’s nothing wrong with that either. Absolutely not that you won’t make a match with other people. There are people that go to parties and don’t hook up multiple parties, many parties.

00:34:17:04 – 00:34:20:21
Tom
Then there’s people that go to a party and hook up ten times in one.

00:34:20:21 – 00:34:31:08
Bunny
Night, and there’s people that just absolutely love sex and they don’t care with who. And more power to them. I mean, it is you.

00:34:31:10 – 00:34:35:05
Tom
At the pineapple world. You see a lot of people lose focus on that.

00:34:35:10 – 00:34:44:28
Bunny
But and then, like I said, there’s other ones that might once a year and there is nothing wrong with where you go with this.

00:34:44:28 – 00:34:45:19
Tom
Right.

00:34:45:22 – 00:34:53:28
Bunny
And so I am going to lead us right into an advertising life, not an advertising.

00:34:53:28 – 00:34:55:07
Tom
We’re not advertising nothing.

00:34:55:07 – 00:34:57:15
Bunny
Nope. So I basically told you.

00:34:57:16 – 00:35:00:24
Tom
Say the word advertising. You’re you’re going to lose half of our honey.

00:35:00:25 – 00:35:02:05
Bunny
All right. So we’re not advertising.

00:35:02:08 – 00:35:03:29
Tom
Except for Tom’s trips.

00:35:04:02 – 00:35:11:04
Bunny
Exactly. So I told her because she had so many different questions on different things that I couldn’t answer her on.

00:35:11:10 – 00:35:11:21
Tom
Right.

00:35:11:27 – 00:35:16:10
Bunny
So I told her there is a great convention coming up at the end of June.

00:35:16:10 – 00:35:20:17
Tom
We actually wrote down a list of the places we’re going to be. Yeah, through the month of June.

00:35:20:17 – 00:35:40:10
Bunny
But if for any of you that are really, really new to this and that, want to explore different options and different things and learn at different seminars and, talk to thousands of people nodding in New Orleans. Yeah, it’s the place to be.

00:35:40:13 – 00:35:54:09
Tom
Yeah. It is the world’s largest pineapple convention, and upwards to 2500 people on Bourbon Street for 4 or 5 days now. We’ll be there for.

00:35:54:13 – 00:35:57:08
Bunny
We come in Wednesday morning and it.

00:35:57:08 – 00:36:00:19
Tom
Starts on Tuesday, but it’s mild on TV.

00:36:00:19 – 00:36:01:25
Bunny
Yeah. Where do you.

00:36:01:25 – 00:36:06:04
Tom
Say it starts building Thursday and Friday.

00:36:06:07 – 00:36:06:18
Bunny
Yeah.

00:36:06:20 – 00:36:08:01
Tom
Be prepared.

00:36:08:03 – 00:36:16:22
Bunny
So you’re going to eat there. Things start at 10 a.m.. I mean from different seminars on newbies to.

00:36:16:24 – 00:36:17:12
Tom
Massage.

00:36:17:13 – 00:36:26:29
Bunny
Massages to speed dating to poorly. by the way, you name it, you’re going to find it there.

00:36:27:07 – 00:36:33:25
Tom
And most seminars are free. There are some paid ones, but if they’re paid, there’s a reason why.

00:36:34:00 – 00:36:34:15
Bunny
And not.

00:36:34:16 – 00:36:35:15
Tom
You got to sign up for.

00:36:35:15 – 00:36:40:26
Bunny
Those. And there just seminars. There’s, Bourbon Street parties.

00:36:40:26 – 00:36:52:23
Tom
There’s couples. The seminars are. Yeah. Would be probably key. then, you, you start off at noon party.

00:36:52:25 – 00:36:53:19
Bunny
Start your party.

00:36:53:19 – 00:37:17:22
Tom
Honestly, there are two parties that start at noon every single day. and then at 3:00, two more open up and noon one is kind of, shut down and they open up for, but they are closed off to only the attendees for this convention. It is so bold, seem to get in that the line starts almost an hour before the event.

00:37:17:25 – 00:37:38:21
Tom
Tom’s trips, me and Bonnie will be there along with our host, Mike and Denise, and we will be doing. We’re not sure yet. you know, it’s probably going to be fat cats on Friday at noon. And if you’re going to be an audience, we invite you to join us at noon at Fat Cats.

00:37:38:23 – 00:37:41:10
Bunny
You are very positive that you’re going to get that time.

00:37:41:10 – 00:37:53:21
Tom
Slot. I think I think we are. And if it’s not fat cats, it’ll be bandstand. But I think it’s going to be fat cats because that with I got the choice, parties and I put fat cats as the priority.

00:37:53:21 – 00:38:11:16
Bunny
Yeah. So but, you know, it’s just a great place to go and to meet people. And then after that, and before they have the ballroom parties at 9:00 at night, they have multiple meet and greets on what you’re looking for. Yeah. Five couples poly couples fetish.

00:38:11:19 – 00:38:30:27
Tom
And their priority. so if you’re, by a couple you’re not going to be out in the lobby. They’re actually going to have a room specifically. So that way you don’t have lurkers or people leering to see who the by couples are.

00:38:30:28 – 00:38:31:20
Bunny
Yeah.

00:38:31:22 – 00:38:39:18
Tom
they’ll actually have to go into the room. Poly couples, they’ll probably have their own room, and then they’ll have a main meet and greet. And that’s the ballroom.

00:38:39:18 – 00:38:45:19
Bunny
Now, currently, I mean, we are only three weeks out or weeks out from this major event.

00:38:45:21 – 00:38:48:22
Tom
The 2nd June 28th through the 30th.

00:38:48:25 – 00:38:56:10
Bunny
The two main hotels are already sold out, but they do have another overflow hotel. I mean, Tom and I are not even staying in the main hotel.

00:38:56:11 – 00:38:57:05
Tom
No.

00:38:57:07 – 00:39:09:27
Bunny
We are staying off. We’re only staying a block away, but it’s just going to be, great. Great week and a very good learning for the newbies.

00:39:10:01 – 00:39:22:08
Tom
And these events are great to just go to, not just not in all ones, but there’s a lot of hotel takeovers. There’s, we’re going we’re going to sooner swing. We’re leaving at four in the morning.

00:39:22:08 – 00:39:23:13
Bunny
Yep. So yeah.

00:39:23:14 – 00:39:27:28
Tom
Four in the morning. This video will actually come out after we’ve looked here.

00:39:27:29 – 00:39:35:22
Bunny
Yes. So I mean we’re going to sooner swing in Oklahoma. They already have over 800 people coming for this weekend.

00:39:35:23 – 00:39:37:07
Tom
Hundreds of people at a.

00:39:37:07 – 00:39:43:05
Bunny
Campground, at a campground. also going on this weekend, it’s the splash party.

00:39:43:05 – 00:39:43:15
Tom
Yeah.

00:39:43:15 – 00:39:51:20
Bunny
And Atlanta and Atlanta, which is another really good sign that, we’ve been to splash. We have not.

00:39:51:20 – 00:39:52:19
Tom
Been to Lauderdale.

00:39:52:22 – 00:39:56:08
Bunny
We have not been to Atlanta.

00:39:56:09 – 00:39:57:11
Tom
No, we haven’t been to it.

00:39:57:14 – 00:40:13:04
Bunny
But we will because it’s only four hours from us. Right. But, they have splash parties in Atlanta, Fort Lauderdale and Houston, Houston. And so there’s so many great, great. Right.

00:40:13:04 – 00:40:30:25
Tom
And like I say, then there’s all the hotel takeovers. I mean, there’s just so many. We can’t even list them all. Then you got your regular clubs. Now the club we’re going to go to, not this weekend but the next Friday. We’re only go in there Friday night because we’re going to a wedding Saturday.

00:40:31:01 – 00:40:36:14
Bunny
So Friday, June 7th, we will be at the corral.

00:40:36:16 – 00:40:39:02
Tom
You know, that’s that corral welcome.

00:40:39:07 – 00:40:40:04
Bunny
With the K.

00:40:40:06 – 00:40:50:19
Tom
Yeah. So if you want to meet us, come out Friday night. I don’t know how late they will be there, but, we’re going to we’re we’re leaving here Thursday. They get there for Friday.

00:40:50:19 – 00:40:53:20
Bunny
So that’s the corral and Spring Grove, Pennsylvania.

00:40:53:20 – 00:41:00:18
Tom
Yes. And some people have asked. I’m four hours away. Five hours away. We’re 12 and we’re driving.

00:41:00:20 – 00:41:01:21
Bunny
So.

00:41:01:23 – 00:41:17:26
Tom
Yeah, they always say, is it worth it? I don’t know if it’s worth it for you or not. It is for us. We absolutely love the car. We love the people. We would recommend it to anybody, but we don’t want somebody say, oh, Tom, my buddy recommended it and we hated it because it’s not your cup of tea.

00:41:17:26 – 00:41:18:23
Bunny
It’s this.

00:41:18:24 – 00:41:25:23
Tom
It’s something that you should experience on your own the first time and make your own decision.

00:41:25:25 – 00:41:32:12
Bunny
It’s in in. It’s bad. It’s bad to say. But Tom and I have a rule. You always try things twice.

00:41:32:14 – 00:41:34:07
Tom
Because maybe.

00:41:34:09 – 00:41:35:18
Bunny
Make.

00:41:35:20 – 00:41:37:20
Tom
Or sometimes you.

00:41:37:22 – 00:41:50:24
Bunny
Yeah, but we’ve gone back to different places and we had a completely different feel. Right. Just it every night. And we know this from running an on premise club for 20 years, every night is different than the.

00:41:50:24 – 00:42:18:13
Tom
Other every single night. And if you have a bad experience one night, you might have a phenomenal experience. You might have a phenomenal experience. Can’t wait to get back. And it doesn’t meet your expectations. And you leave there with a negative thought in your head. Just remember it varies per the party theme. The day of the week. If you’re going during Mother’s Day weekend, it’s going to suck.

00:42:18:16 – 00:42:31:29
Bunny
Yeah, typically, if you’re going on a three day weekend like Memorial Day or Labor Day, they generally are a lot slower because everybody’s out on their boat. So we have our little theme vacations. So yeah.

00:42:32:02 – 00:42:48:22
Tom
Graduation. So it of you got to look at the holidays. You got to look at what is happening around that might, detract from yeah, the venue. And if there is nothing going on around your venues, probably going to be hopping.

00:42:48:25 – 00:43:00:26
Bunny
Well, I know, there’s a club in Iowa and, the Friday opening Friday night fair, they just closed the club because no one’s going to be there. Right? Everybody goes to the Iowa State Fair.

00:43:00:28 – 00:43:02:03
Tom
Yeah.

00:43:02:05 – 00:43:03:25
Bunny
So, I mean, yeah.

00:43:03:27 – 00:43:08:13
Tom
We actually lived in Iowa for a year and a half. Don’t ask us why.

00:43:08:16 – 00:43:09:07
Bunny
We don’t even know.

00:43:09:09 – 00:43:12:21
Tom
We actually started our pineapple.

00:43:12:24 – 00:43:15:26
Bunny
And we did our, I guess, our journey, our.

00:43:15:26 – 00:43:16:17
Tom
Journey.

00:43:16:17 – 00:43:18:07
Bunny
Our pineapple journey started.

00:43:18:07 – 00:43:25:26
Tom
Living in a small town of 800 people was a no no, 898. We had 96 houses, 96 houses.

00:43:25:26 – 00:43:27:17
Bunny
It did have 97, but one burned.

00:43:27:19 – 00:44:02:20
Tom
Out there and the fire department watched it burn down. And, so anyway, we’ll be at the corral, not this Friday, but next Friday, June 7th. Yeah, seven. Then what’s the next hedonism? We’re back to hedonism and we will be there with Cassidy. Crush. Cassidy crush is. It’s a younger crowd because we actually time around teachers. Yes, because the teachers wanted to come, but they had school and everything, so we kind of navigated it to where they can attend.

00:44:02:26 – 00:44:12:23
Tom
So it tends to be a little on the younger side. And when I say younger side, it’s not 1821. It’s probably in mid 30s,

00:44:12:25 – 00:44:14:16
Bunny
Or like 40s or.

00:44:14:19 – 00:44:19:24
Tom
The 40s. Yeah. So we’re the old ones. We are, we’re the cool and Uncle.

00:44:20:19 – 00:44:21:27
Tom
Well, that’s what they tell us.

00:44:21:27 – 00:44:23:04
Bunny
I know.

00:44:23:06 – 00:44:26:22
Tom
But what? They kick us out of bed. Fruit and crackers, you know.

00:44:26:24 – 00:44:27:13
Bunny
Maybe not.

00:44:27:13 – 00:44:30:13
Tom
We’ll have to find out.

00:44:30:16 – 00:44:32:14
Bunny
maybe not this time, though.

00:44:32:17 – 00:44:39:28
Tom
And then when? This time. Then we come back in three days later where we do our lines for Nadia and Mullins.

00:44:40:00 – 00:44:45:04
Bunny
And you know what? I. I’m very, very giddy about going back to Nadia. It’s been it’s.

00:44:45:06 – 00:44:46:20
Tom
It’s been five years. It’s.

00:44:46:26 – 00:44:51:25
Bunny
Yeah. Because we didn’t get 2019 was the last time we went.

00:44:52:02 – 00:44:52:24
Tom
There you go.

00:44:52:26 – 00:44:55:28
Bunny
And so. So it was our.

00:44:56:01 – 00:45:04:17
Tom
Claim to fame is we were awarded our how when they announce are they. We were.

00:45:04:20 – 00:45:06:00
Bunny
Presented as.

00:45:06:02 – 00:45:25:13
Tom
We are presented as the king and queen. not in New Orleans on Bourbon Street and we got to ride in a float. The the, bunch of guys push these floats down. Yeah. Previous kings and queens and other Royal Corps. So that was actually kind of fun. Actually. It was a lot of fun.

00:45:25:13 – 00:45:32:07
Bunny
It was a lot of fun. And naughty in New Orleans has always been our one of our favorite events to go to.

00:45:32:10 – 00:45:42:11
Tom
Because there’s so much going on. I mean, you do breakfast, lunch and dinner on your own. I mean, they do have, a brunch, and.

00:45:42:14 – 00:45:43:12
Bunny
I don’t even know if they’re I.

00:45:43:12 – 00:45:48:14
Tom
Don’t think they’re having it anymore because it’s really a that’s a hard one to,

00:45:48:16 – 00:45:51:07
Bunny
There’s a lot of. They have pizza at midnight.

00:45:51:08 – 00:46:10:17
Tom
Yeah. If you’re in the playrooms, they bring in, like, hundreds of pizzas, and some people will just go up to the playroom just to get pizza and people like, oh, no, no, no, it’s all sanitary. It’s good. Yeah. And that’s probably some of the best pizza. I don’t remember the name of the place, but Crescent City pizza.

00:46:10:17 – 00:46:11:21
Bunny
And do they get it from Crescent?

00:46:11:21 – 00:46:15:14
Tom
I believe so, because that’s where, we got it for Cassidy.

00:46:15:14 – 00:46:20:28
Bunny
That’s what we’re having for lunch on that one Tuesday, I remember. Yep. That’s the first thing we’re having for lunch on that Wednesday.

00:46:20:28 – 00:46:28:15
Tom
If you haven’t had Crescent City Pizza on Bourbon Street, every place sells pizza. Crescent city sells really good pizza.

00:46:28:17 – 00:46:36:01
Bunny
And it’s it’s down there. It’s probably a good 4 or 5 blocks from the from the resort. And it doesn’t.

00:46:36:03 – 00:46:36:28
Tom
Matter if you’re walking.

00:46:36:28 – 00:46:37:05
Bunny
From.

00:46:37:05 – 00:46:43:11
Tom
Canal Street down Bourbon Street. Yeah. Towards the, pirate bar.

00:46:43:13 – 00:46:44:22
Bunny
Oh, John Lafitte’s. Yeah.

00:46:44:28 – 00:46:58:03
Tom
And you, everyone has to go there. That’s pretty much the end of Bourbon Street. Yeah. So you walk from Canal all the way down to John the Feets and it’s all candlelit. It’s like you’re in the 1700s. It’s really cool.

00:46:58:03 – 00:47:08:24
Bunny
So, yeah, I’m really, really looking forward to going back. And, you know, and for us, it’s like being newbies all over again too, because it’s been so long.

00:47:08:24 – 00:47:09:27
Tom
So we’re going to be fresh meat.

00:47:09:28 – 00:47:12:27
Bunny
We are going to be freshmen, but no one’s going to know who we are.

00:47:12:28 – 00:47:15:18
Tom
I don’t know if my name.

00:47:15:19 – 00:47:16:08
Bunny
Yeah, I don’t.

00:47:16:08 – 00:47:24:13
Tom
Know if it’s gonna work yet or not. I it works, but I don’t know. It’s still painful. Yeah, yeah. So I, I’m going to have to heel for a while.

00:47:24:14 – 00:47:27:04
Bunny
I have to be very, very gentle, very gentle.

00:47:27:07 – 00:47:28:05
Tom
Just lay there.

00:47:28:05 – 00:47:28:18
Bunny
And leave.

00:47:28:18 – 00:47:29:16
Tom
Time. Don’t move.

00:47:29:18 – 00:47:30:07
Bunny
And we’ve talked.

00:47:30:07 – 00:47:31:15
Tom
Before. Lock your hips.

00:47:31:16 – 00:47:33:21
Bunny
We’ve talked before. I’m not really gentle.

00:47:33:21 – 00:47:34:22
Tom
Don’t push back.

00:47:34:26 – 00:47:38:06
Bunny
Don’t just lay there.

00:47:38:06 – 00:47:40:06
Tom
Just let me do my thing.

00:47:40:08 – 00:47:41:18
Bunny
Just be a pillow princess.

00:47:41:19 – 00:47:45:06
Tom
There you go. Yep. So, yeah, I know.

00:47:45:08 – 00:47:48:09
Bunny
That’s not easy for me.

00:47:48:11 – 00:48:17:10
Tom
We I mean, we’re we’re looking forward. We’re going to be going to more larger events. We’ve been going to more clubs in more specific locations like the corral, vibe and Nashville. Yeah. Our Murfreesboro. we’re going to specific clubs. We have a host couple that go to trapeze, and they’re going to tempted in Lexington, this month.

00:48:17:14 – 00:48:20:19
Bunny
Yep. June 14th, June 15th and 16th.

00:48:20:19 – 00:48:37:03
Tom
Okay. So but I mean, you’re meeting the, general location of that specific club we like to go to where people travel in, like, splash party. not in the hotel parties.

00:48:37:04 – 00:48:38:28
Bunny
I mean, we just came back from Vegas.

00:48:38:28 – 00:48:42:04
Tom
Yep. And there was a lot of people that flew in for that one.

00:48:42:07 – 00:48:55:04
Bunny
Yeah. So it it we’re kind of getting back to, almost like a grassroots yacht, which is what we started and, and we’re just ready to hit the ground running again.

00:48:55:12 – 00:49:03:00
Tom
Right. So again, the best thing to do is and I didn’t finish off, I talked about talking about.

00:49:03:00 – 00:49:05:26
Bunny
Finished off this morning.

00:49:05:28 – 00:49:12:14
Tom
Wow. We talked about discussing all the, hypotheticals.

00:49:12:14 – 00:49:12:29
Bunny
Yes.

00:49:13:05 – 00:49:37:08
Tom
But what we didn’t talk about is me and Bonnie always discuss when we come home at night. No two things happen. Whether anything happen or not. We discuss what we liked about the night, what we didn’t care for or anything like that. But what if if nothing happened? We. You do have to question why did nothing happen? Was it us?

00:49:37:09 – 00:49:44:04
Tom
Was it them? Was it one of us? Why were we putting that? Don’t approach us.

00:49:44:07 – 00:49:48:05
Bunny
It usually stems from bunny tops. Too much.

00:49:48:09 – 00:49:57:19
Tom
Yes, but I talk too much on camera. So I could talk forever on camera. But when it’s out of club, I know when to shut up.

00:49:57:21 – 00:50:04:16
Bunny
But it’s kind of even. Even after all these years, you still get giddy and you still get nervous.

00:50:04:18 – 00:50:25:00
Tom
Oh, we still. Oh yeah, we still get really nervous. And people are like, oh, you’re the experienced people. No no no no, no, we don’t play that much. We really don’t play that much. And we’re fine with that. the, the main focus is it’s us.

00:50:25:06 – 00:50:25:21
Bunny
Yes.

00:50:25:22 – 00:50:29:27
Tom
And we won’t let anything interfere with our relation itself.

00:50:29:29 – 00:50:30:15
Bunny
No.

00:50:30:17 – 00:50:56:27
Tom
So we won’t take one for the team now, taking one for the team is such a nagging negative connotation. Taking one for the team just means one of you are physically attracted to the other person. It doesn’t mean they’re a bad person or anything like that. It just means that you don’t want to get physically intimate with someone you’re not physically attracted to.

00:50:56:29 – 00:51:21:07
Tom
And unfortunately, in this pineapple world there, there’s a lot of mismatched couples. Me and buddy are probably mismatched to a lot of other couples. Couples may want Bunny, but not me. they may want me and not Bunny. I know that’s the rarity. I know I’m pat myself on the back stroking my own ego here, but it is what it is.

00:51:21:09 – 00:51:42:26
Tom
Whatever. one of our encounters was, hedonism, and it just happened to be a single female and a single guy. Yeah. So it worked out. It did really well. because it was a couple that one of us was hit or miss on.

00:51:42:27 – 00:52:07:05
Bunny
Right? Right. And, you know, and think it happens. I mean, like you said, the stars aligned, at that. But our biggest thing is we always come home and we talk about it. And, if, and this is the new, new phrase, but we always say we, we, we claim each other if we played, but I don’t call it reclaim.

00:52:07:05 – 00:52:08:18
Bunny
We reconnect.

00:52:08:21 – 00:52:32:01
Tom
Yeah. So after if we do have a physical encounter with somebody, I’m using the right proper wording that doesn’t get us kicked off the algorithm. You if we have a physical interaction with another couple, sometimes there are single females, sometimes there are single men. But we focus more on, both of us playing.

00:52:32:06 – 00:52:32:29
Bunny
Yes.

00:52:33:01 – 00:52:53:21
Tom
Our interacting. Yes. So when we do come home, we get physically intimate with each other. Because the last thing I want to do is one of us doesn’t wake up in the morning, and the other one has to go through the rest of their life knowing that the last person that person was physically intimate with was not me.

00:52:53:23 – 00:52:58:00
Tom
So call it, low self-esteem.

00:52:58:03 – 00:53:12:01
Bunny
It. This is a morbid, even a morbid thought, but we’ve even discussed it. If if there’s anything that happens in the middle of play and God forbid, you know, one of us has a heart attack, you push off the other partner and jump on.

00:53:12:04 – 00:53:24:28
Tom
Oh, and if I have the heart attack, Bunny knows how to. Well, she has to learn how to fight the new one. But I don’t want to go to the morgue or the hospital with, a stiffy.

00:53:25:01 – 00:53:26:03
Bunny
What did they. What did?

00:53:26:03 – 00:53:41:20
Tom
That one they called a forklift. Because there’s two tubes, and I. In a future video, I’ll show you what the whole implant looks like. But there’s a tube on each side of the shaft, so they call it a forklift because they’re both,

00:53:41:22 – 00:53:42:01
Bunny
Yeah.

00:53:42:08 – 00:54:02:12
Tom
So I don’t want to be called a forklift. So I got to show Bunny where the new button is because it was high right now it’s low middle. Yeah. So yeah, it’s something happens to me. She’s just going to press. I also have to do with press for a second and then it will eventually go down all on its own.

00:54:02:14 – 00:54:09:04
Bunny
I’m not a crazy driver. We’re crazy. We’re. Yeah, but hey, that’s us. That’s us.

00:54:09:05 – 00:54:09:17
Tom
What are we?

00:54:09:20 – 00:54:14:25
Bunny
So, We’re, Time to go pack.

00:54:14:28 – 00:54:15:25
Tom
What time?

00:54:15:27 – 00:54:17:20
Bunny
We’re at 53 minutes. Oh, we’re.

00:54:17:26 – 00:54:18:10
Tom
Under an.

00:54:18:10 – 00:54:23:08
Bunny
Hour. Yeah, I told you, I know it’s giving me 30 minutes.

00:54:23:10 – 00:54:28:01
Tom
Yeah, well, we always start off our video saying we’re going to be 30 minutes, and then.

00:54:28:04 – 00:54:28:17
Bunny
Right.

00:54:28:18 – 00:54:30:20
Tom
One of us doesn’t shut up.

00:54:30:22 – 00:54:38:27
Bunny
It’s because now I’m looking at it. Tom wants to go to bed in one hour and 40 minutes. We still have to make dinner and we still have to pack in the car.

00:54:39:03 – 00:54:42:10
Tom
we’ll probably go out to dinner.

00:54:42:12 – 00:54:47:25
Bunny
I I’m to send Tom to the store for a dinner run, and I’ll finish packing.

00:54:47:28 – 00:55:15:14
Tom
So if you want to meet us, definitely. I got to update our Tom and money.com. I, I stopped doing it for a while because we were getting some stalkers, and I’ll be honest, they made us very nervous putting out too early where we are going to go. Yes. Sometimes it’s better to put out after you’ve gone, and then they can learn about it and then book next year and stuff like that.

00:55:15:16 – 00:55:38:03
Tom
So but yeah, we just told you where we’re going to be for June. I know it’s for short notice, but if you’d like to meet us, not in noggins, it’s naughty hyphen. the-events.com aren’t go to Tom strobes.com and just scroll down. Yeah don’t go to night hyphen events because we make a commission. If you just book it and it cost you no more.

00:55:38:06 – 00:55:41:22
Bunny
So yeah go to Tom’s tips.com and it’s underneath.

00:55:41:25 – 00:55:43:08
Tom
just scroll down to main page and.

00:55:43:08 – 00:55:43:19
Bunny
You’ll see.

00:55:43:19 – 00:55:45:19
Tom
It and just click on the naughty.

00:55:45:19 – 00:55:49:02
Bunny
And I. And I know it works because somebody just booked one today.

00:55:49:04 – 00:55:49:20
Tom
Oh did.

00:55:49:22 – 00:55:52:12
Bunny
Yes. Oh.

00:55:52:14 – 00:56:16:11
Tom
So and that’s how we’re able to do these videos. Yeah. You support us by booking travel. It costs you no more money and you might save money depending on like our group trips to hedonism. You actually save money booking to Tom’s trips. And we are the leader, the leader in hedonism. Travel throughout the year with over 20 group trips.

00:56:16:11 – 00:56:19:23
Tom
We book more rooms at hedonism than anybody else.

00:56:19:25 – 00:56:20:18
Bunny
That we do for.

00:56:20:18 – 00:56:23:09
Tom
30 years our company has been in business.

00:56:23:11 – 00:56:31:21
Bunny
Yes, yes, we’ve been really working hard to come at. We making a big comeback after Covid.

00:56:31:21 – 00:56:33:01
Tom
Covid was having.

00:56:33:01 – 00:56:47:19
Bunny
Her that kicked everybody’s butts. And you know what? We, swept off the dust and we came back with a vengeance. And, we’re bigger and better than not bigger and better. We are bigger and better than before.

00:56:47:20 – 00:56:53:06
Tom
Right now. We probably didn’t fully answer the question that was asked.

00:56:53:09 – 00:56:54:25
Bunny
Because that’s the money.

00:56:54:26 – 00:57:06:25
Tom
That’s us. We just randomly talk. I mean, we could answer the question in two minutes, but we like to talk.

00:57:06:27 – 00:57:12:13
Tom
I’d like to talk if you couldn’t see. A bunny was pointing at me.

00:57:12:16 – 00:57:18:00
Bunny
All right, we need to get off this. they need to,

00:57:18:02 – 00:57:18:25
Tom
They need to go eat.

00:57:18:26 – 00:57:30:07
Bunny
They need to go eat. Oh, can I do a shout out to Jack and Diane, who just booked with me? And I know that they watch us while they’re at their home gym. I, Jack and Diane.

00:57:30:10 – 00:57:31:24
Tom
We should play the song.

00:57:31:26 – 00:57:33:08
Bunny
Right?

00:57:33:11 – 00:57:35:09
Tom
Little ditty? Yeah, by Jack and.

00:57:35:09 – 00:57:37:19
Bunny
I, of course.

00:57:37:22 – 00:57:45:08
Tom
So, yeah. definitely. Come travel with us. We. We’d love to meet people. don’t be a stalker.

00:57:45:10 – 00:57:47:23
Bunny
No, no, don’t.

00:57:47:25 – 00:57:48:13
Tom
Oh, and.

00:57:48:13 – 00:57:53:02
Bunny
Don’t don’t make us, take down all of our schedule because they’re stalking either.

00:57:53:02 – 00:58:02:02
Tom
And if you email us, our DM us and we don’t respond, we don’t respond to. Hey. Hi.

00:58:02:04 – 00:58:04:09
Bunny
You’re hot, you’re hot.

00:58:04:12 – 00:58:14:11
Tom
I want to play, I mean, right, can I ask a question? We don’t even respond to that. Ask the question and we shall respond. Yes, maybe.

00:58:14:13 – 00:58:17:23
Bunny
Respond. Send a whole sentence.

00:58:17:26 – 00:58:19:25
Tom
Send something of substance.

00:58:19:26 – 00:58:20:23
Bunny
Yeah.

00:58:20:25 – 00:58:22:14
Tom
I mean.

00:58:22:16 – 00:58:23:28
Bunny
All right. I was like, no.

00:58:24:01 – 00:58:24:14
Tom
It’s just the.

00:58:24:14 – 00:58:25:17
Bunny
Other day, I know.

00:58:25:19 – 00:58:30:26
Tom
Literally going hundreds down and seeing stuff that I should have replied two months ago.

00:58:30:28 – 00:58:34:21
Bunny
All right. Well, he’ll reply, I’ll reply.

00:58:34:23 – 00:58:36:00
Tom
All right, until next time.

00:58:36:05 – 00:58:37:05
Bunny
We’ll see you soon.

00:58:37:05 – 00:58:38:12
Tom
We’ll see you soon.

UPDATE #1 – Tom broke his penis at Hedonism Resort in Jamaica

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UPDATE #1 – Tom broke his penis at Hedonism Resort in Jamaica!

This is an Update to the Podcast dated February 12th, 2024 If you have not listened to it, please revisit that Podcast to come up to speed.

Yes, Tom broke his penis at the world famous Clothing Optional, Nudist and Lifestyle resort Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica. After years of suffering with ED the un imaginal happened and today we discuss an update that we finally got approved and the surgery completed for a removal and replacement of the Boston Scientific AMS 700 Penile Implant!

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Tom and Bunny-15 minutes. And what am I getting done? You’re getting your new penile implant done. Oh, and replacement. A removal of removal and replacement. So we’ll add this video to our follow up video. All right. So we’ll see you then for five hours.

00:00:29:28 – 00:00:33:07
Tom and Bunny
Yep. All right.

00:00:36:14 – 00:00:59:21
Tom and Bunny
Hey, everyone. Tom and Bunny here and I know we’re getting ready to watch our next video. And if you find this video useful or some of the videos in the past, please do us a favor by booking your travel through us at Tom’s trips.com, or give us a call at 1-800-285-0853 and I can answer any questions and get you booked on your next lifestyle vacation.

00:00:59:21 – 00:01:31:04
Tom and Bunny
Hey, everyone, we’re Tom and Bunny with Tom and bunny.com. This is take 4382. Because I keep soldering stuff. Yes he does. This is a follow up video that we promised back in February of how I broke my penis in Jamaica. and this is an initial because, I’m just now getting in the starting ranges. So we’re going to do another follow up because people actually had more questions than I had answers for today.

00:01:31:04 – 00:02:03:04
Tom and Bunny
And I won’t have answers for for about six more weeks. Exactly. Yes. So another six weeks. But we are going to include my urologist. So with that said, we want to give three huge thank yous. One to doctor Josh Calvert from Nashville with our urology associates. He is my urologist. Thank you. without you, we know this wouldn’t have been possible because probably most every other urologist wouldn’t have taken that extra step.

00:02:03:05 – 00:02:34:20
Tom and Bunny
Our mile. I mean, come on, you came out of surgery and you documented for me before you did anything else. And that was unbelievable. And we just truly appreciate it. Secondly, is Doctor Calvert’s care coordinator, Kim, she had she battled the insurance companies for us, like, every week. Trooper. She was constantly on the phone, constantly sending texts and without her care and dedication to this, it would have never went through.

00:02:34:21 – 00:03:04:10
Tom and Bunny
She truly was attached to my case. Yes she was. She was vested into, getting me approved and seeing me get better. Yeah, exactly. And the third is Boston Scientific, who actually manufactures the implant. I was provided, the AMS 700. I don’t know what this one is. It may not be the AMS 700. We’ll explain that in the video.

00:03:04:14 – 00:03:31:07
Tom and Bunny
You got to watch this one to the end. I know people will watch. Five minutes, ten minutes. This may be a 30 minute video. Just watch it to the end because we’re going to explain different things along the way. And we don’t want you to miss anything. If you are listening to us on podcast, jump over to our YouTube channel and just search Tom and Bunny, Tom and boo and and why, and you’ll find this video along with our original video.

00:03:31:08 – 00:03:51:10
Tom and Bunny
Yes. And if you are watching us on YouTube and you don’t care to see our bright, shiny faces, you can go to any podcast site and listen to it in your car. That’s my shameless plug. It is. You got them out there? Yeah, and we wouldn’t be able to bring the video to you without Tom. Absolutely not. You’re leader and adult lifestyle vacations all right.

00:03:51:10 – 00:04:19:13
Tom and Bunny
So with, now Boston Scientific, called Bonnie when I was, I just had my Kokila done. If you guys have been following us, you know, I had hand surgery. I had a cochlear surgery. I have another surgery scheduled 11 days from now. We are changing his name to Steve Austin. But Bionic Man and Boston Scientific, that was, Heather.

00:04:19:15 – 00:04:44:26
Tom and Bunny
Heather was on the insurance side helping me on the insurance side. Right? We didn’t know if she could help us fully or not, because, we’re self-insured, and a lot of times they go in, and if you’re employer insured, they can get your employer to add sexual function. And we’re going to explain that here in a minute. And then Carl, who is the local route, he was actually in my surgery.

00:04:44:26 – 00:05:07:12
Tom and Bunny
Yes. And we both got to meet him. And just checking out to see what exactly happened and why it failed. And we we don’t even know how I got approved yet. So that’s still a mystery. We have guesses, but we don’t like. I don’t want to ruin good things. Exactly. So to start, we finished up the last video.

00:05:07:12 – 00:05:34:22
Tom and Bunny
We were happy go lucky. We were positive. We were having fun. We were making jokes. Some people said we’re actually funny in the video and they actually had their husbands listen to it. But more importantly, we actually had a lot of people listening. Almost 11,000 video views currently today, and it’s only been up for two months. And that is just video views we haven’t gone back and seen on our podcast podcast, I kind of looked at and that was in the hundreds of thousands of listeners.

00:05:35:09 – 00:05:57:21
Tom and Bunny
so I just like the video and it’s because I could see the stats a little bit easier. we, we finished up with we had our appointment. We kind of told you what happened. So if you haven’t seen our first video, we’re going to put a link at the top of the description. For the original video, we ask that you pause this video, click that one.

00:05:57:26 – 00:06:18:20
Tom and Bunny
I know it’s a half hour out of your life, but go watch it because we explain and a lot of stuff we’ll talk about today, you’ll get a better understanding for. Absolutely. So watch, how I broke my penis in Jamaica and then come back to how I broke my penis in Jamaica. Update. And this is the first update and we’ll do a couple of updates.

00:06:18:23 – 00:06:45:00
Tom and Bunny
Yes, we will as we as we keep going along, as we progress. Yes. And we’re going to get the doctor that’s going to be on video and on podcasts. He’s actually kind of excited. Well, and you know, the great thing about about Doctor Calvert versus your previous urologist, your previous urologist was was getting up there in age. I think he was pretty close to retirement if not over retirement.

00:06:45:02 – 00:07:09:03
Tom and Bunny
So therefore for him it was like, okay, well, we’ll get this done. It was just very uniform. You know, we’re going to do this in very monotone. Yeah. With Doctor Calvert, he is such a forerunner in this particular area that he just wants everybody to be he says his goal is to, have every male realize an erection.

00:07:09:06 – 00:07:33:05
Tom and Bunny
Yes. And that’s a great goal. And it is a great guy. I told him I was going to say that there’s so many men that don’t realize that they need it, or so many couples that, they just need to get out there in the IT experience in and speak to somebody about their issues right now. last we follow it up.

00:07:33:09 – 00:07:57:27
Tom and Bunny
We didn’t know what was wrong. All we know is the plunger for my pump. I could pump it so many times, and then it would go flat and it wouldn’t expand to pump more. I knew my reservoir was empty. I knew right from the get go because it’s just common sense mechanics. Correct. And, but we had to go through the motions.

00:07:57:29 – 00:08:25:26
Tom and Bunny
We go down to Doctor Calvert and he immediately checks and shirts as I tight. It goes flat. And so he immediately schedules me a casket. go to this Cat scan and then we talk about. Yeah, we did. Okay. So we did the Cat scan. All the results came back and I had no fluid in my reservoir, thankfully.

00:08:25:26 – 00:08:52:25
Tom and Bunny
Now this is just what I did. And the other video we talked about how when I pumped it up for the Cat scan, I didn’t release it because I was afraid. I was afraid if I hit that manifold to release the fluid, I wouldn’t be able to get anything in there. And I was not. I was probably more quarter erect, but at least I was a semi so we could still fool around that we could, that we could.

00:08:52:26 – 00:09:20:25
Tom and Bunny
It was hard. It was hard. It was, you know, that was frustrating. It was frustrating. So in the past that originally happened what, January 20th or January 15th, something like that originally happened. But like he says, since he had just enough in there and he has enough of his own, I don’t even find him material. When I, when I get aroused, the blood still goes into the side.

00:09:20:25 – 00:09:46:03
Tom and Bunny
So the original doctor did not, I say, water out all the spongy material for the tubes. So when we would get very excited and Tom would be taking care of me, when he would get ultra, ultra ready, he would be like, just lay there, just lay there. I’m going to take care of this. And we would I would literally just lay there because because I don’t rock the hips don’t do nothing.

00:09:46:03 – 00:10:08:13
Tom and Bunny
Because if you rock back and I’m rocking out, it’s done. It’s done. So I like to explain it. It was like trying to push a marshmallow through a pinhole. Yes. It’s the only way you can explain how it was like a marshmallow through a screw hole. Yes, but we managed to have, sexual intercourse. Three times in the last three months.

00:10:08:16 – 00:10:41:26
Tom and Bunny
Yes. I mean, it’s depressing. It is depressing. It is depressing. Handjobs. BJs. Those were able to happen. I figured out a trick. She figured out the trick, and we worked around it. But I still felt guilty for Bunny. And because, Yeah, she’s taking care of me, then. Well, I didn’t have. It’s kind of weird, I think, because of the depression of knowing I could not do nothing.

00:10:41:28 – 00:11:07:03
Tom and Bunny
I got into the depression of it’s better to avoid it than, And some people would say, well, I would do this, I would do that. And it’s it’s kind of in a mindset. It really is. You know, one of the things that we found out, too, is not every state covers this particular surgery for various reasons. Now moving to Tennessee, we did not realize we didn’t look it up.

00:11:07:03 – 00:11:36:25
Tom and Bunny
We did not look it up. But they do not cover the surgery either on physicality or on psychological. Now, Alabama says that psychological is just as a part or a sexual function. Yes. And which I completely, 100% agree on because watching Tom go from happy go lucky to down in the dumps within a matter of, well, the first denial came through and he just dropped right down.

00:11:36:25 – 00:12:02:11
Tom and Bunny
So let’s tell everyone what’s going on. I originally got my first denial and almost right away and we got a call from their care coordinator, and, she’s like, you got denied. And we we discussed appeals and everything. So she went, Doctor Covert was in surgery, and then when he came out of surgery, thankfully, the he works in the hospital.

00:12:02:11 – 00:12:38:09
Tom and Bunny
So when that far, she was able to meet up with them and immediately right out of surgery, he wrote multiple pages, I’m guessing two or more pages of why it was medically necessary for me to have my old unit removed and a new unit installed, and they sent that in. So we are excitement went back up because how could they deny us when a doctor is spending so much time documenting the whole criteria?

00:12:38:11 – 00:13:02:18
Tom and Bunny
I mean, we even tried saying maybe when the saline bag fluid emptied out in my pelvic area because I had extreme back pains for about two weeks, he said that wouldn’t have caused that. So I was like, oh no, it’s helping you that. Yeah. And so we wait. And because it’s an appeal instead of 14 days, now they have 30 days.

00:13:02:18 – 00:13:29:12
Tom and Bunny
So we’re talking 45 days. So we’re like, okay, well I had it on the calendar. We are marking the days. And we our care coordinator, Kim, was calling them every week. And finally we get the devastation call. it was on a Tuesday. I don’t remember. Yeah, I think we were talking Tuesday. Oh, no, it was on a Monday.

00:13:29:15 – 00:13:50:26
Tom and Bunny
So we got a call and she goes, I have bad news. And she goes, I was so invested in you that I did not expect that. She goes, you were denied. And there’s no more appeals. And I’m like, and you can almost hear her almost crying. I mean, well Tom was crying like literally crying and it’s very, very depressing.

00:13:50:26 – 00:14:17:04
Tom and Bunny
I mean not that’s a hard, hard hit. It is a hard hit and the surgery is $20,000. So we’re already talking about refining our house. selling off our Harley and a car are doing a go fund me when we talk about Go Fund Me in the previous video, I was just more merely joking about it because me and Bonnie always give.

00:14:17:04 – 00:14:43:18
Tom and Bunny
We never asked for anything. We’ve never asked anyone of anything. But we also provide something of value for a lot of people listening. Not everyone, but a lot of people thank us from years ago today. Even today, when we go to hedonism, it’s not uncommon for ten different couples to come up and say, oh my God, your videos are why we’re here, or, thanking us.

00:14:43:21 – 00:15:05:14
Tom and Bunny
And I would casually tell people in our we might do a go fund me. So look for that. And we’re like, oh my God, you’ll pay for your surgery like that. And I’m like, it’s $20,000 and they’re like, will donate. And everyone was saying their donate. But you know what? Until you do it, I would hate to put out something and get zero.

00:15:05:17 – 00:15:27:24
Tom and Bunny
I want to thank everyone. That’s great in the world. But I also have reality. The, I know I maybe I have low self-esteem there. Well, yeah. And you know, a lot of people donate to GoFundMe, but they’re like to fix his penis. Yeah. I’m not going to doing it today. Or. The fact is, people people think that an implant is like breast implants.

00:15:27:24 – 00:15:53:21
Tom and Bunny
We’re just going to make them bigger. Enhancement and enhancement. No, it’s not to make it bigger. It’s not to enhance it. It’s to make it work. Right. So we she goes, so we got we go, can we get the number to Boston Scientific? They’re the ones who manufacture the implant. The implant I had was an Ames 700.

00:15:53:23 – 00:16:16:21
Tom and Bunny
It basically has two tubes up the side shafts, on one on each side of the urethra. And then it has a pump in the scrotum, and then it has a reservoir of saline in your pelvic area. And when you pump up, when you pump it, it draws, fluid from the reservoir into the two tubes. And there’s a one way check valve.

00:16:16:21 – 00:16:51:07
Tom and Bunny
And then when you want to release it, there’s a button on the manifold and on the pump, you push that and the reservoir actually has a vacuum because you’re drawing it out, not just pushing it out. And it pulls the fluid back into the reservoir. It’s a very simple, process. Yeah. And so we asked, can we, can we get the phone number to Boston Scientific because on our previous video, we told the doctor about the video and he was like shocked.

00:16:51:07 – 00:17:11:03
Tom and Bunny
He was like, oh my God, you have 9600 views in two months. And I’m like, yeah. And I said, my thought is, is let’s throw that at Boston Scientific. Because at the end of that video, we, we said we’re going to do an update, which we are here doing an update right now. And I said, I don’t want to make threats.

00:17:11:03 – 00:17:43:00
Tom and Bunny
I just want to say we were we are pro implant because I’ve had Ed since my 20s, we would love to do a glowing video to say, hey, I’ve been denied by insurance. But Boston Scientific stepped up and paid for the new surgery because it was only three years in my system when I was told 10 to 15 years, and just give the doctor the device and we’ll pay for the surgery.

00:17:43:00 – 00:18:10:20
Tom and Bunny
Right. I was looking for any, any option that we could. And if the doctor was like that, that may very well work, because implant manufacturers need people like me and Barney. Because he said, typically nobody talks about their junk to nobody, not even their wife. He’s typically the first person that they open up to. And he said that an implant manufacturer would love to have.

00:18:10:20 – 00:18:35:13
Tom and Bunny
He watched our video and absolutely loved it, laughed all the way through it. said we were very articulate and we explained it very well. He did give me more of an explanation on how the tubes are put in. He goes, I was reversed, but same thing, I was correct, I just gave a reverse, way of doing so.

00:18:35:16 – 00:19:06:15
Tom and Bunny
We, called Boston Scientific, and then Heather calls Bonnie. and that’s when we found out about, different insurances, employer insurances from right now, one of the things you definitely have to check to if, if you are in the same position that we are. Because now once we did that first video, people started coming out of the woodwork and letting us know that, hey, they were denied first, right?

00:19:06:15 – 00:19:36:15
Tom and Bunny
Or they are waiting on their approvals or somebody, people are waiting on approvals for like years in it. Not every state insurance approves it, right? We found out in Tennessee, psychological or physical are not covered under sexual functions. No. Yeah. So we found out real fast that our insurance excludes it doesn’t have an option. It excludes sexual function.

00:19:36:15 – 00:20:04:19
Tom and Bunny
Somebody immediately calls our assurance Rock. And she started looking at all the different insurance companies and plans. None of hers include sexual function. She goes, well, we might be able to find it. We’re going to pay a big premium. Oh, that. And now you’re back under it. damn it. I don’t know, so it’s going to fall under.

00:20:05:01 – 00:20:31:06
Tom and Bunny
previous. I have to hit her arm away. Oh, shit. So don’t pound it. Not right now. So anyway, before you do anything, call your insurance broker. Ask if your insurance policy covers sexual function. We did not even think we thought. It’s in our body. It’s part of our body. It’s. I mean, it’s not like eyes are teeth.

00:20:31:09 – 00:20:54:22
Tom and Bunny
It’s part of our body. Everything should be covered. And it’s not a preexisting condition in this instance. But if we were to get another insurance that covered, we would then have a preexisting. We would have to. Would you wait? You’d have to start all over and wait. What? At least. Yeah, at least a year. At least a year.

00:20:54:25 – 00:21:19:08
Tom and Bunny
So we were just oh my God, oh my God. I’m not going to wait two years. No. because we can’t even get new insurance till November or something. So just check and make sure if it doesn’t start pre-planning now before you go in for anything so you can make sure you have sexual function on your insurance. So when you do go into a urologist you have it on your insurance.

00:21:19:08 – 00:21:43:07
Tom and Bunny
So so let’s let’s just leave it exactly. All right. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out to us. Now we, when we got the second an eye on everything. Well, Heather from Boston Scientific called Bonnie, and she’s more of the insurance, so she was going to reach out to call and see if there’s anything he could do.

00:21:43:09 – 00:22:01:12
Tom and Bunny
Right. And she did call me. And she said, you know, at this point, now we’ve got to have that denial letter. We needed the denial. She goes, once you get that denial letter, then we will we will take it and go with it and see what we can get covered for you. If anything, if anything. So we were expecting nothing.

00:22:01:12 – 00:22:20:04
Tom and Bunny
So. And of course, then it’s time to go away to Jamaica again. So we’re as we’re in Jamaica, you know, we’re I know mails coming in and and even when they sign off the denial letter would be in a four day. they’re going to mail out four days and we were going to be gone seven. So we were like okay, we’ll have it when we get home.

00:22:20:07 – 00:22:43:15
Tom and Bunny
So we come home and in the at least about 2 or 3 days, we finally got to our mail. Yeah, because we expected it. And I’ll let her and we figure there’s no rush on it now. and I thought a couple days after we got home, I’m like, maybe we should open it. Then, not a letter, and start sending it over to Boston Scientific to see if they can do anything.

00:22:43:18 – 00:23:07:18
Tom and Bunny
I know Boston Scientific is huge. They do stands. They do all kinds of medical devices. I’m just a little guy. Yes, a little guy. But I do have a big voice on here. Of course you do. So I mean, our video has been viewed 3.5 million video views. We don’t have a big subscriber following, but we don’t tell everyone to subscribe to us because your friends and family can see who you subscribe to.

00:23:07:24 – 00:23:38:23
Tom and Bunny
We never want anyone out themselves inadvertently. So as I, I get it and I’m opening it up. I’m fully expecting denied and opening up at like 455, four 3430. And I open it up and I’m like, is this the one for the other? Kokila because I’m seeing approved and we were clearly told we are denied. Now, mind you, we never got denial number one, nor did we get denial number two.

00:23:38:23 – 00:24:07:29
Tom and Bunny
And they dragged their feet that the first denial we got two weeks right after. Right? The second denial we didn’t. They submitted all the appeal 30 days. They’re saying we never got anything. So Kim the care coordinator, had to resubmit it. And then it was another 30 days before they had to do anything. So it is they were just dragging their feet.

00:24:08:01 – 00:24:30:26
Tom and Bunny
So I’m reading it and it says remove and replace, of a penile implant, a penile platinum like. But it says approved approved one denial zero. And I’m like, they messed up. They sent us the wrong letter. Maybe we can use this with the well, and then maybe we can say, oh, you made my clients all excited. And then you take it away from them.

00:24:31:03 – 00:25:00:03
Tom and Bunny
I was I was already in my mind thinking of options. Yes, yes. And then the dates didn’t match up. Yeah. They said that the, the surgery was from February 15th to April 15th. Meanwhile, the letter of the date is April 16th. And here we’re reading it on a, Oh, my God, April 29th. Yes. So we’re just like, all right, so the sketcher surgery date is already closed.

00:25:00:03 – 00:25:24:13
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. So I’m like, oh my God, I got approved. And then they’re going to deny me again. So we immediately call Doctor Calvert’s office. And of course, 530 430 M it usually goes to voicemail. We usually get a call back pretty quick, but not within 30 minutes. so we call the insurance and we called everyone. No one answered.

00:25:24:15 – 00:25:54:25
Tom and Bunny
The next morning, we got two calls. We got a call from Kim at Colbert’s office, and she was so ecstatic. And she had me take pictures of it, send it over. And when I sent it over, I said, if this is true, can we have surgery May 7th, eighth or ninth? Because that would perfectly fit our schedule because we’re going to be traveling June all the way through June, and I don’t want to wait till July and have them tonight in the process.

00:25:54:26 – 00:26:17:17
Tom and Bunny
Right? No, we didn’t want to wait. We don’t want to wait and give them a reason to deny it again. Right. So she’s she calls us immediately when she reads the email and she goes, I love your optimism. She goes, I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer. I, I just want to put it forward. Your request. She goes, you realize that that surgery is one week out from today.

00:26:17:19 – 00:26:39:18
Tom and Bunny
And I’m like, yeah, I said, doctor Calvert said he’s ready to go any time she goes, all right. That was kind of being facetious, saying, yeah, he’s ready to go, but we still got to go through insurance. We got to get an operating room lined up. We got to get the staff all the it. There’s so much more than just the doctors saying, let’s go.

00:26:39:20 – 00:27:13:06
Tom and Bunny
So, so we we like that’s okay. It’s okay. We are just being hopeful. So all of a sudden, she initially she calls back and says it is approved. She goes, they can’t even find the original denials. So I’m reading my letter and it said that my approval was an override to the previous denial by a doctor who has never reviewed my case before.

00:27:13:08 – 00:27:47:21
Tom and Bunny
And I thought, this is kind of weird that a doctor randomly looks at my case and approves it and overrides the denial. And I could think, because I’m hoping Boston Scientific with their contacts and it’s like they say, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know. I am. I they haven’t said nothing. I’m just hoping that maybe they made a few calls and someone said, let me take a look and says, oh yeah, yeah, he could definitely use this.

00:27:48:22 – 00:28:16:13
Tom and Bunny
so and we’re thankful, however it happened that that doctor reviewed re reviewed my case and overturned and said it was medically necessary for me. And you know what? It could have been where I added, do you know who I am? I’m Betsy. That’s exactly right. Don’t mess with me. But, realistically, what I heard in Jamaica last time is your town.

00:28:16:17 – 00:28:42:10
Tom and Bunny
You’re the guy with the broken penis. You know how many times we got and you’re like, yeah, that’s me. Wish where we were getting because I was able to pump it up a little bit. I’ll just tell a quick story. We went to another resort with some friends and they had a nude pool. And as I’m walking in the nude pool, she’s sitting on the steps and looks up at me and she goes, oh my God, you got it fixed.

00:28:42:10 – 00:29:07:02
Tom and Bunny
And I’m like, what are you talking about? She goes, you’re you’re drunk. And I’m like, no. And she goes, well, it looks like it’s fixed. I’m like, that’s how it always. And I and I have to say that same thing to somebody else. She’s like, well Tom got an erection. I’m like, no, we didn’t know. And she goes, no, no he didn’t erection in the pool.

00:29:07:02 – 00:29:31:14
Tom and Bunny
I’m like, did you? I’m like, did you feel what she’s like? No, but it was there and I’m like, that’s my I want to feel it. So, anyway, however that took place, I’m whoever I am, I want to thank the doctor. They they didn’t even list the name of the doctor. Just says a doctor that’s never reviewed your case before.

00:29:31:16 – 00:30:00:29
Tom and Bunny
Just randomly picked your case out of the millions and said he’s a new penis. So? So then the next call I like, do he? He needs a new penis. So the next call comes in about a half hour later. and it’s Kim, and she goes, so I have an honest question. I said, what’s wrong? This question, because we are an honest couple, we will answer anything honestly.

00:30:01:02 – 00:30:27:13
Tom and Bunny
Maybe you’ve not answered or if it’s none of your business, but if it is something that can help you or assist you and we feel free, we will always answer honestly. She goes, if I were to be able to get you in Tuesday, May 7th at noon for the operation, would you promise not to be a no show?

00:30:27:13 – 00:30:49:14
Tom and Bunny
Meaning you are going to guarantee you will be here? And I’m like, no. Yes. Meanwhile, I could hear Bonnie over there because we were going to Vegas and we’re supposed to fly back on Tuesday, the day of the surgery, and she’s rescheduling it for Monday. And Kim’s like, the only problem is we need to get blood work before the surgery.

00:30:49:14 – 00:31:11:17
Tom and Bunny
And I’m like, I will drive down to Nashville right now. And so she’s like, we were leaving the following day because we were leaving the very next morning. So she set it up. She goes, come at 2:00, we’ll get your blood work and everything. And so yeah, we went there and got all that done and surgery went very, very well.

00:31:13:07 – 00:31:44:29
Tom and Bunny
the whole surgical staff was just really super nice. Everyone in that hospital, I think most everyone that walked in my room had seen our previous video. because if they if they brought it up, I would say, yeah, I if they did, I’d be like, did you see my video? And they’re like, yeah. So it was kind of funny that, everyone had seen the video and like the last one, she was asking me all kinds of lifestyle questions.

00:31:45:05 – 00:32:09:09
Tom and Bunny
She was cute, too. She she was really cute. So, anyway, everything went good, as far as I knew, but what I didn’t know is Doctor Calvert talked about it. Did he come out and see you or he didn’t? He came out this last time they did over the phone. Oh, no. No, him and him and Cole came out to see me and told me that everything went very, very well.

00:32:09:12 – 00:32:33:27
Tom and Bunny
Okay. But what did he tell you? Because I only. What do you mean way that you say it like so. Well, everyone. Okay, so the a lot of the comments I was getting was, was I getting a sex change. So my reply was always back, yes, I’m going back to a male. Are are you getting an enlargement? And I would do the little coy eyes because I was just joking.

00:32:33:29 – 00:33:02:12
Tom and Bunny
No, I was getting the 700. My previous doctor had told me that you’re born with what you’re born with, and they’ll stretch it out and put as long of tubes as they can in there. But that’s the best they can do. so Doctor Calvert comes out since Bunny obviously doesn’t remember, but I do is he told her that he was able to put larger 2 to 2cm, which is almost a full inch longer.

00:33:02:17 – 00:33:22:00
Tom and Bunny
Now you know what it it we clearly know that it should have been done back in the beginning just because of just because of our sexual activity. And, and we would be at and I’d be like, hey, you’ve got to finish, you got to pump it up more, pump it up more, because she could feel it, but maybe it was leaking at the time.

00:33:22:00 – 00:33:43:04
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, we don’t know because, we’ll do another follow up on that on its own video. So people who have the implants are going to get an implant that they can look for signs. And, you know, the crazy thing was this once he told me that, I was like, oh, I’m thinking Tom’s going to be very happy. It’s going to be static when he wakes up.

00:33:43:12 – 00:34:09:23
Tom and Bunny
And then he leaves and I’m like, I forgot to ask what caused it. So I had to call back. I had to call cam. And within a half an hour, Doctor Calvert called me back in and explained to me exactly what happened. Basically, I was showing it off too much and I overused that. I’m apparently 10 to 15 year of normal use versus three years of lifestyle views.

00:34:10:02 – 00:34:32:23
Tom and Bunny
use. It’s like dog years for every year. It’s seven years. Yeah. But you so my. All right. Could have been. We have discussed this one in the past. We are like the absolute worst lifestyle we are. We really are. But we are very sexual beings ourselves. And we literally have some type of sexual function at least once a day.

00:34:32:25 – 00:34:58:10
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. I don’t know what’s normal. It’s normal once a week. Well, something once every two weeks. Once every two months, once every six months. Once every year. But people in the lifestyle tend not. People think the lifestyle is all about meeting other people for play, right? It’s really just because we’re just very sexually attracted to each other and we’re just sexually active.

00:34:58:16 – 00:35:23:06
Tom and Bunny
And being in the lifestyle is fun to include other people. Y’all go out to. If you’re not in the lifestyle, don’t knock us. Because if you go out to a movie with your neighbors or coworkers or your best friends, it’s the same as us going to a nightclub and knocking boots. Just a different way of doing it. Okay, then.

00:35:23:09 – 00:35:56:20
Tom and Bunny
No, I’m just saying they have their way. I’m not. I someone have their way and lifestyles have their way. But you also got to know you’re a good clear cut case for Boston Scientific to think, oh, there are other people in this world that use there’s a lot more than a normal case, right. To maybe like extra tubing on the current tubing so that they last a little bit longer than 10 to 15 years.

00:35:56:20 – 00:36:19:22
Tom and Bunny
No more use. And you got two and a half. So I did look up on TikTok and I did see a larger. So he said that he was able to put one in that’s two centimeters longer. Now I don’t know if that’s the As 700. It’s just that has the tube. Some guys are four inches, some are six, some are ten, some are one or whatever.

00:36:19:28 – 00:36:42:21
Tom and Bunny
So they have different tube lengths for different guys. They could have just put longer tubes though, for all I know. I do know that I did see, but it didn’t say it was Boston Scientific and it did not say it was the 700. It just says they were thicker and longer. And when they pumped it up, sure enough, the girth got bigger and the length was about an inch longer than that.

00:36:42:23 – 00:37:05:03
Tom and Bunny
And they had a side by side of a normal tube. And then this one, I hope to God they put the other one in because it’ll make it girthy or and longer. Oh Lord, how many likes girth? Oh Lord have mercy. Oh, but hell yeah, yeah, I’m all for that. Now, the doctor on that video and I’m just, oh wait wait wait, I do have to sing.

00:37:05:09 – 00:37:26:17
Tom and Bunny
I do remember one important thing that Doctor Calvert told me when he was leaving. And you didn’t tell me? Yes. He said to not touch it. Do not touch. It’s yours. I’ll see you in three weeks. And he goes. Do not touch it. Ha ha ha ha! Don’t worry now. Going to right now. It’s all bruised.

00:37:26:19 – 00:37:59:21
Tom and Bunny
I mean, it looks like someone might use it as a punching bag. but. Yeah, the one thing, though, on the length and girth one, if it is in fact that particular model, the doctor said that it takes 12 months of use pumping it up and retracting it before and expanding everything before you will notice the length girth, because you’re normally at this size, and now it’s pushing it a little farther and a little wider.

00:37:59:25 – 00:38:31:15
Tom and Bunny
So yeah, God help me if that’s the one. Yes. Well, it but we did know that from the previous surgery because it did take a long time. It took about a year to get back to, to get back to my normal length. So some people will ask, what is your normal length? When I first got the surgery done, I was kid you not the most I was was about the size of my thumb after surgery.

00:38:31:17 – 00:38:59:14
Tom and Bunny
Before surgery, I was between 7 and 8 depending on excitement. Correct? Would you agree with that? Yep. Okay, so after surgery I was like, oh man, two inches. Yeah. And I kept pumping it and I’m like, oh my god. I went into a depression and his doctor kept telling him, you gotta give it time and think of it as a balloon, like blowing up a balloon.

00:38:59:17 – 00:39:18:11
Tom and Bunny
You expand it and it’s really hard to blow those tiny ones at first. And but then when you get it and you release it and you blow it up again, it gets easier and easier and easier. You can go bigger and bigger. That’s the way the implant functioned. I don’t know if it’s how it was intended or how it works on other people, but that was how it functioned on me.

00:39:20:21 – 00:39:48:07
Tom and Bunny
it we didn’t really use it for, I want to say about three months. Right. Because the kids, Doctor White was the previous doctor. He kept telling, no, you’re not ready. Nope. You’re not ready. Expand it, retract it. and, and from what I have heard and what we’ve read, it all depends on how you heal.

00:39:48:09 – 00:40:10:05
Tom and Bunny
It depends on your physicality and how well you take care of it. Exactly. So, I did have I got a bunch of messages from, recent TikTok little tiny video we did just before I went into surgery. It was just the 22nd. Get ready to go under the knife and finally said it was for my penile implant, remove and replace.

00:40:10:05 – 00:40:39:12
Tom and Bunny
And it’s had 600,000 views. I said, have I set up Bill Tom’s trips into that little video? But, oh, I forgot where I was going with that. We were talking about length finger. Yeah, I forgot what’s going on with that. I don’t even know how long we’ve been talking. Oh, I remember, so, we’re currently at 39 minutes, so this can be an hour long.

00:40:39:14 – 00:41:06:13
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, because you like to talk about your junk. I do like to talk about my tongue. So, one, I got a lot of messages. I got messages on Tik Tok because of that little video, but we’ve gotten a lot of messages from the YouTube video. And one of the questions from Tik Tok was, he’s getting an implant in about a week, and then he, and his wife, him and his wife are going to healing is, in six weeks.

00:41:06:19 – 00:41:30:02
Tom and Bunny
Will he be ready to use it? he goes, so I’ll be ready to use mine at six weeks. And I’m like, hey, because you got two tubes up the shaft of your junk. all that has to heal inside. I mean, that is abused in there. You don’t see how much damage was done to the tissue or anything.

00:41:30:05 – 00:41:54:19
Tom and Bunny
You can, I, I replied back, I’m like, you could do whatever you want to do. I personally chose to wait and Doctor Calvert watched our first video and he clearly when I said we waited like, I don’t know, three, six months, he goes, you are more spot on. He goes, why risk it? And why damage yourself? Are the implant because all that has to heal inside.

00:41:54:20 – 00:42:19:01
Tom and Bunny
Well, and plus the fact that when we did start it, it was a little painful, right? So, you know, as a wife and your lover, we take it a little easier. Yeah. Yeah. You’re more cautious. You go break me for no go at your pace. Do what you can do. I’ve seen Bonnie tell other women. Don’t break it.

00:42:19:03 – 00:42:52:09
Tom and Bunny
Don’t break it. Oh, mama bear. Okay. No, about that. You don’t know what we’ve been through. This coming for 39 years. We’ve been married 39 years. May 24th in two weeks. Yeah, on the 24th, I get my other Kokila. Yes. surgery. So. Well, we’re actually going to follow. We’re going to go back to, we’re going to step back a little bit because that gentleman is going to Jamaica.

00:42:52:12 – 00:43:20:22
Tom and Bunny
We also go back to Jamaica on June 13th. But will we or will we not get back in the water? It all really depends on incision on and especially on what Doctor Calvert says. Right. Because it doesn’t matter. It’s just, the nerd pool gets a lot of use over all the other pools. some people say that it gets cloudy from the side of the screen.

00:43:20:23 – 00:43:47:27
Tom and Bunny
Other people say other things, but all I know is I don’t want any firm where the stitches were. Any scabs from the healing process. If there is even a single scab, I will not walk into that pool just because that’s the last place you want an infection. Exactly. Yeah, and definitely no salt water and no salt water. No, you definitely don’t need any bacterial in that.

00:43:47:27 – 00:44:08:16
Tom and Bunny
You got to keep it as clean as humanly possible. Right. And listen to your doctor and follow every word of his or her advice. Well, oh, and you know the other thing I’m going to I’m flipping around again on the other gentleman that said that he wants to go to Quito and play right afterwards, what about getting a condom on?

00:44:08:19 – 00:44:32:12
Tom and Bunny
That would hurt like hell. Well, after after six weeks, I I’m guessing it would probably hurt me. One of the problems with, having an implant is, you know, everyone can put a condom over their head, and they put it over all over down there, all the way to their elbow. And they all say, yeah, guys say that they can’t get it on when with the implant.

00:44:32:12 – 00:45:00:11
Tom and Bunny
It’s so rigid because those tubes don’t really have any flex whatsoever. So when you put I mean I so magnums fit and they turn my whole south brighter than my shirt. Yes the whole thing, it’s just skin tone. But when I pull it off it looks like my shirt. So it’s too tight. Magnum. Extra large is too big.

00:45:00:14 – 00:45:29:14
Tom and Bunny
So I’m in that gray area. I know there’s that company that makes them to your exact size, and I probably should look at those, and could you measure the circumference and the length and then they send you your exact measurements. Exactly. So I think they’re made by one. Yes. Oh. Any now and you know, for us, like I said, yes, we’re very excited to get back to, a sexual function.

00:45:29:21 – 00:45:53:17
Tom and Bunny
You know, we always say we cross the road when we get to it or cross the bridge when we get to it. But you know what? At 56, this was not the bridge to stop having sexual relations, right? I married my best friend. He’s my husband. He’s my lover, my confidant in that, you know, that it’s the path that we take together.

00:45:53:17 – 00:46:16:07
Tom and Bunny
And it. We’re not ready to give that up yet. No, we have had friends say, oh, when it’s done, it’s done. No, no. Well, they say that because it’s not done right now. anyone out there could go. Oh, well, when it’s my time. No, stop saying that because you’re going to be in a total different mindset when your stuff doesn’t work.

00:46:16:10 – 00:46:41:18
Tom and Bunny
I mean, big mindset. and, and if you don’t live the same type of life as we do, you still need to speak to your wife about it, talk to your doctor about it, because you need everybody in your corner, right, to to function with this particular surgery. Don’t just it’s about the fact, oh, I’ve got bed and nothing’s going to work for me.

00:46:41:22 – 00:47:04:29
Tom and Bunny
No, there are things that will work for you. You just need to reach out to talk to people that you know. How many people didn’t even know an implant existed for men? I’ll lie. I’ve got a lot of messages going. I didn’t know those existed. I got one from a surgical nurse saying that she was in the surgical for the, rigid implants, not the pump one.

00:47:05:01 – 00:47:22:01
Tom and Bunny
I didn’t know that. The wrench, it came out before the pump, but obviously one had come from the other. And she had never heard of the pump one. So she messaged me and said, I’ve I’ve been in the operating room on the wretched ones. I didn’t even know there was a pump. I don’t know how the richest ones work I have.

00:47:22:05 – 00:47:46:23
Tom and Bunny
I don’t even know what they look like. Doesn’t sound like it’s fun. Does doesn’t. but if. Here’s our clear cut advice and like I said, we’re just talking about what’s going on right now. Right now they are. They cut me across the pelvic bone. Yep. That’s where the original doctor went. And I said, hey, to the new Doctor Calvert.

00:47:46:23 – 00:48:12:08
Tom and Bunny
And I said, hey, he went this way, and I could feel the tubes going over my pelvic bone, down into the scrotum, into the palm. And it’s uncomfortable, especially if I cross my leg or sit wrong. And you would you would scream, I would, I jump, go. And she was like, what’s wrong? nothing. But now he goes, well, there are tubes.

00:48:12:08 – 00:48:34:01
Tom and Bunny
There is a reservoir, there’s a pump. There’s, all this stuff going on. And I said, I, I understand, I just it was just you, you could see it through the skin. It was just so high up. So he goes, well, the way he’s going to do it is he’s going to go through the top original scar, but he’s also going to cut into the scrotum.

00:48:34:20 – 00:48:57:01
Tom and Bunny
and you know what? I don’t feel those tubes. So maybe when I talked to him, he was under a better understanding. And he. And the pump is before was really high up. Now it’s really low. Yeah, yeah. So I think it’ll be easier to operate. And he kept he in all of his videos. He says that you need to grab the pump and pull it down.

00:48:57:04 – 00:49:26:02
Tom and Bunny
Your other doctor never did that. So you’re saying hi. And that could have been what fault with that? Because it could have been kinking and but yeah, majorly bruised right now. They did surgical glue on the pelvic, but they did stitches on my scrotum. but let me tell you, the, he has absolutely no, no swelling, but we have been taking it so incredibly easy.

00:49:26:06 – 00:49:56:09
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. I mean, we now live in a two story house. They said that the stairs wouldn’t bother him, but literally come up to go to bed. Yeah, and go back downstairs. But other than that, it has been taking it very, very easy. And that’s the biggest thing. You’ve got to just shut yourself down until you heal. Yeah. So I another, comment I had was, a gentleman just had his done and his was same problem as me.

00:49:56:09 – 00:50:18:22
Tom and Bunny
It just stopped working. No reason. No, no. Why. And he was waiting over a year, year and a half. And he finally got his done a week before. This gives me a week before mine. Now his doctor replaced the tubes and the shaft and the pump, but left the reservoir in his pelvic, but just kind of secured it.

00:50:18:24 – 00:50:42:11
Tom and Bunny
My doctor, I asked him about that and he goes, well, he goes, why take the risk? Because if you are leaking fluid, oh, that meant fluids were able to come in. And he goes, I just personally wouldn’t want to take the risk of anything being contaminated on a closed system. Exactly. So he goes, I’m going to replace everything unless you don’t want me to.

00:50:42:11 – 00:51:03:24
Tom and Bunny
And I’m like, no, no, no, I, I, I’m in it to win it. I want you to do what you do best. I am not here. I was just asking why would his doctor do that? And he goes, they all have their reasons and there’s no right or wrong reason. I say there is because by replacing everything, I feel more comfortable that I’m not going to be.

00:51:03:24 – 00:51:27:24
Tom and Bunny
And sooner rather than later. Exactly. Right now, one thing that he did explain to me too, is we didn’t even discuss what they figure it out. What caused it. Basically what he said. I have more information when we go into next week, so that’s why we’re going to do another follow up. So this is basically what he told me in my, my, oblivious explanation back the two tubes that run up the shaft.

00:51:27:24 – 00:51:53:10
Tom and Bunny
They do have little wires that run through those that connect to the pump, he said. It’s basically like a starter. You get so much time on it and those little wires will wear out. And that is what is happening. It like a yeah. So he said, basically what they found in you is that you had the same exact, issue as if you just used it too much.

00:51:53:12 – 00:52:19:16
Tom and Bunny
And like that. He said that he, they found the failure within the tubes that is synonymous with the 10 to 15 year mark. Okay. So so that explains some of that. Well, that’s where we said, yeah, they’ve got to understand that not everybody is having sexual relations only once a week or every other week. Every every day cuts down that lifespan.

00:52:19:18 – 00:52:41:09
Tom and Bunny
It does. And so I had I had another message come in and he was waiting two years for the VA and he got his approved. And I think he’s still in his next week. he just got his done too. So it was all just in succession. All three of us. This is the one in Kentucky I believe so.

00:52:41:13 – 00:53:04:24
Tom and Bunny
And they they’re going to replace everything. But it took I think it was more of a scheduling issue with him, but the VA covered it. That’s good. That’s really good. I told Tom link, I’m like, you just got to wait nine years. You’re gonna make it last nine years. So for me that that’s and Medicare will cover it.

00:53:06:06 – 00:53:37:15
Tom and Bunny
my my big take on all this is I’ve had Ed since my mid 20s. Is it my fault? No. is anyone’s fault. No. It’s just like somebody losing their hearing or going blind or just growing old. It’s inevitable it will happen. It’s just some people. It never happens too. I always say, if you don’t have Ed, more power to you, we applaud you and be proud.

00:53:37:18 – 00:54:01:23
Tom and Bunny
There is no reason to put down someone who does have Ed like sucks to be, you know. Yeah, I hear saying that because we hear this all the time and it’s not a funny comment. Well and then it’s, it’s a douchebag comment. It is. And whether it be a from a male or a female, because within our lifestyle we hear it from the females also.

00:54:01:24 – 00:54:24:04
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. Oh my gosh, I don’t play with that guy. He can’t get an erection. Yeah. Oh I just want to slap them because they just don’t understand. And you know what? Yes. Tom can get an erection with me for a few minutes and then it goes. Then it goes flat. But you know somebody else, you know, they don’t know.

00:54:24:04 – 00:54:51:06
Tom and Bunny
They don’t know. Because that’s going through my head that it’s not going to last very long and. Right. But then, so it doesn’t matter if it’s a douchebag or a douchebag woman. Right. Either one. So I mean, just I mean, be supportive of those who have it because it is just, a disabling it can very debilitating. I want to I want to almost put it out there like you do with your hearing.

00:54:51:08 – 00:55:10:23
Tom and Bunny
When people mess with you about your hearing, you always say, would you kick a pill? Would you kick a person in a wheelchair? Yeah. So why would you? Why would you make fun of my hearing? Or why would you make fun of somebody having Ed? But there are people that just can’t go through life without making themselves feel better by putting someone else down.

00:55:10:25 – 00:55:29:27
Tom and Bunny
So with that said, I don’t want to dwell on that. It’s just it’s a no. It’s just a fact of life. It happens. Well, it’s just annoying. And sometimes people just absorb it and we want to put it out there. I know I’ll get comments. We do, we do block and we do delete the comments. We don’t need those people in our lives.

00:55:29:27 – 00:56:03:05
Tom and Bunny
I don’t even know why they feel the need to take the time it took to make the comment, because I’m going to delete it anyways. Why? Why? Just go on, move on. If you if you don’t like it Berkus, don’t subscribe and don’t follow us, just move on. With that all said, if you are taking the blue or yellow pill or doing the injections, especially if you’re doing the tri max injections, start talking to your urologist yesterday.

00:56:03:07 – 00:56:30:15
Tom and Bunny
Yes, don’t worry about the implant. Start researching. Start documenting. People have been on the blue pill for years. Fine. Great. But there are a lot of people we’ve talked to. But with me, the blue pill stopped working, the yellow pill stopped working, and the tri mics stopped working. It’s not, be all for everyone. My body just Denton.

00:56:30:22 – 00:56:53:20
Tom and Bunny
All right. Hello. And on the flip side, if you are a lot younger and you’re taking the tri mics or you’re taking those pills for sport, you don’t need them with your spouse, but you need them for sport. You need to stop taking it. Otherwise you’re going to be sitting where we are in the next in years. Yeah, because it will inadvertently mess with your arm.

00:56:55:01 – 00:57:13:20
Tom and Bunny
junk. Where I have to believe it. Damage as well. God forbid if they get that four hour erection, they have to go to er. They’re going to be doing a lot more than that. And implant. Yeah. They slice you open to drain the blood. So you don’t want to do that. You don’t want to take that step.

00:57:13:20 – 00:57:33:22
Tom and Bunny
You see people cringing right now. Don’t take it for sports. Trust me. Right. So what do we got here you are almost an hour. Oh my God. I thought it was going to be just a 30 minute. I know we kind of babbled and we got to the end. There’s more to even talk about. Yes, there is, but,

00:57:33:25 – 00:58:01:02
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, just after two denials and expecting a denial letter and getting an approval letter, emotions were all over, bouncing off walls and everything because we couldn’t get Ahold of anybody to confirm or deny the approval. But once Kim got Ahold of them, then they said, well, we don’t even see the denials, but we got an approval here.

00:58:01:04 – 00:58:27:13
Tom and Bunny
She accepted that and to have my surgery a week later, I get all. I’ll be honest though, the first one, it was a breeze. The second one, I started to get a little nervous, because I didn’t really remember the first one because it it wasn’t that painful. I mean, I did take oxy for the first day and a half, and I weaned myself off of it.

00:58:27:13 – 00:58:56:24
Tom and Bunny
I haven’t been on it since. And we are at how many days? This is Saturday? Six days. Tuesday, five days. Five days. So after a couple days, I wind myself off, and I don’t. I mean, every now and then, like, if I get out of my Jeep and my Jeep selected, I get up too fast. I got to remind myself to get up a little slower, set a little slower, just because I’m stretching different muscles in areas that were cut, I will recommend.

00:58:57:01 – 00:59:20:13
Tom and Bunny
I mean, we love our Bama immensely. She almost went out the window the day when if you have a big dog or a cat or dog that likes to jump in your lap, you might want to caution yourself to constrain the dog because Bama jumped on my lap and I mean, I almost threw her across the jeep because that hurt.

00:59:20:17 – 00:59:47:24
Tom and Bunny
Oh yeah, no kidding her. She just want to curl up and sleep in his lap while I drove. So anyway, we’re going to do other videos between the update. I know we really haven’t been doing much because we just went to Vegas and oh, two weeks I have my other surgery and then we go to a week later, we go to Sooners swing in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

00:59:48:01 – 01:00:13:08
Tom and Bunny
But while we’re here for two weeks, we do plan on putting out some more travel tip videos, lifestyle videos, and just more. We might even talk about my junk a little more because I love talking about my junk. And he does talk about it at home all the time. I do, I do, yes. I mean, I’m just ecstatic we got it.

01:00:13:11 – 01:00:33:09
Tom and Bunny
It was the best thing ever, ever. All right, so until our next video, don’t forget, we do everything we do on video, we do on podcast, on all the major podcast sites, so you can listen to us in the car, in the gym, on the toilet, whatever you want to do. And on video. We know people.

01:00:33:09 – 01:00:56:15
Tom and Bunny
We get pictures of them watching us on their big screen TVs in their living room. Some of you guys I know, I remember sending them a picture of that, either way, hey, like our stuff, but send us a comment. if it’s podcast, we don’t really get comments there, but you can go to Tom and bunny.com. I’ll put it up on the screen.

01:00:56:18 – 01:01:22:04
Tom and Bunny
And our email address is Tom and Bunny at Tom. And by ecom send us an email. Ask us questions. We may add it to the video. We may answer you. We may even call you if it’s like going to be more of a detail instead of back and forth through email or texting and everything. So we are here to give our opinion.

01:01:22:10 – 01:01:44:25
Tom and Bunny
We’re not that it means anything. Our opinion doesn’t mean no, it doesn’t. It’s just an opinion. Just like any other influencer out there, there’s just opinions. They’re not to be all of the lifestyle. So not at all. No. So all right, until next time. We’ll see you soon. We’ll see you soon.

Vibe Party Recap with Tom and Bunny

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Vibe Party Recap with Tom and Bunny

Tom and Bunny recap their recent weekend at the Vibe Party hotel takeover in Murfreesboro Tennessee and update on their upcoming trips with Tom’s Trips with Hedo Hotshots at Hedonism in Jamaica, Bi-events Bi Out in Las Vegas, Sooner Swing camping trip in Tulsa Oklahoma, Kasidie Krush at Hedonism in Jamaica, Northaven Resort in Brooklyn Michigan and our two events back at Hedonism Resort with our Sunny Buns and Bi Week.

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Transcript

00:00:00:00 – 00:00:23:07
Tom and Bunny
Hey, everyone. Tom and Bunny here and I know we’re getting ready to watch our next video. And if you find this video useful or some of the videos in the past, please do us a favor by booking your travel through us at Tom’s trips.com, or give us a call at 1-800-285-0853 and I can answer any questions and get you booked on your next lifestyle vacation.

00:00:23:07 – 00:00:48:08
Tom and Bunny
Hey, everyone. We’re Tom and Bonnie from Tom and Barnicle coming to you live from the Nashville area of Tennessee. And we were representing Tom’s trips, your leader and adult lifestyle travel to destinations all around the world and more by attending the Vibe Party in Murfreesboro, Tennessee this past weekend. You know what? We haven’t really been out very much besides going to Jamaica ready to go.

00:00:48:13 – 00:01:15:19
Tom and Bunny
And, it was certainly great to get our feet wet and get in there and have fun again. Yeah, because the what are we in April, middle of April going on middle of April. And we have been at Hayden is January, February, March and we’re going back next week. So it’s kind of a nice change to get to a local place.

00:01:15:19 – 00:01:33:01
Tom and Bunny
And we have a couple more events that we’re going to be going to that we’ll talk about at the end of this video. So if you want to follow us, come out and join us. So we, got the invite to be part of the Vibe Tribe while we are in, hedonism. for the Miss No swimsuit.

00:01:33:06 – 00:01:56:22
Tom and Bunny
And I think that we’ve actually probably found a home. We did find a home. Now we have band, vibe one other time, and it was probably about six years ago, maybe five, five and a half years ago when we first started with Tom’s trips. We went to a Halloween party at vibe, and we we were kind of busy the whole time.

00:01:56:22 – 00:02:21:24
Tom and Bunny
So we we enjoyed ourselves, but not like this weekend. Right now. We did have a lot of help. Yeah. My goodness. They really, pretty much held her hand and introduced us to everybody that they knew and so it was really, really good. My kidneys have been hosting for Tom’s trips for 14 years. long before we started.

00:02:21:26 – 00:02:52:22
Tom and Bunny
And they go to Trapeze Atlanta and they go to five parties. So they also go to, a couple other ones. But those are the two that they’re most well known. and believe me, they have a great presence, vibe. Everybody who is anybody who wasn’t anybody who was somebody they all knew Mike and Andy, he’s and Mike and and he’s personally brought them and introduced us.

00:02:52:24 – 00:03:12:17
Tom and Bunny
And that made our jobs a lot easier. Well, and the gist of it made the fact of getting to meet people a lot easier to it’s always great when you have somebody that kind of helps you out a little bit. Yeah. I mean, even as long as we’ve been in this life, it’s great to have friends to meet other friends, right?

00:03:12:19 – 00:03:48:15
Tom and Bunny
See, I say right a lot. You do literally, literally. So, no. now vibe had a new location. They did have a new location. Now, that ironic part is when me and buddy were transporting RVs for a while when Covid hit, and we had nothing better to do except try to make money, we would stay at the hotel that vibe was hosting at, and we always thought while we were staying there, it wasn’t a lot of people at the hotel.

00:03:48:19 – 00:04:09:25
Tom and Bunny
No, no, it’s an older hotel, but it’s big. It’s huge. And we thought, man, what a great place to have a lifestyle event at. And and you know, I mentioned that to and to the owners of vibe. I don’t know if I can mention their names, but I did mention that to them. And she’s like, you know, we’ve been trying to get this location for over seven years.

00:04:10:03 – 00:04:39:03
Tom and Bunny
What a great location. And let me tell you what a great way to blow it out. I mean, blow party. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it was it was a great, great weekend. Yeah. So you want real quick you want to give there. information for vibe parties. I just oh I, we, we had to restart the video. So if you want, Google our research vibe while you’re watching our video or after.

00:04:39:03 – 00:05:05:18
Tom and Bunny
And I’m going to put their web address throughout the video. And at the end of the video, it’s parties by vibe.com pa t I s b b I b e.com. And if you’re listening to us on a podcast, you’re welcome to jump over to our YouTube channel. And if you’re watching us on YouTube, you can listen to us on podcasts.

00:05:05:18 – 00:05:29:17
Tom and Bunny
We are Tom and Bonnie everywhere on social media, Instagram and Twitter, so be sure to like and subscribe there. Now, I won’t make you start all over. Thank you. So you know the week it vibe is a hotel takeover. Yes. And they do have a their parties on Friday night and on Saturday night. So you’re getting the most bang for your buck for the whole weekend.

00:05:29:17 – 00:06:06:20
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. And Friday night started off with spring break and Saturday night was blow in two. Totally different two totally different vibes. Yes. You like I threw that in there. And they had two different deejays, one on Friday and one on Saturday. So the music kind of correlated with each one. Yeah. So going with the spring break or now, me, I’m finding we like more of the top 40 music and music that you hear on the radio or that you can bump around to Friday night.

00:06:06:20 – 00:06:30:22
Tom and Bunny
The deejay had the dance floor packed and he was playing all those cool songs that we used to play at our club, right. It was kind of like a big mix of what we used to play. And yeah, it was like threw about a lot back, a lot of memories. Yeah. He, he was a phenomenal DJ. We we were really, really, really impressed.

00:06:30:22 – 00:06:54:15
Tom and Bunny
And just the dance for never quit. And then, the spring break party, everyone was kind of just wearing it was they said dress like you would if you were on spring break. So you had people in shorts and bikini thongs. So what? so it was very, very simple and easy to wear. I what did I wear?

00:06:54:20 – 00:07:15:25
Tom and Bunny
Oh, I have a little white outfit that I usually wear to Hedo. And I actually pulled that one out and wore it. Oh, yeah. It’s, Victoria’s Secret. It’s like, it’s a it’s actually a bathing suit cover, but but it, you know, she looks naked, right? So. And she was bathing. I am naked under it. Yeah. You weren’t wearing a bathing suit under it, so,

00:07:15:27 – 00:07:49:07
Tom and Bunny
No. Then there was a lot of people that that are regulars there, and they all had their, airbrushed t shirts. Yeah. 20, 20 from those people. And they kept coming over. So that was really cool because I kept saying, yeah, you must all went to the same airbrush. But no, I was very, very impressed. not only by the way, the parties are ran by the size of it, but just the people were just really super nice.

00:07:49:08 – 00:08:13:18
Tom and Bunny
They were really, really, really nice. They were very young. yeah, a lot more younger than us. But they still talk to us old people. They did. Maybe they didn’t think that we are so old. Hopefully. You know, you kept asking me if you looked younger. I was trying then, the nice thing about the location of the vibe party is the proximity to restaurants.

00:08:13:21 – 00:08:37:02
Tom and Bunny
Ubers. Ubers are, in abundance. they’re they’re we went to, restaurant for, brunch, on Saturday. On Saturday. And there was a restaurant in the parking lot. I don’t want to give too much details because I’m not sure, people need to book to get the information. So I don’t want to give away the dedicado.

00:08:37:02 – 00:08:58:28
Tom and Bunny
Exactly. Not. So, yeah. there’s a Walmart right across the street that pretty much everything you need, you can almost walk to if you really want to. We went to Walmart, and next we ended up walking back. Yeah. But no. And then let’s talk about Saturday night because Saturday night glow parties are always my talk about Saturday day.

00:08:59:04 – 00:09:25:08
Tom and Bunny
Oh yes, Saturday day and all the pool party that they did and all the activities. Yes. So our, miss no swimsuit contest that she took second place. they, her and her husband hosted a pool party from one to. It was only supposed to be a couple hours, but I heard it went till 6:00 at night and the party started at 8:00 at night.

00:09:25:11 – 00:09:47:02
Tom and Bunny
So the party got a little started a little later. So. Yeah. No, I know that they did a wet t shirt contest. I believe they did a wet underwear contest, a wet underwear contest. Hey, I let the guys get out there and oh, it was guys. Oh, the girls never came. No. Just kidding. it was packed. It was very packed.

00:09:47:04 – 00:10:14:10
Tom and Bunny
Yes, it was very packed. but, no, they did an amazing job doing their their games and getting people involved. Yeah. So. But I did see a couple on the wet t T-shirt. Some of the people are like, just like, here, here’s your shirt. Okay, okay. But that’s what happens when you’re friends. Yeah. You kind of get the ball and hold volunteers for I don’t know if they got Volun told.

00:10:14:10 – 00:10:34:18
Tom and Bunny
I was just watching from a distance, but it was it was fun to watch. Definitely for sure. If you’re wondering why buddy keeps looking at me, if you’re watching on YouTube, it’s because I’m technically deaf, so I have to see people. But since he’s this close, I can actually hear her. So yeah, and typically when I talk to Tom, I’m always looking at his face so he can read my lips.

00:10:34:18 – 00:10:57:26
Tom and Bunny
She likes my pretty face. I do, I do. He’s very handsome. But no, no, I want to talk about Saturday night because Glow Party is my absolute favorite. No matter where we go. Glow party is by far Bunnys ultimate favorite theme. it’s easy to dress to. The music is always pumping, so yeah, it’s more upbeat. Techno is.

00:10:57:28 – 00:11:26:16
Tom and Bunny
So now that DJ on Saturday night came in and he played all of the hottest house in dance music that you can imagine. Yeah, he had that place bumpin. Yeah, he was actually he was a really great deejay. I was going to say good DJ. He. No, he was really a great deejay. Both days were awesome. And they both cater to two different types of genre and we we couldn’t have been more happier.

00:11:26:18 – 00:11:52:05
Tom and Bunny
no. And don’t forget, you know, they come in there and they take a hotel lobby area. That’s nothing. It’s a blank canvas is a blank canvas. And they make it into a nightclub for one weekend. And the glow stuff around it, they put up the black walls with yellow glow paint on them. And heck, just a DJ upstairs.

00:11:52:07 – 00:12:15:10
Tom and Bunny
what would it be called? I don’t even there. They had a shadow box up there. They had a dance pull up there down below. They had two dance poles. Then they had the big area that looked like a rock concert with all the lighting and their huge truss sister truss system, their dance floor didn’t. They had a cage.

00:12:15:13 – 00:12:45:13
Tom and Bunny
Not only was the dance floor like tiles that were stuck together, they were nice and soft. Yeah. So when you were out there dancing, it wasn’t like you were trying to, like, dance on a hard floor and slip everywhere. It was really right. It worked out perfectly well. But I will have to say that that was probably by far the most black lights that I have ever seen at a Glow party, and that’s what makes it Glow party success.

00:12:45:15 – 00:13:13:06
Tom and Bunny
Everybody was glowing. Yes. Even if you wore a pale colors you were still glowing. No. There were some some awesome outfits. Now I tell you what I was sitting back watching and I was just kind of cracking up and laughing because watching the the crowd was reminded me so much of way back in our day when we would go to the lifestyle convention in Las Vegas.

00:13:13:06 – 00:13:38:05
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. Oh yeah, we were about that age and man, we were up at like, well, we’re up about 11:00 in the morning and we were going until about nine in the morning. Right. And that’s what they were doing. They start over again. No. You know what though? What we didn’t see because unfortunately, we went did go a little bit, a little bit early on Saturday night.

00:13:38:05 – 00:13:59:05
Tom and Bunny
They had an after hours party too. So up on that area where they had their I saw a DJ, they had a full DJ system up there. So when the party was done over here, the after hours party took off. Okay. Yeah. Mike was saying they’ll go till six in the morning. And we’re a little beyond that now.

00:13:59:08 – 00:14:26:29
Tom and Bunny
But people always ask us, age demographics and I will say that the general age was a younger crowd, probably in their mid late 30 to 40 ish. So maybe I’m thinking a little younger. Well, no, I’m just talking in the media in the meat and potatoes. Yes. very a lot of people were very physically fit and but they were arrogant, physically fit.

00:14:26:29 – 00:14:51:27
Tom and Bunny
They were having a great time. beautiful people. There were people of all shapes and sizes, but the majority seemed to fit, physically fit crowd. So that’s the type of party you’re looking for. That is the place to go to. But you know what? There was like Tom said, I was, far from physically fit. There was a whole mix of all kinds of different people.

00:14:51:27 – 00:15:18:19
Tom and Bunny
So if you’re looking, there’s something for everybody. Yeah. Oh, absolutely. Yeah. we like I said we just get asked because there are people that want to go to more of a fluffy club and some people want to go to a very young club, some people want to go to a physically fit. And there’s nothing wrong with any of those, and there’s nothing wrong with any of the clubs wanting to run a certain way.

00:15:18:20 – 00:15:42:26
Tom and Bunny
No, I mean, we want to put that out there, our club that we used to run, we cater to everybody. And there were clubs a couple miles from us that cater to under 30, physically fit. you have to have a wallet to prove your worthiness. we never agreed with that back then. we still personally don’t.

00:15:42:28 – 00:16:10:17
Tom and Bunny
But like I say it, it’s, Well, I mean, but we can’t now because we’re working on that. But no, the the five party was just. It was a fun experience for everybody. Let’s put it this way. They’re such a friendly group that not only, you know, we know quite a few of them from our midst. No swimsuit contest in Jamaica, right?

00:16:10:18 – 00:16:34:22
Tom and Bunny
And one of our other contestants from trapeze was there, so they came in from Atlanta. Yeah. there was a couple there that came to miss no swimsuit and didn’t know anybody. They kind of got adopted by the vibe Tribe when we were in Jamaica. And they flew all the way in from Salt Lake City, Utah. Yes. And then I did see on Facebook that there was somebody else that came in from Houston.

00:16:34:25 – 00:16:54:01
Tom and Bunny
Did you see the map? There are people from California. They what they do is they took a map of the United States, and here we are, Tennessee. And they, colored in all the states in blue, not being political, but who came to the white Party this last week? I didn’t see that. Oh, yeah. See, that’s pretty cool.

00:16:54:01 – 00:17:21:01
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, it’s actually kind of cool that they were listing where everyone came from, but it was an amazing party. And we’re definitely going to be back for sure. Yeah. Now, vibe was talking to us. They used to do parties once a month and they would put out, tickets are for sale. Can’t you? Not as fast as Garth Brooks, Taylor Swift and all them big name artists.

00:17:21:04 – 00:17:44:24
Tom and Bunny
They would sell out in under ten minutes. I mean, whole entire hotels, people were sitting there like Ticketmaster and I like click, click and even overflows. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We had Stand the Overflow the first time because we couldn’t even get into the Right. The main hotel. Yes. You want to stay in the main hotel because you don’t want to have to leave to go to another hotel.

00:17:44:24 – 00:18:07:29
Tom and Bunny
And most likely people aren’t going to leave with you to go to another hotel. No. So you want to have a room at the host hotel. So that way you could take your private party and go have some fun privately, then go back to the main party. Now they do have a playroom there. their playroom had a bondage area, had a lot of beds and a lot of apparatuses.

00:18:08:00 – 00:18:31:10
Tom and Bunny
Right. But you also got to understand that every state is different on what they can allow in their playroom. So so everything is a little bit different in each state. If you go to a different hotel party. Yes. but you know, sometimes in the hotel parties, people will take people to their rooms because of more accessibility right there.

00:18:31:12 – 00:19:06:14
Tom and Bunny
Oh, yeah. It’s a lot more convenient. A lot more convenient. And you got a shower? Yeah. And the best way house. The best way to get somebody in your room. Hey, you guys, one shot. Come on over. I. That’s what you used to say. Of course, of course. Now that we got you here. So now vibe does their party every couple months, and, they were telling us that they were seeing a trend that when they were having a party, that people were booking so fast that the, the trend was that they were spending too much money.

00:19:06:16 – 00:19:32:03
Tom and Bunny
it can happen. It can happen. And they were about all taking money. They were obviously there about making money, but they started doing their parties a little farther apart so people could recoup because by the time you pay for the party, the hotel, the travel, the food and everything, it can add up pretty fast. And in some cases, babysitters, dogs, humans, dog sitters.

00:19:32:06 – 00:19:51:10
Tom and Bunny
We took mama with us. We we did. I don’t think she’ll be going to the next one. So yeah, it was it was a little too uncomfortable for her in the house. Yeah. She’s stuck in a room, stuck behind the pillows. But, yeah, that’s very admirable. we really appreciate that. They’re looking at the the owner of five.

00:19:51:11 – 00:20:13:06
Tom and Bunny
He’s a mathematical genius, and he is looking at all the associated costs and everything, and he just didn’t feel comfortable knowing that people were probably spending their last few dollars. But, you know, I honestly think too, when, when you have them every month, then it kind of gets mundane and it gets to be the same thing in the same people.

00:20:13:13 – 00:20:42:00
Tom and Bunny
But I think when you have them only, you know, five or 6 or 7 a year, then it gets more excitement. You get more. I think so too. Too. I think so too. because when it’s every single month we were at a club for 20 years, we were open five nights a week. We could tell you we we had a lot of new people, of course, but we could see the same people on each specific night.

00:20:42:03 – 00:21:02:10
Tom and Bunny
I mean, Saturday was always the same group of people. And there’s nothing wrong with that because it’s like seeing your friends once a week. Well, one of the funny stories that I always tell everybody is I bartended for 18 years back behind that bar, and we used to let the girls dance up on the bar. Oh, yeah.

00:21:02:16 – 00:21:23:21
Tom and Bunny
And I could tell you who had a birthmark. I had this who had that? Just because I seen the same thing every week. I liked it when, people would go worst time and you’d be like, hold on. He’ll be around in a minute. There’s a new girl up on the bar, and here I come around the corner.

00:21:23:23 – 00:21:47:09
Tom and Bunny
But, yeah. parties by vibe. check them out. Definitely book. You want to book early and fast? you want to join their website? You got a book like this? Yeah. And in order to be on their website, you have to at least go to, I think it’s two parties a year just to stay on their website.

00:21:47:09 – 00:22:10:20
Tom and Bunny
Yes. Now, I think that they have one coming up in June, according to what Mike was saying, but I don’t I think we’re even going to have a scheduling conflict with that one, too. I think we’re going to a wedding in Pennsylvania that weekend. Yeah, we’re pretty much booked every weekend. so, but you might see us somewhere in the summertime out there for sure.

00:22:10:25 – 00:22:43:12
Tom and Bunny
Now, the, the first weekend, if you want to know our kind of our schedule right now, first weekend of May, we’re going to be in Las Vegas for the buy out. And it’s a bi event and it’s for bi couples. And singles. And we’re going to be there representing Tom’s trips because Tom’s trip’s host, the only bye week and, hedonism and Jamaica, this year we’re on in April and the event’s not till October 5th.

00:22:43:14 – 00:23:11:18
Tom and Bunny
We are only have as of right now. How many rooms? Because we have nine, nine rooms. I thought it was eight. So nine rooms out of 289 rooms. So it’s crazy how fast it’s selling out. So we’re going to be there representing for the 2025 bye week at hedonism to, let people know about it. And then when we come back, we’re going to be home for a couple weeks, aren’t we?

00:23:11:20 – 00:23:37:02
Tom and Bunny
We are going to be home for a couple weeks in May. Yes. Okay. So and then at the last weekend of May, we just put out a little video on it. We’ll be at Sooners swing with Justin and Kaylee with On the Border lifestyle group in Tulsa, Oklahoma. and that’s o t b l s.com if you want check out on the border lifestyle and book sooner.

00:23:37:02 – 00:24:00:10
Tom and Bunny
Swing and come visit with us the end of May. and then, we’re going to be home all of July. I don’t know how that, but you just by past June, I did bypass June, didn’t I? We’re not going to be home much in June. June? The first weekend of June, first weekend in June is, we’re going to be at a wedding in Pennsylvania.

00:24:00:11 – 00:24:25:01
Tom and Bunny
Yes, we’re going to be, our entertainers. you already said their name. Beth and Kyle. He’s a singer saxophonist, and she is the cutest girl. Shit. they’re going to get married. They’ve been together 17 years, 17 years, and they’re going to finally do it. And we got invited. So we’re going to go down there and we’re going to stop in at the corral.

00:24:25:03 – 00:24:47:22
Tom and Bunny
That Friday night. Yep. I think that’s June 7th. I think it’s a Friday night. Okay. We’re going to be at the corral and that’s Spring Grove, Pennsylvania and that’s the corral.com if you want to check that out. then the second week of June were June 15th through the 22nd. We’re going to be back at hedonism. Okay. That’s for Cassidy Cross.

00:24:47:25 – 00:25:07:17
Tom and Bunny
and then when are we in Michigan for, That’s all. Yeah. So that’s why you. Oh, I kept thinking that was to. No, no, no. So all of July, we’re going to be home. I don’t know how that ever worked out, but it will be. Will be nice. now. Yes, if they want to go to Cassidy cross with us in June, are there still.

00:25:07:18 – 00:25:32:23
Tom and Bunny
No. We’re sold out. Oh, my God, they’re sold out. But we do have North Haven, I believe it. It’s the first weekend in August. Yes. And that’s in Brooklyn, Michigan. And that is, it’s I always say North Haven Resort in Brooklyn, Michigan. There is a North Haven something else. I think it’s a golf course or something else.

00:25:32:26 – 00:26:03:18
Tom and Bunny
Don’t mistake it. When you Google type in North Haven, Brooklyn, Michigan and you’ll find it. and that is a clothing optional nudist campground campground, if you want a lot of hard things going on, I don’t know if you can call it a camp. It’s not. It’s an upscale night. It’s totally upscale. Oh, nice. so we’re going to be there, I believe it is the first weekend in August, and that is for their Taste of Hilo weekend.

00:26:03:23 – 00:26:30:27
Tom and Bunny
Okay. So we’ll be representing. Yes. Trips for that will be then the end of August, we actually get our own little vacation and we are going to the Great Smoky jeep invasion. Oh, yeah. And, we’ll be in Pigeon Forge, but it’s Gatlinburg and Pigeon Forge, Tennessee. And last year, 20,000 jeeps signed up. 50,000 showed up. so buddy has our hotel already.

00:26:30:27 – 00:26:57:29
Tom and Bunny
We are ready. I’m ready to roll on that one. Yeah, and then, September 7th, we will be back at the corral in Spring Grove, Pennsylvania. Yeah. For the crowning of their Miss Corral, who will represent them next year at Miss No. Swimsuit. Yep. And then the end of September. We don’t have anything else, right? No. Okay, so the end of September, we’ll be back at hedonism for our sunny buns.

00:26:58:02 – 00:27:22:00
Tom and Bunny
there are rooms for that. We do September 28th to the October 5th. Yeah. September 28th to October 5th. I do have rooms available for study, but. So if you want to go with us to Hinduism in the end of September or early October, and it’s great weather. phone numbers right down right over here. I was set up (800) 285-0853.

00:27:22:03 – 00:27:47:07
Tom and Bunny
go to Tom’s trips.com. You can see all of our group trips. And then we go straight into October 5th through the 12th hour by week. like I said, nine rooms left for that one. Nine rooms. So if you are a biker, people, unfortunately the single rooms are not available because we only sell 20 of them.

00:27:47:09 – 00:28:10:27
Tom and Bunny
other than that, they have to be double occupancy. So it could be a couple, two guys, two girls, but it has to be two people to the room. There are only nine rooms left and they are the cheapest rooms available. Yes. Meaning price wise. And they are Garden View regulars. Yes. They start. They are at 245 a night per person based on double occupancy.

00:28:10:27 – 00:28:35:20
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. So if you want to go to that definitely book it is a crazy week and that’s October 5th through the 12th 2024. Yeah. Because we haven’t released 2025 because we got to get to 2024. Yes. And I think we’re pretty much unoccupied through the rest of the year so far. Yeah, yeah, yeah, man, I couldn’t live the life of a rock star.

00:28:35:22 – 00:28:59:04
Tom and Bunny
you do? I’m not as busy now. And they get paid. They get paid. I mean, we get paid, we get paid. We don’t get paid. Millions and billions. No, we love our jobs. We do love our jobs. Yeah. The the the joke of that is, is people will say to us, oh my gosh, you’re YouTube famous. And Tom’s like, no, famous, no, you’re celebrities, you’re celebrities.

00:28:59:04 – 00:29:23:16
Tom and Bunny
No celebrities make money. Yeah, we’re not celebrities. We’re just YouTube junkies. We just like to have fun on camera. We just like to talk a different kind of fun. Yes, yes. Yeah. All right, so I think that we’re pretty much done with what we did this weekend. Yep. So again, check out parties. Bye bye.com. And they have a Facebook group.

00:29:23:16 – 00:29:46:20
Tom and Bunny
You can only get in it if you go to their parties and you are registered on their actual website. because their website is a social media website. and that’s the only way you can book their events. So definitely check them out and we will let you know when the next five party will be out. But we’re excited to be part of the Vibe Tribe.

00:29:46:22 – 00:29:55:01
Tom and Bunny
Exactly. Good. It’s good to find a home again. Yes. So that being said, I guess we’ll see you guys soon. We’ll see you soon.

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Old Fat Guys with Hot Chicks and the Ms No Swimsuit contest at Hedonism in Jamaica with Tom and Bunny Part 2

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00:00:00:00 – 00:00:26:12
Tom and Bunny
we’re Tom and Bunny from Tom and Bunny dot com. And today we’re talking part two about our recent trip to Hedonism Resort in Jamaica with Tom Strip’s year leader and adult lifestyle travel Got it all that you did that was very good. So this is our week number two. So we were just there. We were literally in Jamaica from February 18th through March.

00:00:26:19 – 00:00:52:13
Tom and Bunny
No March 13th. Yeah. 21 days. I’m way off. Yeah, I think it was February 22nd, 22nd to March 1308. Let me put up the Tom’s trips right there. There we go. Go to that website and call that number to book Tom’s trips. So if you’re listening to this podcast, you might want to jump over to our YouTube channel.

00:00:52:13 – 00:01:15:08
Tom and Bunny
Just search Tom and Bonnie, just as it says right here, no spaces. And you can watch our videos because sometimes we do corny, stupid stuff and we make stupid faces at each other like that. Sometimes all the time. All right. Some of it. Okay. I got Tom so fun. One of the funniest things I’ve heard before is everybody’s like, my God, I don’t realize you.

00:01:15:10 – 00:01:36:10
Tom and Bunny
I think it’s funny when you roll your eyes. And I’m like, I didn’t realize I did it so much. You do? Oops, I do. I just don’t say anything. I let the audience say it. I just seen a meme today and Hold on. my God, you’re killing it because I’m podcast. Not. No, no, no. I got to give you this meme because death.

00:01:36:16 – 00:01:57:24
Tom and Bunny
This is so me. This is so you know, you took a picture. Yeah, that does. Do you ever just forget to hide your expressions for a minute and then you’ll you’re like, Whoa. I didn’t mean to see that face out loud. yeah, that’s me. That’s our boss. That is our boss. That’s why I can’t take phone calls or anything.

00:01:57:27 – 00:02:29:00
Tom and Bunny
Right? So we just finished up the last video. We’re talking about nonsense about pool games. Yeah. So that was four old fat guys with hot chicks. Then come week two is our annual Miss No Swimsuit, which is Tom’s trip’s staple event of the year. It’s our flagship event. It’s bingo. This was our 24th annual. Now, me and Bonnie, I’ve only been with Tom’s trips for six and a half years, and so, no, we don’t own the company.

00:02:29:00 – 00:02:57:25
Tom and Bunny
But this was our 13th trip. What? Tom’s? Yes. We’ve been traveling with them for 12 years, starting here. So. So, no, for us, in one of the things that you’ll find if you haven’t already gone to hedonism or traveled with the group, one of the things that you’ll find is people tend to go back at the same time every year because they’ve met friends or they’ve made connections and they always want to go back at the same time so they can continue to grow those friendships and make make new.

00:02:57:26 – 00:03:23:08
Tom and Bunny
Yes. Case in point, last one of last year’s contestants, she came in third. She just they just recently got married this summer and a big group from the corral went to her wedding or their wedding. And they’ve all become such good friends now they go to the corral a lot. So now they continue to go back and forth between New York and Slovenia.

00:03:23:10 – 00:03:48:23
Tom and Bunny
Yes, I talk with my hands, but I mean, that’s just a vacation point. I keep saying how fly by my face. And yes, I’ve hit him in the face before. I actually have, because I kind of lean forward. Yeah, you can’t do that. I look at my shirts all I try to go, I need my gear. So I need to be able to do that stuff you don’t want.

00:03:48:25 – 00:04:25:22
Tom and Bunny
You can’t have that kind of an impact. No. So anyways, yes. No. So for us, men’s not swimsuit is a fantastic time because we get to see all kinds of friends that we only see once a year now and in the past we just have a lot of staff at Mr. Swimsuit and the last year we didn’t have as much staff, so we all the staff that we had worked our butts off from eight in the morning until midnight, one in the morning every single day.

00:04:25:24 – 00:04:54:11
Tom and Bunny
And when I say work our butts off, it’s just we’re not working solid. But we can’t get drunk. No. And be at another event and be coherent. So it is working this time. We actually had an extra entertainment couple. Yeah. We also had another host couple and that host couple. I mean, the entertainers we had Mark Mays. Yes.

00:04:54:11 – 00:05:17:27
Tom and Bunny
And Terry, his wife. Yes. And then we had Beth and Kyle. I don’t know if I could say their name, but I guess we can. But we did. And it was great because Mark sings, plays guitar. He has a foot drum set, so he is a one man band, but he also has a band in Michigan and he does solo stuff.

00:05:17:27 – 00:05:45:01
Tom and Bunny
There are two Kyle plays saxophone and he sings, my God, he’s a mark and Kyle are both phenomenal singers. And then Beth is just so adorably cute and she’s she helps with me and Barney as a host couple when it’s just the four of us. Now, One of the one of the cool things, though, this year is Tom actually had two other women help him.

00:05:45:04 – 00:06:06:15
Tom and Bunny
We do at this particular event too, because it’s our men’s no swimsuit. We do a lot of photos. Tom is a photographer. No, he’s not a professional. He just knows how to use a camera in automatic mode. No, I know how to do lighting. Yes. I mean, look at our lights here. So what he would do is he had Beth.

00:06:06:21 – 00:06:36:05
Tom and Bunny
Beth and she and Jenny, they were his lighting girls. So previous years, we never wanted to interrupt the show for the people, but we also gained zero promotion out of it. So the photos in the past, I mean, while good, weren’t as good as I thought they could be, because when they’re on the stage, it’s really dark. And dark creates a very grainy photo and it doesn’t look as appealing.

00:06:36:07 – 00:06:58:14
Tom and Bunny
So after some discussions, I was able to have Beth and Jenny whenever our person that we want to take a picture of would come out, we would be front stage. And the second they would come out, they would turn on the LED lights. I would shoot a few pictures. They would turn off the LED lights and we would all walk away.

00:06:58:14 – 00:07:22:06
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, worked out that way. We didn’t block the audio. No. And it worked out absolutely perfect. And we’re going to be posting our no swimsuit icon just give me a couple of weeks and we’ll be posting a lot of the pictures on there because we actually have good pictures this year. I couldn’t I couldn’t do it for Tom because I have an attention span about this big and I’d be holding the light and I’d be like, squirrel.

00:07:22:08 – 00:07:53:26
Tom and Bunny
Yes, she would. She would. But also Bunny gets called away. And I do. Yeah. So we’re always we’re always within sight of each other, but we’re always doing something different at that event. Exactly. So I do the photography and I’m a liaison between Times trips and a lot of the clubs managers are owners, correct? So that way we can hopefully fulfill their needs while we’re at Jamaica.

00:07:53:28 – 00:08:34:03
Tom and Bunny
Right. And hopefully in the next several months we’ll be able to get our needs fulfilled after after surgery again. Well, we’re waiting on that. I, like the doctor said before, there’s no way they can deny it because it’s in my body. But they already did at first denial, which they denied Bunny on an MRI. So the doctor wrote a two page letter on the medical necessity of me having the surgery, and they have 30 days to review and they’re going to wait for every into the 30 days.

00:08:34:03 – 00:09:00:26
Tom and Bunny
So we’re not very hopeful right this second as far as insurance goes. And, you know, I want to reiterate to that because, you know, not only, you know, are we a travel agents within the pineapple world, but we are pineapple people, too. Yes. But we’re not the type that play separately. We only do it together. So therefore, if Tommy’s broken, I’m broken, too.

00:09:00:28 – 00:09:35:16
Tom and Bunny
Right. And so if you’re broken, heart broken. And I mean, I did have to explain that to a friend this last time who approached us, And I’m like, You do understand that we’re broken. And he’s like, You’re Tom is broken, but you’re not. And I’m like, Yeah, yeah. We’ve been married 38 years, been together 39 years. You don’t stay together this long without respecting each other and feeling like when a part of each other, when one is going through something, the other, unfortunately, yes, goes through it, too.

00:09:35:16 – 00:09:56:08
Tom and Bunny
And, you know, everybody’s life is different. Everybody is in the pineapple world differently. This is just how we do it and and what works for us. And I could I could tell buddy, let’s do this. And she’d probably say no. Right, Exactly. Just because she doesn’t feel comfortable. Nope. And if you’re not feeling comfortable, you’re not going to have a good time.

00:09:56:09 – 00:10:19:25
Tom and Bunny
Right. But so that being said, let me tell you, you know, one of the things I keep forgetting to write everything down, but the next time we go, I’m going to write down all the crazy things that you hear while you’re there. Right. But the one the one that I do specifically remember is I had a guest approached me in the pool and he had a cowboy hat on.

00:10:20:02 – 00:10:39:15
Tom and Bunny
Always wore a cowboy hat. And he says to me, Have you ever wrote a a bucking bronco? Like what? And he and I’m like, a rodeo. Rodeo or think, Yeah, or something like that. And I’m like, Why? Why would you even ask me that? And he goes, Well, have you ever rode in a rodeo? And I’m like, No.

00:10:39:21 – 00:11:02:06
Tom and Bunny
And he goes, Would you like to? And I’m like, Why? And he goes, Because I come out of chute one and I go, Well, that’s good, because I don’t like to shoot too. All right, guys, you know where she stands on that. But let me, too. It’s just fun, things like that. You know, the things that make things memorable when you have a good time with.

00:11:02:08 – 00:11:36:15
Tom and Bunny
Right. You know, just because you’re in the pineapple world doesn’t mean that you have to. Well, I there are people that fixate on having to do something with someone else every single night. And you know what? More power to them. We know couples that have been together as long as us that live that way. And we also know couples who didn’t make it past a couple of years because the other didn’t feel that the one loved them as much as the lifestyle.

00:11:36:17 – 00:12:05:13
Tom and Bunny
So we never put our feelings on the back burner. We’re always the forefront. And the pineapple world has changed dramatically since we entered it many, many years ago. I’m just going to leave it at that. But so already, so sorry. 38 years. I know, but so just the fact that it just because you’re there at Hedo doesn’t mean that you’re going to play with everybody or anybody talking about that.

00:12:05:18 – 00:12:28:15
Tom and Bunny
No, I’m just talking about I know, let’s not go negative. I’m just making connections because that’s kind of a negative. Okay. It was Harry’s birthday. It was Harry’s birthday. We’ve seen a lot of naked people. We didn’t. And one of the things we always hear and we’re not going to bring up any stories is bunny hairs all the time.

00:12:28:18 – 00:13:00:18
Tom and Bunny
I know, Harry. Yes. And we always wanted to do a video called I Know Harry because we have a hundreds stories of different scenarios of why they know Harry when they’re talking to Bunny. Bunny actually asked Harry if secret if we could have permission to do that video. And Harry said, absolutely. And then I got to thinking, would that come across as us talk and smack about anyone?

00:13:00:21 – 00:13:24:23
Tom and Bunny
So but, you know, the thing is, Harry, and for those of you that don’t know is Harry is the owner of hedonism, Right. And he is the nicest guy and he’s very, very friendly. So of course, he’s kind of shy, though. He is kind of shy. Yeah, he is kind of shy. He doesn’t mind people approaching him. He doesn’t really approach too many people.

00:13:24:23 – 00:13:54:11
Tom and Bunny
No, but that being said, everybody knows Harry. Every. Yes. Everybody knows Harry. I know Harry. Yeah. Do you know Harry? I know Harry. Yeah. He even got a business card. I did. His business cards are poker chips. I personally have never kissed Harry, but I know Harry, so I know. How are you going to last and binding? I know, Harry, but mine is.

00:13:54:14 – 00:14:20:07
Tom and Bunny
I know Harry goes less than a few other girls. yeah? yeah. Laila. So we just thought that would be kind of fun to do. Maybe when we’re no longer travel agents, no, but know it. But if we did tell stories, it would all be in fun. absolutely. There’s like, a comedian, right? Right. But we’re not funny.

00:14:20:10 – 00:14:44:08
Tom and Bunny
We’re not funny. But no. So, yeah. No, if you go there, Harry is usually he’s there a lot. He bought the place is his own personal private playground. From what I understand, his brother and sister all run the place and he has all the staff and the last person you want to go up to, to give advice on how to run Hedo is Harry.

00:14:44:08 – 00:15:07:09
Tom and Bunny
He doesn’t he go to his people? Let him have a drink in his hand. Actually, he did tell us a funny story that he was wearing his sandals at it. He was at the Teppanyaki. Yeah. And he was eating it. He was wearing a sandals hat and there’s a guest sitting next to him and he was doing all this complaining and and everything about the food.

00:15:07:09 – 00:15:28:19
Tom and Bunny
And then he says to Harry, he goes, Well, how who are you? And he goes, My name is Harry. And he goes in, What do you do? And he goes, I’m the owner of this place. But he didn’t take it offensively. No, he didn’t. He actually took that as real honest, constructive criticism because the guy didn’t know who he was.

00:15:28:21 – 00:15:47:18
Tom and Bunny
He was telling us that they were going to be updating the rooms that caught on fire. Yep. And, yeah, those go down. Those get. There’s the first 20 rooms are going to be not going to take five and a half months. It’s going to take two years. And I said can I put in a request And it’s like you want to request for what?

00:15:47:18 – 00:16:13:20
Tom and Bunny
And I’m like to change the curtains from cream to anything else to anything else. He goes, You don’t like my green curtains? Nope. No, because they were there before you started. Are were they orange? I think they were. But now they’re seventies green. Yeah. Yeah. Avocado. Green. Yeah, definitely. I had cars that were that color green. Right. I don’t want to date myself, but they were muscle cars.

00:16:13:20 – 00:16:36:06
Tom and Bunny
But I mean, you know, in when he’s there you don’t he’s, he’s there to have fun. He’s not there to. Anyone want to talk business? No, no. So we just out with Harry again. Happy birthday. We told. We told you happy birthday while we were there. Happy birthday across our channel. Yeah. And he didn’t even know we did videos, right?

00:16:36:12 – 00:17:01:09
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. So see that everybody knows. Yeah. Because we don’t go running around saying we have a YouTube channel either you either you find us or you don’t. Exactly. And the most important person there didn’t find us. But. But his sister in law watches over. yes, she does. Hi, Diane. Hi, Dr. Richard. Richard. But Richard is Bonnie’s dessert buddy.

00:17:01:12 – 00:17:27:19
Tom and Bunny
Yes. We get to talk about desserts because they have a brand new pastry chef. And it’s amazing. And yes, she is straight up says, be careful, you’ll get fat. I, I would just as soon miss dinner. Yeah. Go to the desserts. Yeah, but. But no, we had an amazing time. And going back to Miss swimsuit since we’re talking about that Harry saw on the top.

00:17:27:19 – 00:17:50:14
Tom and Bunny
Inaki bar is closed, and we heard complaints before we went there that it was warm in there and stuff like that. And the air couldn’t keep up when we were in there, we we were freezing. We got freezing in a bad way, in a very good way that we were expecting it to feel like 90 in there. And it actually felt like 72.

00:17:50:14 – 00:18:21:06
Tom and Bunny
It used to feel like it was outside, honey, it was an outside. It was 120 degrees. So yeah, it was actually a very nice, enjoyable. And they got a big long sushi bar now. Yes. So you can sit up there and order your sushi. You can get a salad up there. So it was very, very nice improvement. Now me and Bonnie are going through dental work and twice I got a front crown.

00:18:21:07 – 00:18:43:16
Tom and Bunny
I wasn’t going to bring it. I’m going to break today because we don’t give two craps, but twice my crown came off. Yeah. Was the first time it was at the tap in the Rocky. And we, I took a bite of shrimp or something and I could feel it dangling and thank God I didn’t swallow it.

00:18:43:17 – 00:19:04:24
Tom and Bunny
No. And then we got that glued on. And then a few days later, it came out, come off again. Again. I got a dentist appointment this Tuesday. We’re going to see what we can do. The crown needs to be replaced anyway, so it’s it’s starting to get a hole in the back from the. I mean, how long have I had this thing.

00:19:04:27 – 00:19:29:22
Tom and Bunny
years. Yeah. But, you know, it’s pretty funny because we do have a dentist that travels with us, so. So we’re sitting at dinner and. And I’m like, I need you in our room now. Our boss is like, What? I’m like, No, no, I need your services. So when we came back, she’s like, You carry dental supplies with you.

00:19:29:25 – 00:19:51:29
Tom and Bunny
She’s like, Well, yeah, of course I would. But we had a little thing that we brought just in case, because I just got a new bridge. Yeah. And I was concerned that the new bridge might have an issue. So we wanted to be prepared. We bought the glue. We didn’t know there was only enough glue on that little bottle to do half of the crown.

00:19:52:02 – 00:20:22:22
Tom and Bunny
It says that it’s good for ten bullcrap. I squeezed every drop out of there. Just so you know, it’s called recap it and it’s actually good to have in your luggage if you have any crowns. Well, yeah, we’re going to do a video on things you definitely should take because we never really thought about crowns falling out except for when I just got the bridge and we never thought about prescription glasses bringing an extra pair.

00:20:22:22 – 00:20:46:14
Tom and Bunny
If you’re going to be there for seven, 12, 14 days, that’s a long time to go without glasses. So we both brought extra glasses and I always carry extra reading to figure out my lens. I always carry extra readers to live up at the desk in case somebody says, I can’t really read that. I’m like, Here, here we go.

00:20:46:16 – 00:21:11:15
Tom and Bunny
So now on no swimsuit. I just went up base a little with the top jockey. Then it went into my crown right? So arm is no swimsuit that we had eight amazing ladies. They all did a great job. They did a fit, and they all worked well together. Ah, and we are very excited to be part of their journey.

00:21:11:18 – 00:21:35:09
Tom and Bunny
yeah. And you know, it was really great because they have to do certain different little contests to win your vote. Because if you travel with us, then you get to vote on who’s going to be the winner. So it for me, the biggest thing is to watch when they first come in how shy they are. They’re like, I don’t even know if I can do this.

00:21:35:12 – 00:21:56:05
Tom and Bunny
And even some of their husbands are like that too, too. At the end of the week, they’ve got this confidence that just amazes right every time. And the one thing that I always look forward to is talent show, because you never know what people are going to pull off. Every one of them was amazing. they did a great job.

00:21:56:05 – 00:22:25:23
Tom and Bunny
So good. Yeah. I, I’ve already edited all the videos. We’re figuring out one because we, we have people signed photo releases and we, we’ve told all the girls in the beginning that if they have anyone up on stage with them are using them as props, they had to make sure they had the Graham wristband and a photo release was signed and one of the contestants invited all the guys up to the stage.

00:22:25:23 – 00:22:47:12
Tom and Bunny
And all I see is faces and I can’t see risk. And and it was later in the week if I just had a black rectangle just covering the heads down. It blocked half of the video and she was on a pole, so it would have blocked half. Yeah. So we’re still trying to figure out I got I’ve never been able to do videos.

00:22:47:12 – 00:23:04:24
Tom and Bunny
We don’t do videos with the other people. So I never learned how to blur faces. So when the face turns away, the floor goes away. But when it goes towards the camera, it automatically blurs it. But I got to do that with 20 dudes. I got to figure out how to do that and not blur her face. Right?

00:23:04:25 – 00:23:28:08
Tom and Bunny
So it’s just something that might take me a little longer. Yeah, something you definitely have to research and learn. Or maybe I know somebody that can take that video and do it for them, so we’ll figure it out. But we do plan on uploading all those videos to our YouTube so that way you can look at each of the contestants videos, maybe minus one.

00:23:28:11 – 00:23:53:21
Tom and Bunny
We’ll see. We’ll see. But we had dancing, we had singing, we had group dancing. Yeah. So we say. And then we had one too, where she she draws and makes custom hats. Yeah. Her husband came out and gave the winner of the best dressed one of her hats that she had already on. Yeah. So it was really, really.

00:23:53:26 – 00:24:22:29
Tom and Bunny
It’s very cool. I was just to see. Right. Yes, that was Tiffany. So it’s very cool along the border and you’re out of Tulsa, Oklahoma. And the one that I kind of it didn’t shock me, but I was really impressed by the way that she did. It was Kelly from Sapphire. Everybody does. I touched myself. Well, not everybody, but when they do it, they want to do it real sexy and everything like that.

00:24:22:29 – 00:24:46:19
Tom and Bunny
She had fun with the song, right? And she made me appreciate the song We could. She was having fun with it, and it turned out really, really good. Yeah, I think she’s. Q She’s very you know, they’re all I like her look. yeah, Yeah. That. You like the girl next door? I do like the girl next. And, you know, we were I was taking pictures and there was a girl from Vibe.

00:24:46:20 – 00:25:10:04
Tom and Bunny
Vibe is a hotel party out of Nashville, Tennessee, and we’re now part of the Vibe Tribe. We are well, part of the Vibe Tribe because now we live here. And Megan, she was just an adorably cute girl, but she knew how to take cute pictures. And so we’re going to be putting those on our social media real soon.

00:25:10:04 – 00:25:34:22
Tom and Bunny
I’m still going through all the pictures right now that all the girls took great pictures, but Megan probably stood out as most outward outgoing as far as doing the poses. So, yeah, it’s almost like I would have thought she had a Tik-Tok page or an Instagram page. She was the only one that you pulled out the camera and she knew what to do.

00:25:34:23 – 00:26:03:24
Tom and Bunny
She knew what to do. Yeah. And then Lacy from Paradise Lakes Resort out of Tampa, Florida, just elegant, beautiful girl. And she took some amazing pictures. But as she was watching Megan, she started coming out of her shell and doing cute hats. And when I say cute, I don’t mean childish. I mean just just really cool pictures. Having fun with the camera, right?

00:26:03:24 – 00:26:26:24
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. Not making love to the camera, but. Yeah, exactly. Because you know what we’re using. You use these as marketing and you want you want it to show that we’re having fun and all the girls get copies of all these pictures so that way they could show all their friends and everything. So we want to give them the best possible photo that we can.

00:26:26:29 – 00:26:54:02
Tom and Bunny
I know everyone has their camera phones and they were posting, but hopefully some of mine with my lighting might be something that they want to share. Yeah. Now we went to that Glow party on Tuesday. We we went to take pictures of our contestants and put the camera away. We were there for an hour and a half taking pictures of our contestants, guest friends, all kinds of people.

00:26:54:05 – 00:27:15:28
Tom and Bunny
But they had a backdrop we use and that was one of the ones that I was so squirrel with because I kept trying to find people and then I’d walk away. Don’t say a word. My like, well, I like going because I didn’t have it on my camera because like, the lights I was using didn’t have the hot shoe for the camera.

00:27:16:01 – 00:27:36:23
Tom and Bunny
So I had a handle that you could hold it with. And I had two tripods. And here’s Bunny walking away with the light right? But no, it’s just such an amazing time. And we didn’t go on the catamaran. We stayed back and got some work done. And then we went on a pub crawl. Not on all. We got canceled.

00:27:36:29 – 00:28:01:24
Tom and Bunny
Got canceled because we got it canceled for any nefarious reason. We just only had three people signed up and it’s a lot of expense. So we had a Thursday pub crawl, so the Tuesday one got canceled and we asked anyone that was going on Tuesday to just move over to Thursday. And so but everyone wants to go on the catamaran.

00:28:01:27 – 00:28:32:08
Tom and Bunny
the play this catamarans hedonism was dead, but it was nice for us. Well, while the catamarans were out, it was like quiet, but it gave us time because we had Mark in for the contestants and all of their group on one. And then we had Kyle in for contestants and all of their groups. Yes, on the other and then any other guests that didn’t come with one of the groups, they could pick what boat they wanted.

00:28:32:08 – 00:28:55:12
Tom and Bunny
You know, forget what cream was, a flying remotes. That’s a flying. And boy, let me tell you, I don’t think any and I don’t think anybody remember sunblock. No, they came back with red. Came back so red. But yeah, if you have a food fetish that was the the boats to be on because they were eating whipped cream off of everything.

00:28:55:12 – 00:29:29:17
Tom and Bunny
Everything, everything. It’s not even lifted off the pole probably, but from what everybody was telling me, it was the best catamaran they’d ever been on. Well, I don’t doubt it. Yeah. Eight contestants, beautiful contestants. And for on each boat and everyone’s a judge. And those contestants are vying for those votes from those people. And I know Beth told me that she went around and grabbed gathered all of the girls and put them on the front of the boat so they could all dance.

00:29:29:17 – 00:30:01:28
Tom and Bunny
And then everybody else joined them. Yes. So, yeah, it’s it was a really good time. But like I said, we we stayed behind, got some work done, and then we got to check out one of our newer deejays that. yeah, came on. Yeah. He deejay Bad Boy. What is it? What’s his name? Scott. Scott. Yeah, he he actually contacted us and wanted to try out or wanted to see if we’d be interested in deejay.

00:30:01:28 – 00:30:26:05
Tom and Bunny
And I said, Well, our bosses are going to be at this event in October, and you’re welcome to come. But if you email them, we get emails from 30 deejays a year or more. And while they might be great, we don’t we don’t know just based off of email. So I said, why don’t you come talk to them in person?

00:30:26:05 – 00:30:47:27
Tom and Bunny
Maybe they’ll put you up for whatever reason. He didn’t deejay in October. No, no. So he came back out for no swimsuit and they actually put him in a new poll from 2 to 4, which is the prime time. And he did a great job. He did do a great job. Now let’s go back. Old fat guys brought their own entertainer.

00:30:48:02 – 00:31:13:00
Tom and Bunny
my gosh. Professor Woo, He was he’s fun. He’s a qualified investor. So he’s well-spoken, articulate. He sings karaoke. And when I heard him sing a couple of years ago, I was really taken aback. This guy’s good. So he’s deejaying the pool parties, he’s helping with the pool games. He had never done this before. This a first time.

00:31:13:05 – 00:31:33:19
Tom and Bunny
He had seen it but never done it. He’s singing in the DJ booth, so people are actually thinking it’s music. Then he comes out on the pool deck singing, and he did a great job playing music. And he did Flashdance and he did Flashdance where they dumped the bucket of water on him while he is on a chair.

00:31:33:22 – 00:32:00:07
Tom and Bunny
And he’s not a small guy, so he is part of the old fat guys. But yeah, no, everybody did. Amazing. Yes. And Scott will be back with this, I believe. I can’t remember when he’s coming back. I think he’s actually going going to be there for Thanksgiving. Wow. Nice. So you got a job? Yeah, because we don’t actually hire I mean, we can refer and we can recommend, but we don’t actually do the hiring.

00:32:00:09 – 00:32:35:00
Tom and Bunny
So we’re just employees that we are. But other than that, well, Party is one of Buddy’s favorites. But again, no swimsuit. we set up a 360 photo booth, but it was raining. Yeah. And we impromptu we had a party down at the parade. Paul and Mark was playing video music, so we set the 360 photo booth and we did like 26 or 27 videos because no one really knew what was down there.

00:32:35:00 – 00:32:56:23
Tom and Bunny
We just at the very last minute, within like 30 minutes before we said we can do it here. You know, I think had we been able to set up for it during Glo party, we would have beat our record on how many people we’ve done videos of. But the fact that it’s 51 hour, we only set it up for one hour.

00:32:56:26 – 00:33:23:26
Tom and Bunny
But the fact is, is it had poured and poured and the crowd was we were afraid people would get up and slip on that. Yeah, it’s not a very big platform really. And the reason why we only do it for one hour is because hedonism is all inclusive. Not only do you get all the food at all the restaurants and the grills, it’s all inclusive with alcohol and people are enjoying the stage show.

00:33:23:26 – 00:33:46:19
Tom and Bunny
And we do the booth from 10 to 11 because after the stage show ends, people start hitting that bar and we realized drunk people why we want to cater to everyone. There are limits to how much you can do, how much I can take when someone I got online, a piece you can take, Well, we’ve got a line of people.

00:33:46:19 – 00:34:04:24
Tom and Bunny
And in a when people have been drinking, they’re not kind of not at their level. Very true. So, I mean, it’s not an upset thing. It’s just that we want to make sure everyone’s safe and we want to make sure our work is safe. So we tear it down. And then that way, me and Bonnie can enjoy the party.

00:34:04:28 – 00:34:39:19
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, cause that it said, that’s my favorite, right? And so, no, it’s definitely a lot of fun. We have fun taking videos, but eventually when my back starts feeling better, I’ll be the fool out there dancing. When they play Sandstorm by Druid anything techno because that’s all I can dance to because I don’t have any rhythm. Now, the one thing was I got to relax in the morning because Bonnie had to go to rehearsals every morning at 930 now ten, 930 the first day.

00:34:39:21 – 00:35:01:27
Tom and Bunny
So I got to just chill in the air conditioned room and yes, and our air conditioning actually worked this time. Yeah, it was cold. And what they do is they’ll do a final video of the performance and then they send me the video and I put it up on YouTube, but it’s not open to the public and I share it to just the girls so they can keep watching it.

00:35:01:27 – 00:35:23:27
Tom and Bunny
So that and I’ll tell you what, this year, because we did that and those videos were viewed quite a bit. Yeah, the performance this year was really good. Yeah. Yeah. What are you talking about? They had it down day one, right? But I watched all the views on YouTube, so they were watching it during the week. All week long.

00:35:23:27 – 00:36:05:06
Tom and Bunny
Because you could tell. Right, right. Cause day number two, let’s see here. The first rehearsal was on Monday, right? Then they do the catamaran. They came back on Wednesday. Winston was late coming to rehearsal, so we started without them. They already had it all down. Good. Completely down. So, yeah, the girls on no swimsuit do a rehearsal every day because on Friday night, even though all the votes have been cast and everything and we’re going to announce a winner by what, 830 and 8:00, they start the stage show.

00:36:05:06 – 00:36:33:29
Tom and Bunny
And that’s where we got multiple people going up and entertaining the audience and talking about that week and the past and the future and everything. And then the girls come out and do that stage show and then we then they come out and they do the question, Yeah, they come out, do a nude question, and then they all line up.

00:36:33:29 – 00:37:03:25
Tom and Bunny
I, I wanted to get a picture of all of them in the gowns so that way I could post it because it didn’t work out that way. So when they’re all nude, if I post it, blur out, somebody is going to complain. It’s still going to get hit and we still get I get a little thing. Yeah, I try not to do that, but we can post our on no swimsuit dot com and it will be Yeah that will be yeah.

00:37:03:25 – 00:37:30:01
Tom and Bunny
Because you know what we are actually redesigning our website too so everything is going to be new and fresh out there pretty soon. Yep. And lots of links to see. Can I go back and reset. No. So that we don’t trace nothing. We’re unscripted. Yes. Start to finish what we started. UPS 38 minutes. Sorry. No one’s going to walk it that far.

00:37:30:04 – 00:37:52:26
Tom and Bunny
If you watch it that far. Flub in common. There you go. There you go, buddy. Flubbed up. what do I always do? Flub up, Flub up. So what else, if anything? No, no. It’s just, you know, if you guys want to book with this, if you want to have a lots and lots of fun, give us a call.

00:37:52:26 – 00:38:16:20
Tom and Bunny
I can. The phone number. Right. I got to figure it out right there. you got to see her. we got to go sit on that. it’s it’s bad. It’s backwards. Okay? That’s why I’m always doing it wrong. But call us 800 2850853 and check it out. You can even. it knocked out that one. Yes.

00:38:16:24 – 00:38:37:11
Tom and Bunny
If you’re watching, if you’re on podcast sorry there is a screen up of mine and Bonnie’s cartoon character with Tom strips 800 to 8 50853. You can book your travel directly with but yes. Then just a reminder that hedonism is no longer a place that you can just book at the spur of the moment. you’re going to book.

00:38:37:12 – 00:39:02:26
Tom and Bunny
I was talking to Harry about it. It’s it’s gone crazy. Four or five months out, it’s sold out. I mean, we’re sitting here right now, March 17th. We have a trip, June 15th through the 22nd. Sorry, We had a friend contact us yesterday. We had rooms where he had a room and he gave it up Well, but then he called before we left and he said he may go.

00:39:02:26 – 00:39:29:06
Tom and Bunny
He had to wait to figure out financial because it rooms were to him for at that time. And he goes, can we keep an eye out in the room? Well, there’s no keeping an eye out cause when you want it and because we can’t hold nothing. No. And he reached out to us yesterday and unfortunately. But when he first reached out to us, there were six rooms available, both and the cheapest category.

00:39:29:09 – 00:39:50:18
Tom and Bunny
And but I get it. He wanted to make sure he could pay for rent and his waiting for bonus, but also to the other thing is is like for our week in October I already have a list of waiting waiting list. So yeah, just because an event is up by a week, that is by week. Yeah, that’s. That’s for our single rooms.

00:39:50:18 – 00:40:15:28
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. Singles. They only allow 20 single mothers, female or male, right. Yes. I just want to clarify, but it’s more the traveling. It’s only 20 singles. But we do have at this very moment out of 280 some rooms. 20 rooms left. Yes. And they’re in cheaper categories. They are. Because the what’s the ocean view and the premiums and the Jacuzzi.

00:40:16:01 – 00:40:38:28
Tom and Bunny
But if you want a premium or Jacuzzi, you have to book what we have available in the cheapest category because there is now a waiting list for a premium room and people do cancel. So but in order to get the premium room, the people who booked and showed loyalty on that booking early will get the same awards. Definitely.

00:40:38:28 – 00:40:59:00
Tom and Bunny
If you want to go to bye week October 5th through the 12th, you better be calling us this week because you just booked another one today. No, I’ve got three I have to put in. my God. So they’re going like wildfire. Like I said, this is March 17th and we’re going we figure that these rooms are going to be gone by the 1st of April.

00:40:59:01 – 00:41:23:01
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. And the next. And then everybody will go on a waiting list. And then we’re going to get all the pissed off cancellations. So, yeah, if you want to go bye week, October 5th to the 12th, you got to call Bunny 800 to 8 50853 and you got up, got to make a commitment to reserve your room because if you delay the next day there may not be.

00:41:23:04 – 00:41:48:01
Tom and Bunny
Yeah. No. And you know what we got some really great ones coming up in September. Tom and I will be there for our sentebale on September 28 through October 5th. Those ones, we do have rooms available, not very many, but that one, that one obviously will sell out real quick too. But but definitely, if you want to go with us, that’s going to be the next time we have availability that we’re going.

00:41:48:01 – 00:42:03:29
Tom and Bunny
Yeah, because we’re going on April eight from eight and in September and April and June are both already sold out. Yeah. So yes, rooms go very, very fast. And if, you know, years ago you used to be able to call and say, Hey, I want to go to Hilo next month. sure. Well, we’ll get you. No, no.

00:42:04:01 – 00:42:44:14
Tom and Bunny
Right. Unfortunately, I mean, it’s good for us. It’s good for Hedo, but it’s not good for you guys. Yeah, but yeah, all right. So this was part two of two. Yes, we did. Stay Royalton for four days. Next video We’ll we’ll just we’ll talk about our stay there. I overdosed myself on sugar I’m I’m diabetic I got to meet her there and they they served a pineapple drink that it felt like you’re eating a frickin pineapple.

00:42:44:17 – 00:43:10:02
Tom and Bunny
And I couldn’t stop drinking them. No, I didn’t even get heartburn. I was just such a sucker, and I didn’t even think he was like, I’m not drunk. I honestly wasn’t drunk, but he just like, yeah, yeah, we’ll talk about that. Yeah, diabetic and pineapple drinking, pineapple juice. Don’t what not to do. Right at an all inclusive resort in Jamaica.

00:43:10:02 – 00:43:32:27
Tom and Bunny
In Jamaica. All right, so we’re going to cut this. And just so you know, all of our videos are on podcast except for our little short promotional videos and all of our podcast are on YouTube. So you can listen to it in your car, you can watch it, whatever you want to do. We do appreciate the comments, the feedback, not the negative ones.

00:43:32:27 – 00:43:58:19
Tom and Bunny
We delete and block those, so don’t even waste your time. No, it might be up for a few hours, could be up for a week or two, but you will be dealt with like deleted block And we’re just trying to have fun and we’re trying to make things easier on you, too. Yes. So until next time, if you have any questions or want us to talk about something, definitely make a comment.

00:43:58:19 – 00:44:10:24
Tom and Bunny
We do read the comments we. Well, you do. I do. I do before and I tell buddy the good ones. Yeah. So anyway, until next time. We’ll see you soon. We’ll see you soon.

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